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A Mother’s Worse Nightmare___Mindset

I am here and I am not alone. TM’s life has been devalued and so many of our young we have lost to GUN VIOLENCE. Look around at the LIVES that are devalued on a regular basis leading up to our COMMANDER-and-CHIEF who ROCKS the CHAIR. MR. EXECUTIVE FUNCTION himself holding his breath and reveal to the nation the shoes he has worn has been drenched in muddy waters. The stage has been set, the curtains go up, and the theme is a broken heart. The PRESIDENT will help decrease the flow of the hurt and pain by having the conversation that RACE will be the topic of THE WHOLE WORLD IS A STAGE and everybody plays a part. This conversation must continue in our homes, schools, churches, media, and social media. It is TIME to FLIP the CHART OVER.

The judge took a zero-tolerance stance by not letting race come into the courtroom. Unable to be black although you are black and RACE is so obvious. It is the position that is taken on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART when a child/adult acts out due to his disability in a zero-tolerance zone. It will not be tolerated. You are unable to be disabled in a zero-tolerance zone. Yet you cannot stop being disabled nor change the color of your skin. It is obvious. What The Hah Hell!

Sabrina Fulton, Trayvon Martin’s mother, said they never viewed her son as a child. It was very obvious and the external view. We will now move to the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART in the internal view. TRAYVON was a healthy outgoing young man. He did not get the opportunity to fulfill his dreams. I could see TRAYVON being a peer buddy for a child who is disabled. Children with developmental delays or pervasive developmental delays and other exceptionalities need the guidance of peer buddies to keep them from being isolated and to show them how to develop friendships and relationships. Whatever picture the DEFENSE painted of TRAYVON MARTIN he was a good friend to RACHEL JENTEL and he loved his family.

Children who are disabled become adults. They do not grow out of their disabilities. Working with the behaviors will help diminish the behavioral outbreaks. Helping a child to understand he is not a misfit. Children with disabilities play an important role in our society also. Children who are disabled will fall short in the areas of maturity and in the social domain. A 27-year-old male can have the mindset of a 17-year-old child. By his mindset, he is a child. He will be judged by his age and the external view of his appearance and charge accordingly. Even if this child is big for his age he will be viewed as the bully and never as a giant TEDDY BEAR. So if they COULD NOT see TRAYVON MARTIN as a child, a great battle has been a loss for the DISABILITY COMMUNITY. This is why more and more children/adults who are disabled end up in prison and on death row. It has now become obvious. We will call it the BBD SYNDROME.

On the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART, BBD SYNDROME consists of you being BLACK, BEHAVIORAL, and DISABLE. On the so-called normal side of the chart, you are BLACK with boo-coo behaviors and your BLACKNESS has locked you into a category as being violent, aggressive, and dangerous. Even with a DISABILITY, you are viewed the same way. The preponderance of evidence was collected to make the innocent look guilty. Your BLACKNESS disables your civil rights, human rights, and your right to stand your ground. The way you walk, talk, dress, posture, the tone of voice, and the way you respond puts you right at the front door of the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART. We cannot ask TRAYVON MARTIN. We can ask RACHEL JENTEL how she felt when she was judged by her attitude and speech. Only on the FLIP SIDE of the CHART, you get a fancy name but there is more than meets the eye. Yes, it is a true DECEPTICON.

The DEFENSE decided to “CREATE AN ATMOSPHERE OF FEAR” around TM. What was the DEFENSE instructions? MARK O’MARA instructed the jurors to not use common sense. Mark O’MARA wanted to diminish EMOTIONS and put the jurors on a merry-go-round of being unable to put themselves in the shoes of TRAYVON MARTIN. The jurors rallied to the aid of GEORGE ZIMMERMAN. O’MARA and DON WEST put a bullet through the hearts of the jurors to alleviate COMPASSION, EMPATHY or SUPPORT to render a verdict of NOT GUILTY. The DEFENSE job was to strip away humaneness. Isn’t that amazing an attorney can walk right in and have you pulled the plug on your SENSE OF NORMAL and rid you of your COMMON SENSE___MOTHER’S WIT? That is very disabling.

On the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART, these very characteristics qualify an individual as having a SOCIAL INCOMPETENCY DISORDER. Did JUROR B-37 choose William Syndrome (WS), Autism, High Function Autism (HFA), Pervasive Developmental Delays (PDD), Hyperlexia, Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), Nonverbal Learning Disability (NLD)? That is right! I guess the jurors deserved a break today. I wonder what disability did they attempt to play. INTENTIONALLY! They got the opportunity to choose from another CHART. JUROR B-37 had some MIND BOGGLING brain farts. WOW, JAY CARNIE! TRAYVON MARTIN took a bullet straight through his heart. TM’s death has had the opposite effect because our nation is smart. People around the nation use their common sense and humanness to know this VERDICT___Thwarted.

You are taken out of your comfort zone and put into ISOLATION. The court takes away all your zoo-zoo’s and wam-wam (sensory items that keep an individual from going the hell ballistic). This includes TV, radio, your IPAD, computer, no social media. The DEFENSE march in and tells you to look at the evidence, and scrap the emotional. BETCHA BY GOLLY WOW! The court system has disabled their jury, pushed them over the edge, and has validated behavior that is unacceptable and rejected by our society. On a regular NEUROLOGICAL UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORAL day, a child who is BORN with challenges and pervasive developmental delays can be murdered because of the GEORGE ZIMMERMAN of the world. That’s right, DOA. The DEFENSE instructed the jurors to look the other way, don’t care, not to question what no parent on this earth wish on their child/adult who is legitimately disabled. Their child can take a bullet through the heart because GZ, the police did not understand the behavior and made an ASSUMPTION. So it comes down to a triple whammy for a black male, being disabled, BLACK and UNDER ATTACK. Ain’t that some SH…

It was never brought out in the case that TM had any type of disability. GZ decided to define TM’s behavior yet GZ claimed he had a disability. TM’s behavior was always on trial from his FACEBOOK, school records and GZ challenging TM’s demeanor. What gave GZ the right to zero in on TM’s behavior when his behavior wasn’t challenged by the people in his family, nor his environment, nor the DEFENSE, nor the Police? Are you ready to FLIP this baby over?

MARK OMARA stood in the courtroom and told the BIGGEST LIE I ever heard in my LIFE. He said questions lead to DOUBT. If the following individuals on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART or the opposite end of the spectrum don’t ask questions, they can be raped, tortured, victimized, and killed. It doesn’t stop there it can go either way. When you don’t ask questions, Straight-up in the medical world it can lead to DEATH either way. GEORGE ZIMMERMAN ask the question, “What are you doing here?” TRAYVON MARTIN asked the question, “Who are you?” Always ask the question. Continue to look for answers. Continue to learn. Asking questions is a learning mode and gathering the facts for many people at both ends of the spectrum. Do you want to know? Are you looking for the TRUTH/FACTS/REALITY?

What would happen to a person with the following characteristics?

The INDIVIDUAL displays the following:

1.) labeled annoying, or getting on your nerves, trying to get your attention.

2.) say the wrong thing (social blunder)

3.) has no clue he has pissed you off by what was said because he cannot read
your facial expression

4.) cannot decipher that they are in danger because they cannot read the body
posture

5.) doesn’t realize the tone of his voice is loud and give very sharp responses

6.) very literal, all black and white and no grey areas, cannot read the hidden
meaning of language and social interactions aren’t detected

7.) regarded as a smart alec, rude and discourteous

8.) whatever a person says he takes you at you word

9.) constantly misjudge socially and misrepresented

10.) trust people to do what is right, and doesn’t understand a person who is
cunning and manipulate others.

11.) does not alter expression of speech

People who are diagnosed with NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disability) ask lots of question. They are not trying to annoy or frustrate anyone.
My son and many children/adults who are DISABLED would be dead at the hands of GEORGE ZIMMERMAN. I really don’t like the word DISABLED. If you overdo, not do enough or not do at all this can classify you as disabled. Look at the behaviors of CONGRESS, SUPREME COURT JUDGES, JUDGES, ATTORNEYS, SENATORS, WALLSTREET, CELEBRITIES, SPORTS ATHLETES, BANKS, you name it. The people have seen what they have done for our nation. What category would you place them in? This list can go on and on. Have they stopped their behavior?

FLIP THE CHART over and whose behavior looks the worst on an INTENTIONAL DAY. Do AMERICANS take the GEORGE ZIMMERMAN POSITION and say, The F..cking Punks, they always get away with it. So do we go out and kill our highest ranking officials for the INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS they have displayed? I guess it is okay for them to keep their jobs, do nothing to help move our nation forward, kill our blacks young men, make no attempt to pass gun laws, and destroy the President because he represents what whites fear the most. CHANGE and INTELLIGENCE! What the President is packing a DRONE! Get out of here.

People with disabilities are not out being disabled. They are out living their lives and living with what they are born with. They are being the best that they can be. It is all UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORAL. What happens when the police stop your child/adult and say you need to look at me? It is not going to happen if a person is nld, Asperger, autism, and other exceptionalities. What happens when the police say you need to stop rocking from side to side, stop making grimaces (facial expression composed of pain, disgust or disapproval), and stop making that funny noise with your mouth? You think this officer knows anything about tics. No, this is the response. You on drugs BOY? You raise your voice at me BOY? You trying to be a SMART A.. BOY? When I talk to you look at me BOY? Don’t play with me BOY can’t you see you are pissing me off. Well, the person who is disabled cannot understand your facial expression are an anyone else facial expression. It gets worse.

Your child/adult is stopped in the mall. They have an item in their pockets. The officer was informed by a sales clerk the item may have been stolen from the store. The sales clerk tells the officer black kids to come into the store and steal ALL the TIME. As the officer looks closer they realize the item is old and has been chewed on. What happens next? The officer looks at his partner and says, “Well what do we have here, a chewed up bear?” He looks at his partner and they begin to toss the bear back and forth. “Aren’t you kind of old to be carrying a baby doll?” Laughing out of control the officer says, “Still wetting your pants BOY?” You really think these officers understand anything about a person who is disabled carrying sensory items around to help them remain calm. Hell No! It is always about HUMILIATION, INTIMIDATION, and TRIGGERING the person behavior for a beat down, incarceration, or death. Flip the Chart over and you get the same results.

Talks! Conversations! You stop living in FEAR and you LIVE with the REALITY. This conversation was started some years ago with KU UNIVERSITY MEDICAL CENTER doctors in psychiatry. I will emphasize just because you reach out to a psychiatrist it doesn’t mean you are crazy. It means you are looking for more solutions and answer your question. It means you find no shame in your game in asking for help. It means you are reaching out taking steps to get closer to your goal of understanding yourself and healing. It means you will one day be better equipped to understand others. To hell with MARK OMARA DOUBT! It hit its height on July 22, 2013. The Conversations will continue. It is AB-SO-LUTE-LY mandatory we keep opening doors. Keep the CONVERSATIONS and the TALKS GOING. Never stop asking the QUESTIONS and continue to look for ANSWERS. Always be thirsty to LEARN and UNDERSTAND. It will move this nation FORWARD.

MARK OMARA gave the JURORS 4 minutes to reflect. TRAYVON MARTIN’s parents have the rest of their lives to reflect upon a VERDICT of NOT GUILTY. To the parents of TRAYVON MARTIN, I never understood why my trials and tribulations kept leading me to the path of deaths doorway when I thought I would be advocating for the LIFE of my son and many others. FLIP THE CHART OVER and it has been the DEATH of your son and all of the children, young adults, and adults who have been lost to GUN VIOLENCE that has held the highest PITCH of ADVOCATING from the mountaintop. It is TIME to turn those trials and tribulations to a TRIBUTE to the parents of a young man who had many hopes and dreams. TRAYVON is my son and my son could be TRAYVON.

I will continue on with AN NLD MOTHER’S PRAYER:

Before I lay my head to rest.
I pray to GOD I have done my best.
When death comes for my tattered soul.
I pray to GOD my children has grown old.

In these hours of hurt and pain.
A Verdict was received with absolute disdain.
No matter what the DEFENSE claimed.
The stench of RACISM will remain.

A young life was stolen in the dark.
Hatred was the bullets mark.
Anger and frustration fused the spark.
Retaliation we shall not embark.

Let us come away in peace.
We will honor and respect the deceased.
Yes, a murderer was released.
Our hearts are bleeding and the gun violence needs to cease.

IT IS TIME TO STAND OUR GROUND!

Dedicated to the following: Attorneys

DARNELL PARKS
LISA BLOOM
BENJAMIN CRUMP
PAUL HENDERSON
BILLY MARTIN
SEEMA IYER
ZACHARY CARTER
BRYAN STEVENSON

Dedicated to the following:

CHRIS HAYES. B
MICHAEL ERIC DYSON
JOY-ANN REID
MICHELLE ALEXANDER
LETITIA JAMES
BEN JEALOUS
ELIZAH CUMMINGS
JAY CARNIE

The following story was published on July 26th which correlates with the DATE on TWITTER, not the 24th.

Truth Be Told__NLD Eye Opener

I’m loving every minute of it. I went in search of the TRUTH about NLD SYNDROME and look-a-here! Look-a-here! You think I’m mad. I’m excited because this long journey put the TRUTH OUT THERE. There are TIMES in our lives when we go searching for the TRUTH and we don’t like what we find.

Some people love being LIED to. The TRUTH brings QUALITY to one’s LIFE if you are willing to accept the TRUTH. SO BRING IT! People who are diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME struggle with LIFE SKILLS and SOCIAL SKILLS. It is hard for them to read between the lines.

Why do you feel the need to hide? Why should you have to read between the lines? If you have to read between the lines all the TIME get ready to find LIES under the carpet. If someone tells you they were being DISCREET you only had half the information they provided.

How CAREFUL was MR. KIT GLOVES? Was the individual so GUARDED they forgot to tell you the TRUTH? I’m sorry you may just be stuck with half the TRUTH or NO TRUTH at all.

TRUTH BE TOLD if you POINT IT OUT, EXPLAIN IT, and GIVE people with NLD SYNDROME or anyone else for what it matters THE FACTS they would not take you down to ground zero. NLDERS appear rude because what they say is RAW, unexpected, and bears the TRUTH through no fault of their own.

NLDERS are born with an UNINTENTIONAL NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER. So be ready to get your face cracked, feelings crushed, and totally butt lashed and thrashed. NLDERS have no filter. NLDERS have plenty of questions. I hope you have an answer. Thank you, GOD, for the COMPUTER.

This is how they learn. Their program is heard it, say it, speak it, and they say it out loud. NLDERS need lots of information because they are not hanging out with CHRISTOPHER COLUMBUS.

So if you are standing close by you will get an earful of what they really think about you. Whereas the mainstream or the so-called normal folks process internally and would love to tell you what NLDERS process outside of their brain-box.

There is just too much TRUTH going on with NLDERS and too much attention to detail. NLDERS do not paraphrase to soften the blow. If you are a LIAR you should be called out as a LIAR. People want you to paraphrase the statement to keep from hurting a person feeling.

People don’t like their authority being challenged nor do they like being questioned. People just don’t have the TIME to explain or try to give an answer for something or to someone they may not have an answer to. People get pissed off if they think you are analyzing them.

Absolutely, the TRUTH is hard-core. Well, you shouldn’t LIE. MITT ROMNEY, the WORLD’S BIGGEST LIAR can run for PRESIDENT. Yes, and MITT ROMNEY is a HABITUAL BALD FACE LIAR (translation; being emotionless, showing no remorse, and constantly giving false statements).

Did you like MITT ROMNEY’S laugh? Did you like his selective memory? MITT ROMNEY stated,”CORPORATIONS ARE PEOPLE.” EXCUSE ME! The other word for LIAR in the CORPORATE WORLD IS LOOPHOLE.

CORPORATIONS are not PEOPLE but created under the laws of STATE WEASELS. CORPORATIONS, separate legal entity, receives special privileges and liabilities distinct from their members.

CORPORATIONS find a slit, crack, or gap to evade an issue, not choose a position, are vague, and avoid the laws in order to retain or reap the benefits of the profit. CORPORATIONS want their cake, ice cream, and the whole party. Sounds like MITT ROMNEY tax evasion

Did we discover MITT ROMNEY is NOT A PERSON but a CORPORATION? I think MITT ROMNEY was trying to tell us he was not a person before the BULLYING incident was revealed. Hey! He tried to tell us.

I pack my bags and went up the street to CONGRESS BLVD. I was looking at all those so-called INTELLIGENT PEOPLE with massive RADICAL INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS. On CONGRESS BLVD. everyone on this street was processing their thoughts out loud.

The different on CONGRESS BLVD from NLD AVENUE is on CONGRESS BLVD they didn’t care what they said, who they said it to, and how they said it. The people on CONGRESS BLVD. made it perfectly clear to me and the WORLD they could LIE their A.. off because they had MONEY. WOW!

CONGRESS BLVD behavior was INTENTIONAL and of course, people who are diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME cannot help what they are born with and have no control over what they say. People on CONGRESS BLVD are EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED.

Try to tell someone who SARAH PALIN ain’t COO COO for COCOA PUFFS. NEWT GINGRICH, RICK SANTORUM, RICK PERRY, MICHELE BACHMAN, and HERMAN CAIN are ROCKIN the DIAGNOSTIC STATISTICAL MANUAL OF MENTAL DISORDER(DSM4).

Since they have left the DEBATE stage the world is waiting for the result and classification of their diagnosis.

TRUTH BE TOLD, money just delays consequences for those who are the 1%. RUPERT MURDOCH is finding that out because right about NOW the British do not think RUPERT MURDOCH is fit to run another company. MITT ROMNEY, TRUTH BE TOLD, cannot tell the TRUTH and has selective memory.

Okay, you say 50 years is a long TIME to rehash what ROMNEY did. He never got discipline, out of school suspension, and he continued on with his behaviors. He was unable to change due to lack of guidance. He enjoyed what he did because he wasn’t worried about the consequences.

Is it okay for our children to pay the highest consequences because of lack of money? Will their school-record ever be expunged? Is it fair to be rewarded even after 50 years? The hurt and pain MITT ROMNEY caused people is not a laughable matter.

We are in the age of YOUTUBE MOMENTS and CAUGHT ON TAPE. MEDIA truly MATTERS and MITT ROMNEY behavior has manifested itself before the Whole WORLD’S EYES. Do our SOCIETY REWARD a certain CLASS of PEOPLE’S BEHAVIOR because of MONEY? Do OUR SOCIETY REWARD WEAKNESS over STRENGTH?

DO OUR SOCIETY REWARD IGNORANCE over INTELLIGENCE? DO OUR SOCIETY HONOR a LIAR over a PRESIDENT WHO HAS KEPT HIS PROMISE, HAS to ACKNOWLEDGE HIS MISTAKES, CONNECTED TO THE PEOPLE, and told the TRUTH?

DO OUR SOCIETY REWARD A MAN WHO HAS PLACE THE BLAME on OTHERS and NEVER HAS TAKEN RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS? DOES OUR SOCIETY REWARD HATRED and RACISM? He had money and was above the rim.

MITT ROMNEY got busted and he showed no sincerity. There is a pattern here people! He threw RICHARD GRENELL under the bus. MITT ROMNEY is a WEAK OPPONENT who cannot address his own RELIGION.

So I assume he has NO FAITH in himself, his RELIGION, nor will he have FAITH in the PEOPLE and the NATION. He will sell OUR NATION out to the HIGHEST BIDDER.

However, he felt about the LGBT community he could have shown RICHARD GRENELL how valuable he was to his team. Only money is valuable, looking down on others, and displaying to the world he is just not for the PEOPLE nor the NATION.

I wonder if MITT ROMNEY thinks it is funny what he has done to GST STEEL? I tweeted this morning after watching the VIDEO that MITT ROMNEY was NOT a JOB CREATOR but a LIFE DEVASTATOR. MITT ROMNEY created a WAR ZONE.

HE crushed, killed and destroyed the HEARTS, LIVES, and SOULS of MANY. This is a BULLY. If you don’t take into account of what MITT ROMNEY did over 50 years ago, please take into account of his DESTRUCTION of people’s LIVES TODAY.

To the MEDIA: You have done an EXCEPTIONAL JOB and I am very grateful for all the POWERFUL DOCUMENTATION and information that you have brought forth on MITT ROMNEY.

I am very thankful for all of the information you have put out so the people can learn, PAY ATTENTION, remain vigilant, and make the right decision come ELECTION DAY.

THE WORLD needs to see the DANGER MITT ROMNEY poses to the LIVES of the PEOPLE and OUR NATION.

Continue to speak out and don’t let anyone talk down to you. Put their A..in check immediately. To TAMRON HALL you will make any mother proud. Thank you for tearing the rim off of TIM CARNEY’S FRUIT of the WOUNDS. May he continue to patch his A..:)

I want to send a SPECIAL SHOUT OUT TO VICE PRESIDENT JOE BIDEN. I have always loved your outburst of passion because I know you speak from your HEART ZONE. Over forty years plus I would love to see the person that will call themselves trying to tame your spirit.

In my heart of heart, SPONTANEITY is good. I live on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART and understand what happens when a person cannot express his emotions. Hell! Look at MITT ROMNEY and what it has done to him. When he does try to express himself it is a NO GO.

I don’t feel I could ever TRUST a man who does not BELIEVE IN HIMSELF or cannot tell the TRUTH. PROTOCOL! What PROTOCOL? This is HISTORY IN THE MAKING, MOVING FORWARD, and PROGRESSIVENESS.

My spin on this is if O’Reilly, LIMBAUGH, HANNITY, BECK, and the FOX NEWS CREW have NO FACTUAL INFORMATION or DOCUMENTATION and haven’t caused a WAR yet. Why should JOE APOLOGIZE FOR TELLING THE TRUTH? JOE BIDEN needs to remain JOE BIDEN.

To the MEDIA on SAME SEX MARRIAGE, the key WORD is ISOLATION. I would like to know the FOLLOWING: What is the SUICIDE RATE on people who have been ISOLATED over an extended amount of TIME without developing friends and relationship?

How many people in the LGBT community have taken their lives because of the SHAME, GUILT, and FEAR due to ISOLATION of not having the support and rights that other people have?

How many people are INSTITUTIONALIZED due to ISOLATION without having the support of family, friends, and associates? How many people have committed crimes due to ISOLATION of not having a social system put in place for support?

Where does the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION stand on SAME SEX MARRIAGE? What is the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION view on what happens to people who have trouble developing friendship and relationship and forced into ISOLATION? What is the DIAGNOSIS called?

We saw what happen on stage at the DEBATES to the CONTENDERS and the GAME CHANGER. IN comparing and contrasting the RADICAL INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS to the NEUROLOGICAL UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS of NLD SYNDROME, TRUTH BE TOLD NLD is an EYE OPENER.

PEOPLE diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME ARE NOT EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED. Can you say the same about MITT ROMNEY?

DISCLAIMER: GOING FORWARD 2012 THIS MESSAGE HAVE BEEN APPROVED BY SMOKELBG:)

Let Fathers Be Fathers

This experience is frightening for me. Our son has to go through a diagnostic evaluation to see if he has a learning disability. He was fine until he reached middle school then his grades begin to drop. The more things he had to do on his own he just didn’t seem to be able to get organized for his school work. I thought it was because his grandmother passed away. Quincy and his grandmother were so close. She practically raised him from a baby. His mother, Catherine, worked two jobs and her mother offered to help us out. JoAnn, Catherine’s mother, was a diabetic. I always felt my wife should quit one of her jobs so we could spend more time with Quincy. I didn’t mind making the sacrifice to work the extra hours. I wanted at least one parent to be with Quincy so he wouldn’t feel he was so alone. She was forced to quit one of the jobs after her mother died. I don’t know if she resented coming home.

I worked for the railroad. It was a fairly decent pay when I put in the extra long hours. Milton, a long time co-worker, and my best friend had a son diagnosed with autism. He shared many stories about his son. Milton’s stories frightened me because they always seemed to be so closely connected to my life. It appeared that Milton and his ex-wife had problems regarding their son being autistic. Later I learn Milton’s ex-wife had trouble with any women coming around her son or dating Milton.

Milton had gained full custody of his son. He was very proactive in his son’s life. Milton had started an autism support group. He had invited me several times. It always made me feel as if Milton was so many steps ahead of me. He continued to ask me to come and participate in the Autism group. Some parts of me wanted to attend but the other half of me was afraid. For some reason, I could see part of my life being like Milton. It felt like the movie Face Off.

Catherine and I had trouble in our marriage. She blamed herself for not being there when her mother passed away. We had problems before her mother ever came to stay. Her mother’s presence helped relieve a great amount of stress in our household.

JoAnn was so patient and kind with Quincy. She was Quincy’s rock. Catherine and I were so tired after working so many hours. It left us no room to deal with Quincy’s problems. It didn’t allow him the ability to process when he became angry and frustrated. JoAnn would always tell Catherine, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It. Let the boy’s father deal with his behavior. Catherine was quick-tempered and lacked patience. It would make Quincy’s behavior become very explosive.

More and more Quincy’s behavior started changing and he begins to sleep a lot. I became greatly concerned because I thought Quincy was slipping into a state of depression. Catherine said Quincy just wanted attention and he was just lazy and she didn’t have the time to be bothered with his foolishness. Where did that response come from? When I ask her about her statement, she glared at me with her lip twisted and stormed out of the room. I guess that was my answer. We had begun to argue more frequently.

I was all for the evaluation but Catherine would get upset every time I would try to talk about it. We were getting closer to our evaluation date. Catherine had almost totally shut down. The moments of silence were killing me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Every time I would try to discuss how we could help Quincy she would bring up her father and how he would deal with the situation. Catherine was very close to her father. At the age of 17, her father died on his way to work of a stroke. She always compared me to her dad. At first, I didn’t mind. I kind of thought it was an honor until I talked to JoAnn. Before Catherine’s mother died we had this conversation about JoAnn’s husband. He wasn’t the man my wife made him out to be.

In the heat of the moment, I tried to get Catherine to talk. When she mentioned her dad my head spun around like I was the star in the Exorcist. The next thing I knew I had revealed what Catherine’s mother had told me about her dad. At that moment I realized from the look on my wife’s face she never knew. My heart-felt as if it was going to come through my chest. I would never say or do anything to hurt Catherine. It was all over. Catherine ran into the bedroom and started grabbing her clothes out of the closet. I was trying to prevent her from leaving and I don’t remember what happened after that. I have tried to relive that moment in the bedroom a thousand times. The only thing I do remember is I was trying to guard my face. When I looked down, my shirt was bloody. From the mirror in the bedroom, I could see scratches all over my body. I called Milton to see if he could pick Quincy up from school. He never asked for an explanation.

Everything was going through my mind. Did she call the police? When were the police going to arrive? Whatever happened in that bedroom, Catherine never came back. The police never showed up. Who said that men don’t cry. I cried for days and days. I love my wife but we always seem to communicate with other people. That did not help our marriage at all. Months had passed and finally, I got a call from one of Catherine’s longtime friends from New York. Beverly told me Catherine was granting me full custody of Quincy. Before I could ask about Catherine, I was listening to the dial-tone. Just when I thought I had pulled myself together the crying came back. Here was my son asking all these questions and I had no answers. Quincy and I had to move on.

Quincy did get evaluated and he was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome. I have full custody of Quincy now. He often asks me if he was the cause of his mother leaving. He wonders will she ever come back. I wonder the same. Catherine and I never really communicated what was on our minds and in our hearts. We were both too young to have children. I am seeking professional help. There is so much I need to work through. I don’t want to be an angry parent. This isn’t just about my life. I need to be sure I don’t damage Quincy’s life. He has a lot to deal with. I will be right there for him. I have a lot to learn about NLD Syndrome. Milton is helping me to set up a support group and build a website. Yes, I am afraid that I will keep my promise to Quincy’s grandmother. Let Fathers be Fathers and continue to advocate for their children’s needs. Let Fathers be Fathers and understand the social and emotional part of their children’s life. Let Fathers Be Fathers and show the love, support, and embrace their child’s weakness just as they would rally around their strengths. JoAnn is probably looking down on me and Quincy today. As JoAnn would say, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It.

DEDICATION: This story is dedicated to a young man who had to deal with it. He has done an exceptional job and is very supportive of his family and children. He would make any mother proud of how he is handling his life and the lives of family and friends he has touched. This one is for you, Willie Watson.

Recognition For Life

When I first started using Twitter I was advocating for NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disability) to be put on the DSM5 and to be recognized by the Center of Disease Control (CDC), and the International Classification of Diseases (ICD). These are the WHO’s WHO list of health and disability. I wanted a community for support, testing, research, and schools to understand and make accommodations for Nonverbal Learning Disability. This would be an inclusive environment with recognition from home, to school, in the community, and our society for NLD and other unique learning styles with extraordinary minds. I want people to LEARN, LIVE, and SURVIVE. I want people to understand and know their QUALITY OF LIFE.

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In a recent article by NPR, Autism Is Underestimated in South Korea, it may be more common than one thinks.  Autism is Mr. Umbrella of the Spectrum.  These neurological disorders are global and are being overlooked. At least Autism is recognizable and has a National Autism Society for inclusion. NLD, on the other hand, is unrecognized by the DSM4 and it leaves it no room for being a credible neuropsychological disorder.  Those who have been diagnosed with NLD Syndrome have unintentional behaviors and is not emotionally disturbed.

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Whether it is Nonverbal Learning Disability (NLD), Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), on the list or not, I am going for RECOGNITION FOR A HUMAN LIFE. The new text message for RECOGNITION FOR LIFE is ESBL We, the parents, our children/adults EAT, SLEEP, BREATH, and LIVE these disorders and have earned our HONORARY DEGREE.

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This text blog message is dedicated to the American Psychiatric Association(APA), Dr. Regier and his task force team.

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NLD Mom/cancer survivor

No Shame In Their Game On ST. Patrick’s Day

Scene: Tyrone Tourette, known as TS (cousin of Bobby Tourette), is having drinks and conversing at an Iris Pub called Slimery Otoole. Tyrone Tourette and Catrina Schizophrenia give some background information on themselves. Nicky NLD is waiting for the story to be told on how St.Patrick’s Day got started.  Tyrone Tourettes, before he gets too much green beer in his system, will tell the story. Nicky NLD is running out of patience.

Tyrone Tourette:

Nicky,  look at how crowded Slimery Otoole is tonight. It’s jammed packed. Tyrone is going to take you on his TS tour. I’ll Take You There just like the Staple Singers and tell you how St. Patrick’s Day came into existence.

Nicky NLD:

Tyrone are you sure you don’t want me to tell the story?

Tyrone Tourette:

Why should you tell the story?

Nicky NLD:

Once your tics kick in, it could get messy.

Catrina Schizophrenia:

What are Tics?

Tyrone Tourette:

Catrina Schizo, I have this neurological disorder where people describe me as having strange body movement over and over.  Some people have this image in their head of me having involuntary movement and making noises called tics. I don’t like to be stereotyped.

Catrina Schizo:

I feel you on that one Tyrone. I have this severe brain disorder that disables me from being able to carry out my life. People try to stereotype me and say that I hear voices others don’t hear. They say I believe other people are reading my mind, controlling my thoughts, and I’m plotting to harm someone.

Tyrone Tourette:

Catrina Schizo that IS what you do.

Catrina Schizo:

Wait a minute Tyrone… The key word is I MAY do these things… MAY, okay?

Tyrone Tourette:

Let me get your key and unlock your door. You are talking to Tyrone baby, I know what you do.

Nicky NLD;

Come on TS,  ease up off of Catrina  Schizo. This is a big deal for her. Remember we use to force her to talk. We knew when she didn’t take her medication and wasn’t in therapy.  I did not like seeing her in a catatonic state. She shut down as tight as a drum and was upset about it. I mean agitated.

Tyrone Tourette:

Look at you Nicky NLD, using analogies. I remember when you didn’t do double meanings.

Nicky NLD:

I have gotten better. As long as the person who uses the analogy explains it right away.  I won’t get lost in the conversation. Are you going to tell the story or not?

Tyrone Tourette:

Be patient Nicky NLD. I want people to know some things about me and Catrina Schizo. There is no shame in our game.

Nicky NLD:

You are right. People learned about me in the Who In The World Is NLD. Go ahead, man. Do your thang.

Tyrone Tourette:

Tourette’s syndrome (TS) is noticed around 7-10 years of age. It shows no prejudice. Tourette’s syndrome can affect anyone. Men are affected three times more than women. It can last a lifetime. In one’s teens, it can get butt-ugly. Later on, they may improve in the late teens on into their adulthood.

Catrina Schizo:

I want to learn more about your motor tics.

Tyrone Tourette:

Sure, sometimes they are simple motor tics. These are brief and I don’t use a lot of muscles. I can have eye blinking, making faces (grimaces),  jerking the head or shoulders or shrugging shoulders. With vocalizing tics I will clear my throat repetitively, sniffing, making grunting sounds, or barking. I use more muscle with complex tics. You can get the combo like at McDonald. I can make faces, twist my head and shrug my shoulders. There are times when people think that I’m doing the other complex tics on purpose. These are hopping, jumping, bending, sniffing, twisting, and touching objects. There are times when I have phrases of words that sound like jibber-jabber. It can get really bad if I do harm to myself and I punch myself in the face, or the cursing (coprolalia) or echolalia (repeating word or phrases of others).  Who do you know that does that hopping around thing?  Don’t answer that. That is another story another day.

Catrina Schizo:

I bet people think you are crazy.

Tyrone Tourette:

How are you going to call somebody crazy?  Are you sure this is me you are talking to and not someone you think you see or hear?

Catrina Schizo:

Do you really want to find out if I’m violent are not? You know, I have grown pretty fond of you. Sometimes we have the tendency to hurt the ones we are closest to.

Tyrone Tourette:

Girl, don’t make me unfriend you and push the button. I do have a Facebook account and I will Tweet you out.

Nicky NLD:

Is your collar on that shirt too tight around your neck? I hope your shirt is the right size. The last time you had neck tics.

Tyrone Tourette:

It’s all good. The last time I had tried to suppress my tics,  it only made them worse. I do better when my tics are expressed. Letting it build up is not good for me at all. A lot of times people think I’m doing this on purpose. I don’t know what causes Tourettes Syndrome. Let’s put it this way, I have unintentional behaviors that I don’t plan. It happens and my brains play a big part in the way I react. These neuro-behavioral problems can be caused by not paying attention, hyperactivity, and being impulsive. The guys (disorders) that hang out with me and are associated with me is OCD and ADHD. Even though my buddies know I can suffer from depression and anxiety they still remain to be my friends.

Hey, Catrina Schizophrenia you are up to bat. Tell us about yourself.

Catrina Schizo:

I have some positive symptoms about me.

Nicky NLD:

Is that positive good or positive bad?

Tyrone Tourette:

How can a positive symptom be bad?

Nicky NLD:

Tyrone TS, you are full of your ignorant oil (liquor). You can be HIV Positive, that is not good, and you could be like Catrina Schizophrenia, very delusional and not being able to face reality.

Catrina Schizo:

If you guys let me finish, I’ll tell you the rest.

Tyrone Tourette:

Ahhhhh Yeah Baby, Take us there (too much to drink).

Catrina Schizo:

As long as I take my meds, I’ll do okay. I do have psychotic behavior. Sometimes I lose touch with reality. This can come or go. Right now I’m not the healthiest person.Yes, I do hallucinate. I just really need to keep up with my treatment.

Tyrone Tourette:

I’m hallucinating right now.

Nicky NLD:

Tyrone you have enough green beer and Irish cream Whiskey in you already. I can’t tell you from Catrina Schizo.

Catrina Schizo:

It’s not like that Tyrone. I hear voices. My voices talk to me about the way I’m behaving. My voices order me to do things, alert me to dangers, and my voices can talk to each other.I had been hearing voices for a very long time before my family found out.  Bruce Willis could see people in the movie Sixth Sense. I see people too. I can feel people touching me. I can smell odors that others can”t smell. People try to tell me it’s nothing there but I know for a fact I see objects.

Tyrone Tourette:

You got some skills. Did you take your meds before you came out? You still go to treatment?

Nicky NLD:

Let her finish.

Tyrone Tourette:

Just checking Baby, this is the TS.  I did not want my tics to come out and play.

Catrina Schizo:

I am delusional. Many times people have proven me wrong and showed me what I am believing isn’t true. My delusions can get pretty bizarre. One time I thought Rachel Maddow was broadcasting my thoughts on her  TV program. Chaka Khan was out impersonating me. My boyfriend, Kanye West was mad because my album came out before his. He started cheating on me, then he tried to poison me. I reported him to the police for harassment. He had been spying on me for months.

Tyrone Tourette:

Your mind works like that for real?  Girl, I will trade you my disorder. I hope Jennifer Hudson got over me. I know she got married but she still wants me. Right.

Catrina Schizo:

These are things I believe. It is called delusions of persecution.

Tyrone Tourette:

Wooooh, I think you sobered me up. I have got to keep my eyes on you.

Catrina Schizo:

Sometimes it’s hard organizing my thoughts to make logical sense. I talk nonsensical and in garble. It is hard to understand me. I have thought to block. When I am talking to a person it feels like someone kidnapped my thoughts. You know what, I can even make up meaningless words called neologisms.

Nicky NLD:

I know someone who acts this way.

Tyrone Tourette:

Who?

Nicky NLD:

My girlfriend.

Tyrone Tourette:

Oh Man, you sure you don’t want to crash at my house until you have a talk with your girlfriend?

Nicky NLD:

Thanks for the offer but I can’t prolong what I suspected all the time.

Tyrone Tourette:

The offer stands whenever you are ready.

Catrina Schizo:

I’m not finished. I have body movement that I do over and over when I get agitated but not like yours Tyrone Tourette. Back in the day when there was little treatment, I would be in that catatonic state not responding to others. My main course meal is I hear voices. The negative symptoms are tricky and hard to identify. People mistake them for depressions or other symptoms. It disrupts ones normal emotion and behaviors. You notice how Meridia’s face doesn’t move (flat affect) and her voice is dull. It always seems to be monotone. No matter how hard she tries she never sticks to her planned activities. You have to stick a crowbar in her mouth to force her to speak.  She needs help with everyday tasks and I would constantly get on her about her hygiene. She was a hot mess. I thought she was lazy and trifling but this was all because she is schizophrenic. Nicky NLD you remember Rita?

Nicky NLD:

Yeah, I had a crush on Rosy Cheeks Rita. What happens to her?

Catrina Schizo:

She had some psychological testing. Her working memory wasn’t working. She didn’t have the ability to use information immediately after she learned it. Rita never stayed in focus or paid attention. Rita had problems with understanding the information to make a decision. This is called poor executive functioning. Cognitive symptoms are hard to find unless they are tested for.  These symptoms are understated. It was hard for her to keep a job, lead her life, and she was emotionally stressed out.

Nicky NLD;

That is a lot of information on my homegirl. Hey, can we get to the story now?

Tyrone Tourette:

Yeah, this is the new and improved Clarence Update.  St. Patrick’s Day is celebrated on March the 17. This is the day that St.Patrick died. We associate this day with the color green,  leprechauns, fairies, shamrocks, snakes, corn beef and cabbage, Irish music, green beer and Irish Creme Whiskey, and of course the St. Patrick’s Day Parade.

The Shamrock was a sacred plant that represented the rebirth of spring. The Celts called it a “seamroy”. The shamrock later represented the Irish breaking out and expressing themselves and taking pride in their culture and advocating for rights to be who they are. The English began to take over the Irish land and they didn’t want the Irish to speak their language nor practice their religion, which was Catholicism. The Irish said, “screw this we are wearing our shamrock and since we like the music we are going to sing it to the tune of Kool Moe Dee, How You Like Me Now”.  This pissed Queen Lizzy No.1 off.  Every artist and piper that was Irish got the ax. Nicky NLD you really are going to like this.

The Celts expressed themselves verbally. Since the APA(American Psychiatric Association) won’t open up a community for you this would have been the perfect place.  They rocked the house with their verbal expression of storytelling, singing, and dancing. Their oral culture of religion, history, and their folklore was passed down through the ages.

They got a little depressed but they never stopped singing “I’m Coming Out” by Diana Ross. Since they never gave up, today they’ve got popular bands like the Chieftains, Clancy Brothers, and Tommy Makem. You just keep singing that tune “Hold on I’m Coming” by Sam and Dave.

That story about the snakes was made up. St Patrick didn’t go up on a rock and banish thousands of snakes.  He took his behind up there. He drove his Orkin’s truck and pulled out his Real Kill snake spray gun. The snakes were a metaphor to get rid of the idea of worshiping all those crazy statutes the English worshiped.  Their traditional meal was always cabbage and corn beef.  Corn beef didn’t show up until the turn of the century.  The corned beef got pricy. So the Irish immigrants, now living in New York City on the lower east side, found a way to save money by bringing home the bacon and frying it up in a pan. They got the hook up from their Jewish neighbors and all went well.  Then you had shorty running around. These were the leprechauns known as “”.

Little dudes with tree stump bodies.  They were so paranoid about their pot of gold. They used voodoo, hoodoo, and doo doo to protect their funds.  The Leprechauns didn’t have anything to do with St. Patrick’s day. Do you see how lies get started?  In 1959 Walt Disney got creative and threw the leprechauns in the mix.  In 1962 Chicago River has become famous for being dyed green on St. Patrick’s Day.  The Irish grew in numbers and became the Green Machine and gain Respect just like Aretha Franklin’s song. They are no longer considered the Drunken Monkeys.

Catrina Schizo:

Can you get me a date with one of those little guys?

Nicky NLD:

See what you did, Tyrone Tourette. You know Catrina Schizo doesn’t need any more false reality in her head.

WARNING: To all those who read this story…  if there is anything in this story that sounds like you,  a friend or a family member, get to a doctor immediately. We don’t want any Shame In Your  Game.

Getting Zach on the Right Track

Scene:  Sparky SPD (representing sensory processing disorder) and Nicky NLD (representing nonverbal learning disability) visit OWN Studio to help a friend get on the DSM5.  Zach is having extreme behavioral problems. Sparky SPD and Nicky NLD came to visit Oprah to see how they can help an old friend out. The conversation takes place in the green room and Oprah has stepped out for a studio break.

Nicky NLD:

Sparky sit down.  Stop touching everything. You are going to get us thrown out of the studio. I knew when I came here with you it was a bad idea. What did you have to eat?  You are all jacked up. Did you eat anything with sugar in it?  Put that down. You are on sensory overload.  Don’t make me call 1-800-Jesus Christ on you.

Sparky SPD:

Chill Nicky, Oprah won’t mind if we help ourselves and take a few souvenirs.

Nicky NLD:

Oprah has a deadline to meet and we are here to help get sensory processing disorder on the list.

Sparky SPD:

You are not on the list either.  As I recall you are not on the American Psychiatric Association (APA) list nor the International Classification of Diseases (ICD) list.  Are you on the Center for Disease Control for prevention list?

Nicky NLD:

No, I am not on any of those lists. Isolation is terrible and no recognition is even worse.  There is no validation and this could hang us out to dry. The APA is trying to throw Aspergers off the list and merge it with PDD-NOS. You know that diagnosis is just not enough of anything to rate being on the list.  If Aspergers vanishes we will not make the DSM5.

Sparky SPD:

Are you serious?

Nicky NLD:

I’m way more serious than Sally Savant “splinter skills”.

Sparky SPD:

What are splinter skills?

Nicky NLD:

Splinter skills are very unique skills that a person has that are totally unrelated to their life but they do them exceptionally well. Savants are noted for these skills. There are so many skills that savants can’t achieve but they should always be recognized and respected for what they can do. No one should ever take any credit away from a person who can achieve the smallest tasks. It messes with a persons self-esteem and self-confidence. For many years, not making the list has done the same to me. I am treated totally different from state agencies, insurance companies, schools and their districts.

Sparky NLD:

Nicky, I was reading your tweets and I did not know we had all that in common.

Nicky NLD:

I spelled it out. As long as people point it out or spell it out for me I don’t get so frustrated.  It was about 30 tweets. I gave brief definitions of some of the disorders. I did not want to cause confusion because a few of the disorders get mixed up. Sparky we share and have difficulty in the following areas: hypersensitivity, apraxia, dysgraphia, fine motor, severe coordination, hypotonia, developmental delays, developing friendships and relationships (social domain), self-esteem, self-confidence, speech and language development, dyspraxia and our nervous system is wrecked.

Sparky SPD:

Are you sure we don’t have the same Dad? We’ve got so much in common. You know I always liked the song Papa Was A Rolling Stone by the Temptations.

Nicky NLD:

Okay Sparky, shorty by nature, don’t make me mad. People don’t realize that when I get angry it could be for something that happened 2 or 3 days ago. It could be something that happened for 3 or 4 years ago or even longer. The doctors call it a manifestation of one’s behavior. I call it being pissed off for a very long time.

Sparky SPD:

What strategy do you use to keep from going ballistic?

Nicky NLD:

You need to go process with a person that you can trust – like a doctor or a therapist.

Sparky SPD:

I can get pretty angry.

Nicky NLD:

That is the best time to go to your doctor.  They can help level you out by talking it out. If you don’t want to talk you can look at the ceiling. If it is your doctor or therapist you are going to pay them regardless.  You might as well talk.

Sparky SPD:

I need a safe area like you. I use to think that your mom was a decorator. When you told me she put those rooms together to calm you down that was really cool.  I love the fountains, candles and the easy colors she chose to make it like a spa. Why did your mom take the doors off the rooms?

Nicky NLD:

I cannot tell where my body space is.  Removing the doors just kept me from bumping into them. The look on your face was priceless when I told you we were in the closet. You thought it was a music room. You asked me where do I keep my clothes. I told you that we were sitting on them. You didn’t have a clue the benches were storage chest. You know I have trouble with hanging my clothes on clothes hangers. I don’t need to get frustrated.  My family always figures out a way to help me work around something that gives me difficulty. They remind me it is no big deal. They teach me alternative methods by verbalizing and pointing out what it is I need to do. As I practice the skill more I learn it and I’m ready to move on. If you tell me to go clean the room. I need to know exactly where you need me to start. They will leave notes on the computer or a sticky note on top of the computer for me to find my information. It takes a lot of work but my family wants me to be successful without the pressure. They continue to teach because I learn by a step by step method. It is habilitation, not rehabilitation.

Sparky SPD:

Man, your mama acts like she is McGuyver or Inspector Gadget. You know our house is so cluttered and it looks like something out of Rag Magazine. You know my mom doesn’t do well with changes.

Nicky NLD:

Sparky, your mom may need to change to keep your behaviors from triggering. The clutter and having no order in your life could be part of the problem. I’m not trying to place the blame on your mom or your dad. If they don’t know when it is time for them to learn. They have so much hurt, guilt,  fear, and feelings of hopelessness. All this can be changed with empowering themselves with education and learning about sensory processing disorder.

Sparky SPD:

How does your mom manage her feelings?  My parents just seem so beat down by my behavior.

Nicky NLD:

My mom and the rest of my family educate themselves on the material. She said if it is nothing up to date, She would take action, bring the information up to date and create a new format for people to learn. She and the rest of my family understand that I have a neurological disorder with unintentional behaviors. A characteristic of NLD is anosognosia.

Due to the nature of my disability, I do not have the ability to recognize the seriousness of my own problem. So I would see my peers like I view myself, not having a problem. Bottom line Sparky, I can’t put myself in other’s shoes to show compassion, empathy, and support. Don’t be frightened, I have come a very long way. Emotions are hard to teach.

Sparky SPD:

Man, that is deep. So what did your mom do?  I feel like this is a seminar.

Nicky NLD:

My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. She said every adversity does not have to have an adverse effect. I have a difficult time understanding fear. She said this was a good opportunity to teach fear and other emotions. She stated that people don’t like breaking themselves down to the lowest denominator. It makes them appear weak. She said she wanted the world to know how much they are taking for granted. Their adversity would give them a greater strength  She felt if you could write, spell and read… then do it.  She expressed her fears and pointed out fears of others. I did learn a lot. I still have a long way to go.

Sparky SPD:

It is time for me to make some serious changes and start surrounding myself, with positive people, and those who have my best interest at heart. I have got a lot to learn. If you don’t mind Nicky, do you take medicine?

Nicky NLD:

No, I have several coping skills and strategies that are taught by my family members to reduce the panic, anxiety, depression, and stress. Whenever I decide to go out to dinner or a movie, I go at a time when it is not crowded. I go to a place where there is less noise. I enjoy music. Maybe Zach can read the book Musiophilia by Oliver Sacks.  One of the neuropsychologists gave it to me. It is an excellent book. I tried not to overload myself on social events. I get tired and I rest in a room with white noise and low amber lighting.  Social events I attend there are 3 being the minimum and 5 being the maximum people around.  They are very knowledgeable of my unique abilities. I use scented candles for relaxation (mild scented). When I walk, I take a backpack loaded with books for deep pressure. I have a fanny pack with mints, a stress ball, and clay. If  I get anxious, I return to my safe area. If someone is angry with me it is explained to me that the person may not be ready to talk. I have the same option as that person. I am never placed in competitive sports.

Sparky SPD:

Nicky that is a lot. Will we ever grow out of this?

Nicky NLD:

We don’t grow out of this. We grow up with this. We just have to work harder.

Sparky SPD:

I like that Bose Bluetooth you are wearing. What kind of phone do you have? I got that new droid.

Nicky NLD:

I don’t have a phone.

Sparky SPD:

What!

Nicky NLD:

One day  I was at the mall with my brother and he started complaining about everyone on their cell phone talking to other people.  He was so agitated and began to point out people who had Bluetooth attachments.  I looked at him and asked if he knew if anyone was on the other end talking. You know I process out loud and this attachment would keep me in sync. He took me out to the Bose store and purchased it for me.  I wear it all the time. Everyone looks like me but there is no one on the other end of my Bluetooth.

Sparky SPD:

You are going to have the whole world with phone gear and attachments paranoid.

Nicky NLD:

I wonder how many people are laying down their phone gear and looking at others with phones crazy?

Sparky SPD:

You need to cut that out.  Where did Oprah go?

Nicky NLD:

It’s getting late.

Sparky SPD:

Should we leave her a note or that sweater you have chewed at the sleeve? Why you do that?

Nicky NLD:

Sometimes adults with developmental delays have a tendency to eat non-food items. This is called pica. It is mostly seen in children ages 1-6 and mentally challenged persons.

Sparky SPD:

Alrightee! Let’s leave a message for Zach and his family.

Nicky NLD:

We need to let you know that you are not alone. To his mom and dad hang in there and be strong. It would devastate me if my family gave up on me.

Sparky SPD:

You are right Nicky. I don’t always see eye to eye with my parents. I wouldn’t want to be isolated or rejected by them.

Nicky NLD:

A good book to read with your parents is The Explosive Child by Ross W.Greene Ph.D.: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Child. It would be good for you to have an oral motor grocery list. When you become anxious/nervous you will have things to munch and crunch on and non-food items for your body.  Learn about your sensory system which consists of Tactile System (skin,touch), Proprioceptive System (muscles,joints and tendons), Vestibular System (inner ear,balance up/down and left/right), Gustatory System and Oral Motor Input (mouth and tongue),Visual System(eyes) and Olfactory System (nose,smell). Learn what calms your sensory system and what alerts it.

Sparky SPD and Nicky NLD:

We wish you all the luck in the world. We hope this helps.  To the parents of Zach, hang in and don’t give up. You need each other.

Zach quality time with mom and dad reading, listening to music, singing and playing games will help. You need a safe environment with trusted adults and grand guardians. Thirty-two hugs a day might help and you could use a good teacher or a mentor. A national cheerleader could boost your self-esteem. Lots of love and a stable home will shoot you to the moon.

We are rooting for you.

Welcome to my Blog!

The doors are open. Sure! Come on in. We have embarked upon a new year and it is TIME for some changes up in the House. Once you crossed the threshold there is no turning back. What do we WELCOME? We WELCOME change, growth, progressiveness, diversity, and inclusion. In the words of AL Green–LOVE and HAPPINESS. It makes you want to do wrong or make you want to do right. It can make you come home early or make you stay out all night. Whatever it makes you do, we will find out whether or not it was INTENTIONAL or UNINTENTIONAL. Let’s see who is ROCKIN’ THE LIST. Let’s see who will be thrown off the MENTAL CLIFF.

I am happy to have you here. Please take your time, read my blog, and help spread the facts about NLD (NONVERBAL LEARNING DISABILITY). What is that? It is a neurological, neuro-behavioral syndrome with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS shaken up by a broken down compromised nervous system where the right hemisphere of the brain lacks creativity. The good news is there are many NLDERS who do not lack creativity and are very sociable. Hang tight, roll with me, and we will find out the three areas that encompass NLD Syndrome.

No one should compromise who they are to become what we want them to be. We need to adapt and change our way of thinking. It is TIME to change the lightbulb in our minds and get some energy savers. We will be able to run the marathon. Our minds can endure the pain, hardship, and stress of a decrease in power to shed the light on the actual problem. A surge in energy can spin our Rolodex out of control and shift the information in our brain. The boost can be too much and the tasks overwhelmed us. In the long run, it will cost our bodies less, help diminish the brain stress, and give an extension of quality of life. Some people need a JUMP START in life while others need a swift kick in the A… Which one are you?