Left Brain/Right Brain___Whatever!

Hmmm! I guess we are not rocking the emotions today. Are you just not feeling it? I would love to feel it but my Right brain has some damages.  Whatever! My body has a lot of damages.  You don’t understand. Break it down to me.  When the Right Brain is damaged I lack the ability to decipher emotional information. I’m not ignoring the body language, facial expression, gesture, or the tone in people’s voices. I just can’t interpret nonverbal communication. So the key to your ignition doesn’t ignite your engine and you are left with the remix of cold cognition.  Sounds like R. Kelly Trapped In The Closet to me. Who is R. Kelly?  A soulful songwriter and producer whose ignition had a lot of issues. He steps away from the spotlights into his closet so his behavior would go into remission.

Basically, it just hard for you to put yourself in others people’s NIKES and you could not afford AIR JORDANS.  The price should not be so high that people assume you know how to behave and you really don’t.  The key to unlocking the door is to TEACH. Oooh! I have a great mentor out there who taught me the bottom line is what you need to know.  One cannot go from zero to one hundred. There are small steps we must take to reach our goal.  One day you will reach one hundred.  I can see why a person behavior would go off the chain when you are singing to the tune of Alicia Keys song, NO ONE.  I struggle big time socially.  I struggle big time medically.  So, Whatever! You are no different from me. There are many things in my life that need improvement. Every person on this planet needs to improve something in their life.

What did you say your name is?  I didn’t but people call me NLD Syndrome. I’m talking about the name on your birth certificate. Oh! My for real name is Constance. Well, for real Constance if I had to put my name down for every infected body part or missing part there would be no room for my parent’s name, date of birth, time, and the stamp of approval that the birth certificate is legitimate. See that long sentence I just wrote. Yeah! It is called a run on sentence.  I don’t need an English lesson. Constance, the point is my name would look just like that sentence on the birth certificate. That is what I’m trying to tell you.  I don’t get the whole picture. So, Whatever! If my body was a puzzle, BABY, there are pieces missing but I still can function. Another part of my body will pick up the tab.  In the medical community, a doctor will explain that you are born with 2 lungs. If one lung goes the other one is set up to carry on. This is the BIGGEST mistake the psychiatric community makes. Some other plan of action can be put into place.   The tab can be picked up to keep people with mental illness from feeling hopeless, a shame, and humiliated. We want you to seek help. People view mental illness as prolonged. A physical illness will take the body out quicker.

You are NOT terminally ill if you have been diagnosed with a mental illness.  How does the Left Brain pick up the tab?  I have so much verbiage.  I’m talking all over the place. Wow! You become the VOICE.  Have you ever watch that show? There is a lot of body language and begging on that show. Adam Levine stretches across his desk as if he is the most desperate artist begging to win the next season over Blake Shelton.  Pharrell with that baby-face smile leaning forward poking out his neck signaling,  “Come Home.”  Christine Aguilera using her hand movements to rope people in to be on her team.  Blake Shelton watching those cowboy boots, beating on his desk, and giving a friendly reminder to the new artist he has won three times.

My writing can go on for eons without me getting to the point. My friend’s last story was like that but she had a lot of points to make. 🙂 I starting reading early and my teacher thought I was gifted. When I was promoted to the next grade it took me too long to write and my hands got sore. It looks like I was coloring instead of writing.  I couldn’t keep up because I was so unorganized. I got into trouble so many times when the teacher would say,  “can you just imagine.” It would piss me off and my behavior begins to boil over like rice.  Oh God, when the teacher starts repeating lessons my head would spin around.  At that moment I felt as though I needed a priest to keep me from peeing on the carpet. I got this. I have the HERE-SAY PROGRAM. I’m auditory-verbal  At the end of the school day my brain felt like it had heard it all and I had said TOO much. Math became complex because it was so abstract. I would use all these big words in my writing but the paper said nothing.

I have a lot of memory but it is hard for me to take my old thoughts and transfer what I had learned to a new situation. I have come a long way and I have gotten much better. Good for you Constance. I want to make friends and develop relationships. After reading my friend’s story I realized the corporate community are afraid people will band together, make policy changes, defend their human/civil rights. If she struggled with her job and nothing was put in place for her to do an effective job, I will have a much tougher path to follow.  True Dat! When my mother found out the final word on my diagnoses she was relieved but she cried for days. My mother came across a chart. Listed on the chart was Syndromes With Social Incompetencies. It listed Williams Syndrome (WS), Autism, High Function Autism (HFA) Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), Hyperlexia, Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), and Nonverbal Learning Disabilities (NLD). On the left-hand side of the chart, it has Speech, IQ, Motor, and Behavior.

Nonverbal Learning Disabilities (NLD) has early speech and vocabulary development. Pragmatic and prosody is poor. One may not be tactful when knowing when to end a conversation or how fast they are talking. As the saying goes silence can be golden but if you don’t know when to stop talking a problem exist big time. Common sense and being realistic is the ruler of today. Hey! Good news, it can be taught.  IQ for Nonverbal Learning Disability is normal to superior. VIQ>PIQ means Verbal Intelligence is much greater than the actual Performance. Whatever! Donald Trump is leading in the polls and he’s a Billionaire. As a matter of fact, The DONALD has inspired me to write this story and the next story coming your way real soon. There are a lot of people who talk a GOOD GAME and still get paid. One of my favorite people was Darrell Issa. Issa reasoning, abstract or not was shot to hell.  He never found any criminal activity against former Attorney General Eric Holder.  I can’t really say Issa talked a GOOD GAME but he talked a lot, had no common sense, and was very unrealistic. He is the richest member of Congress. Dang!  Consultants are the new VIQ>PIQ and any person that fall into this category.  Motor skills for NLD dexterity is a problem. The skill to paint, eat with a chopstick or a fork takes eye-hand coordination. So, Jack be nimble Jack be quick is hard for Jack to comprehend.  Jack can learn and start to mend. Writing, typing cutting with scissors and buttoning clothes can be a pain in the a**.  People diagnosed with NLD  have a tendency to sit on the floor to eat to help maintain their balance.  As far as NLD Behavior goes people who are diagnosed with this syndrome lack skills in receptive and expressive language hindering their verbal communication skills.

The biggest problem I have is when I become angry no one wants to help me or give me strategies and coping skills. They want to shove a bunch of pills down my throat. So they bring out Austin Powers and tell me to, “Oh Behave Baby!”  I have had the police called on me. People want to lock me away. I have been kicked out of those so-called self-righteous NLD groups.  They just want to talk about NLD Syndrome.  I live in the real world, not a thread.  What I say can get me killed outside that thread. You don’t have to say anything and can get killed. I am at a greater risk if NO ONE understands that my behavior is UNINTENTIONAL.  I strongly feel the psychiatric community should address race, politics, cultural diversity.   NLD is not the biggest problem I have. There have been several Black women and Black males shot down by the police. You haven’t forgotten Sandy Hook?   The school located in Sandy Hook was not for children with extraordinary minds, unique abilities, and multi-level learning styles.  Our society labels children/adults mentally disabled.

You have 16 contenders running for 2016.  These contenders have made several social blunders, gaffes, faux pas, and slip-ups INTENTIONALLY.   You better know who is MENTALLY CHALLENGED.  If the psychiatric community can’t address this conversation in their group maybe they need to be turned over to the Citizen Commission On Human Right (CCHR). These are the watchdog investigating and exposing Psychiatric Human Rights Violation. BOW WOW WOW YIPPY YO YIPPY YEAH!  Turn the Dogcatcher loose.   While we’re at it let’s turn over the 16 contenders for next year Presidency to CCHR. It is Time for the NLD Community to visit www.cchr.org.  It took me years to be diagnosed with NLD Syndrome.  NLD Syndrome is not on my birth certificate.  You have people in the next election singing, “If I Only Had A Brain.”   They should be singing, “I Sure Got A Lot Of Nerves.”  Has anyone stopped you and asked if you used your Left Brain/Right Brain__Whatever!

You’ve Given So Much

I’m rocking Stevie Wonder song in my ear.  The birth of this young man taught many lessons.  His life and all the things defined in the life that he could not do paved the way for new choices, changes,  and accommodations.  Whatever was defined as his deficit gave our family a great strength to go and do research.   This would help find this young man a way to navigate a path to success.  Yes, it landed on our doorstep.  Our family was not afraid to tackle the frustration. For some family members, there were moments of embarrassment, tears, and laughter. This was an educational moment! The greatest teaching moments of all TIMES was not to be viewed as all the things he could not do. It gave each family member the opportunity to see what they were not to take for granted and appreciate what they had the ability to do.

Coming from the Flip Side Of The Chart as the diagnosis was handed down at that very moment in TIME I realize my diagnosis was more of the killer.  Cancer is a systemic disease and can spread like a wild-fire.  Nonverbal Learning Disability is encompassed by social, motoric, and visual-spatial components. This is not a killer.  Secondary to the initial diagnosis, anxiety, panic, stress, and depression can raise its ugly head.  Don’t be afraid it is TIME to develop strategies and coping skills.   The only thing which would be a killer about my son diagnosis is not knowing, not having a support system, and understanding that his behavior was UNINTENTIONAL.  My son is not Emotionally Disturbed. He cannot read or understand people emotions because of impaired social interaction.  This happens when he or others fail to respond to their name and often avoid eye contact with other people. He has difficulty interpreting what others are thinking and feeling because he can’t understand social cues such as facial expression, the intonation of one’s speech, body language, and he doesn’t watch others facial expression to gather social cues.  His behavior would seem inappropriate because he lacks the ability to show empathy, compassion, and support. The good news is he is willing to learn.  Was his behavior Intentional? No! Parents, relatives, friends, and associates need to learn and realize about people we encounter in life as awkward or may not be considered as social butterflies. The OSCARS proved that by a young man admission of feeling rejection and had attempted to take his life at the age of 16.  Now it was his moment in TIME to shine. Bottom line, the opposite end of the spectrum should not judge the behaviors of others because they can choose and make the right decision.   They choose to throw it all away because of selfishness and greed. Every individual does not have that choice.  Neurological disorders rob many individuals of that choice.

All that Psychological jargon or babble and all it boils down to helping the individual put the pieces of the puzzle together when they don’t get the whole picture. It is making the person aware that if he sounds rude or terse point it out and helps him use more constructive words. Give the individual HOPE and let them know everyone makes mistakes.  Make it clear it is not one person on this planet that knows everything or can do everything.  Make it clear there are 24 hours in a day and they did not mess up all 24 hours. Whatever you do always INCLUDE the individual. Never assume the individual knows always TEACH.  Life is a thread. Through the eye of the needle, our stitches must be bound tight and we must pay attention and stay focus. For those who cannot stay focus another route can be taken.

You’ve Given So Much

When he became frustrated with tying his shoes he wore slip on and velcro. It was his choice to learn to tie his shoes and he did it after 11 years.  No pressure!  No big deal or rush.  He got sick of people saying use your imagination. We came up with the appropriate words to help people understand abstract concept needs to take shape on concrete planes. This is not Christopher Columbus you are dealing with. In today’s TIME, it would be Dora The Explorer. You are working with the ultimate construction worker who needs the concrete poured on. In today’s TIME, it is Bob The Builder.  So what if you couldn’t use a mop or a bucket because it is hard for you to measure. Check out that Swifter you are slinging around like Zorro.  Washing your clothes has become a breeze using those new PODs. No longer will you need liquid bleach now that they have Evolve Bleach Tablets.  Man, there are so many wipes.  There are furniture wipes, glass wipes, electronic wipes,  and disinfectant wipes. Spray bottles would slip out of your hands.  As Seen On Tv has developed so many inventions to keep you from ever using a knife because of coordination problems.  It lowers the risk of you cutting yourself.  The injuries had diminished since platform beds are now the trend. To make life more bearable the sofa bed and the hide-a-way sofa beds inside the chest is ever so awesome. Forget about getting frustrating because you can’t put the sheet on the bed. Who cares!  Just shove that bed back down in the chest and Voila! These Chest sofa beds can be found on Amazon.com, Costco.com, Overstock.com, Tuesday Morning and HomeGoods. So we are not tripping off the fact you can’t fold your oversized comforter. Now we have throws 50×60 or 60×72.  Make sure they are nice and soft if you have sensory integration issues.  Those wonderful swivel chairs.  Don’t forget the swinging chair from Pier One. Make sure you got your flavored tea, coffee, and scented candles ready to go.  What about the sensor trash can you run your hand over or the Perfect One-Touch Tea Pot. Oh, Lawd!  Otto-mation! Those oversized ottomans which are really chest and no more anger with the hangers.  Just put your clothes in the chest and have an organized room.  The navigation device on your iPad and all the Apps that have brought your world into clear focus. It’s all about CHANGE and the ability to make CHANGES.

You’ve Given So Much

To help me through the darkest storm.

Research and education kept me armed.

The diagnosis set off a few alarms.

Applying LOVE and UNDERSTANDING it could do no harm.

 

Through the lens of my eyes, I acknowledged faulty perception.

Make sure you address any type of deception.

Isolation is used for man’s transgression.

Inclusion, Strategies and Coping Skills is used for man’s progression.

 

Whatever was lost it can become one’s gains.

The lesson to learn is to reduce the hurt and pain.

Make changes in your life and banish the stains.

The Greatest Love Of All will always remain.

 

My son opened a doorway and handed me a key.

Reflecting on his life will help him be the best he can be.

It knocked on our door for us to see.

He is a masterful educator for you and me.

You’ve Given So Much

Mom and the Crew are just around the corner looking out for you.

How About That!

That’s not right! You are so wrong. Are we there yet? Let’s Roll! What do you Think? Can you believe that? Shut Up! I’m cool with that. Check this out. DUDE! It is MIGHTY MANTRA TIME. Why are you staring at me? It’s okay for you to repeat yourself and be ever so cool. When I start repeating myself it becomes a problem. What! I see how you are.  So if you are on the opposite end of the spectrum, mainstream, or the normal who really ain’t normal at all, your words become buzzwords and catchy phrases. Don’t give me that SH…. about a slogan. Slogan This! Now there’s a catchy phrase. 🙂 I could have added an extra word after Slogan This but I promise to stay on track, focus, hold my concentration, or even meditate to keep from going off the deep end. How About That!

Why in the world if you are on FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART your buzzword turns into a big psychiatric disorder?  You find yourself on the DSM5 as a characteristic that needs to be medicated.  Shut Up!  People diagnosed with NLD repeat themselves and they have a CHANT or MANTRA.  So you think our words are meaningless. By now you know words can cause a WAR. Not understanding the person whose mouth it comes from makes another person feel the words have gone too far.  The OPPOSITE END OF THE SPECTRUM is chewing on their tongue. They think anybody that is not on their friend’s list and not trending today is permanently locked away in the film, One Who Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest. Jack did escape.  So did Anjelica Huston out of a Rocky Horror Picture Show love affair.  Did you receive your oscar?  The FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART brought the curtain down with taking home a slew of academy awards.

Who said people who are diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME do not possess creativity?  It just takes TIME like a bottle of wine to savor the flavor with extra labor. Creativity will arrive on the scene. Development may take a little longer but can you see what TIME brings.  Repeat yourself too much and you will end up under the UMBRELLA. Sad to say you and your speech will be viewed as not stronger.  RHIANA’s song did have that ECHO of UM-BREL-LA LA LA LA.  For some people, Rhianna’s song may have been meaningless.  Start repeating yourself and you are viewed as DELAYED.  Strange how one person can be a sultry singer.  The other person will fall on the AUTISM SPECTRUM with echolalia and judge as low-grade.

Politicians use SOUND BITES to manipulate and give misleading information, to sum up, the real meaning of the conversation. Politicians shadow box all the TIME. Those SOUND BITES are repeated over and over again.  A person who is ECHOLALIA sounds like repeated SOUND BITES. The validity of their speech is misrepresented because they are parroting another person speech who may be very misleading and manipulative. Oh, GOD! SCRIPTED is even worse. Before you say anything look at the verse. The rehearsed verse makes ones terse. It sort of like plagiarism in vocal reverse. That would surely make me curse. How About That!

Look across the field at all the different shirts made up of slogans out of hurt and pain. Continue to march and work on your PEACE because there is so much to be gained.   The unrest of gun violence ran rapidly throughout our nation. Police turning their backs on Mayor Bill de Blasio attempted to taint the movement of  “Hands Up Don’t Shoot” and the “I Can’t Breath” conversation. Stay on your path and give recognition to your manta/chant/slogan/buzzword indeed.  Indoctrination of police protection has to be weeded and re-seeded. Plow out the old and sow in the new.   Trust between the police, the people and their communities will take the removal of police brutality, removal of blood from all hands and removal of gunpowder residue.  From the Opposite End Of The Spectrum to the Flip Side Of The Chart it is Time to put our heads together and let’s get smart.   We must all do our fair share.  Let’s not react to negative situations on race, gun violence, and address mental illness to educate our nation to show we care. Start the Conversation. How About That!

I am cool with the mantra. It means on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART we are being repetitive and mimicking the words and behaviors of people who we think have legitimate speech that might be meaningful and it won’t get our A… in trouble. Guess what!  We discovered the words and behavior of the so-called politically correct aren’t correct at all and is worthless as hell.  Such doubled standards!  The not so opportunity has struck and we are knee-deep in trouble. The OPPOSITE END OF THE SPECTRUM have high-profile jobs and get the opportunity to spit out their venomous mantras every day.  While the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART is labeled with pervasive developmental delays, locked up and the keys are thrown away. How About That!

We all seek help so our words may be repetitive. It is neither black or white or trying to be competitive. Standing at the crossroad where there is a great division. Our nation must find a way to prevent the Precision On Collision.  Turning one’s back fuels the flames of  NO MERCY. Showing disrespect lies in the lap of police controversy.  The echoes are the cries of the ones we mourn and wipe tears from our eyes.  The police disrespect demonstrates the frustration, anger, and the possibility of a decision someone else might die.  Repeat the mantra. It doesn’t matter what side of the universe you represent. Who cares if you are called crazy as long as we can diminish the murders and show the progress of less violence by a huge dent.  We have witnessed every race coming together to repeat the words and action for PEACE. Stop the violence and the murdering it is TIME for all to cease. How About That!

Dedicated to Bill de Blasio: Facing Forward! Moving Forward!

Precision On Collision

It happened countless of Times. The door opens up and it is Time for the routine walk. You both make eye contact and the words are spoken. “I will stay on my path and I will be extra careful.” Of course, your son or daughter will do exactly what they set out to do.  Who are you worried about? You are worried about their life and the skin they are in. Whether or not if your child has a diagnosis of any type of syndrome/disorder it will always be Secondary.  This wasn’t for me but for you. All I could think of if the dots were being connected and the pieces of the puzzle were beginning to fit together. Will we get a whole puzzle? Will some of the pieces come up missing and the story will never be told correctly.

Wow! Mark Zuckerberg got up and put on his sweats and hoodie but he probably didn’t get stopped by the cops for looking suspicious. I had to make sure my son was not wearing a hoodie but there was no guarantee he would make it back home in one piece. He was not dressed to impress but for safety.  Guess what?  Is there such a thing as safety?   Throughout my child’s life, he suffered from asthma and the medication he had taken made it hard for him to lose weight. I don’t know if Mark was sleek all of his life. Mark was socially awkward but it never stopped him from reaching his full potentials. I bet Mark’s hoodies became more of a popular dress code than a non-verbal threat to his community.  It is a shame how the coin is so unpolished on the Flip Side Of The Chart.

There is something about a young black overweight male that is perceived as a gentle giant, a bully, or a huge Mandinka slave.  How did anyone derive from this perception? When my son was in middle school I noticed whenever he would become frustrated the teacher’s documentation read like a horror story. Not only that my son began to look more grown up on paper than his actual age. Something was really wrong with this picture. How can you be only in middle school but look like a full-size adult on paper?  Even at the manifestation hearings, I had to remind the superintendent, the principal, and the teachers my son was a child, not an adult. Was the school system documenting my child for the prison system or for an early grave?  Did the test scores of the schools and their triple-A rating mean more to them than the child? It must have meant something.  So much pressure was put on testing the school districts got busted for cheating nationwide. Many children fell through the cracks when it came to their mental stability. Who was going to be the first draft pick? It sure wasn’t going to be the children whom the school districts stigmatized for many years entering the small yellow bus with Special Education written all over it. Where in the hell does this concept come from when your child acted out he would immediately be thrown in a separate self-contained school better known as the DAY SCHOOL? Parents stay on top of your child’s documentation.

This is probably the hardest stories I have ever written. Knowing for years what the outcome was going to be before the barrage of murders had taken place.  Going from doctor to doctor and the doctors not addressing the race issue. Moving within your family and they didn’t want to address mental illness. Being Black an under attack spelled it in the story Got No Time To be Disabled. My son said it best. “They Can Kill Us With Impunity.” NLD will always be Secondary. Just as he was diagnosed with NLD, panic, anxiety, stress, and depression is Secondary to the original diagnosis of NLD.  This is not an NLD’s world. Inclusiveness instead of isolation is the key.   Having a diagnosis of NLD does not define the person he is.  He has to live in the skin that he is in.  Being Black is not a disability. He now understands he cannot exist inside a group’s thread but has to live with the reality of being Black.   Those prayers were just not for my son.  Knowing the Truth is tough. The Truth rides alongside consequences. The conversation has always existed and the doors of the church will always be open for change.

The sharpness of my son’s tongue is Precision. It is always what he says make people so pissed off and angry. He does not recognize that he has insulted you are if a person thinks he sounds threatening.  There will always be Collision with people who do not want to hear or know the Truth. These are the people who act on their words. Not the ones who speak with a sharp tongue, Precision.  Collision will always turn their back, react, and attack.

Let Fathers Be Fathers

This experience is frightening for me. Our son has to go through a diagnostic evaluation to see if he has a learning disability. He was fine until he reached middle school then his grades begin to drop. The more things he had to do on his own he just didn’t seem to be able to get organized for his school work. I thought it was because his grandmother passed away. Quincy and his grandmother were so close. She practically raised him from a baby. His mother, Catherine, worked two jobs and her mother offered to help us out. JoAnn, Catherine’s mother, was a diabetic. I always felt my wife should quit one of her jobs so we could spend more time with Quincy. I didn’t mind making the sacrifice to work the extra hours. I wanted at least one parent to be with Quincy so he wouldn’t feel he was so alone. She was forced to quit one of the jobs after her mother died. I don’t know if she resented coming home.

I worked for the railroad. It was a fairly decent pay when I put in the extra long hours. Milton, a long time co-worker, and my best friend had a son diagnosed with autism. He shared many stories about his son. Milton’s stories frightened me because they always seemed to be so closely connected to my life. It appeared that Milton and his ex-wife had problems regarding their son being autistic. Later I learn Milton’s ex-wife had trouble with any women coming around her son or dating Milton.

Milton had gained full custody of his son. He was very proactive in his son’s life. Milton had started an autism support group. He had invited me several times. It always made me feel as if Milton was so many steps ahead of me. He continued to ask me to come and participate in the Autism group. Some parts of me wanted to attend but the other half of me was afraid. For some reason, I could see part of my life being like Milton. It felt like the movie Face Off.

Catherine and I had trouble in our marriage. She blamed herself for not being there when her mother passed away. We had problems before her mother ever came to stay. Her mother’s presence helped relieve a great amount of stress in our household.

JoAnn was so patient and kind with Quincy. She was Quincy’s rock. Catherine and I were so tired after working so many hours. It left us no room to deal with Quincy’s problems. It didn’t allow him the ability to process when he became angry and frustrated. JoAnn would always tell Catherine, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It. Let the boy’s father deal with his behavior. Catherine was quick-tempered and lacked patience. It would make Quincy’s behavior become very explosive.

More and more Quincy’s behavior started changing and he begins to sleep a lot. I became greatly concerned because I thought Quincy was slipping into a state of depression. Catherine said Quincy just wanted attention and he was just lazy and she didn’t have the time to be bothered with his foolishness. Where did that response come from? When I ask her about her statement, she glared at me with her lip twisted and stormed out of the room. I guess that was my answer. We had begun to argue more frequently.

I was all for the evaluation but Catherine would get upset every time I would try to talk about it. We were getting closer to our evaluation date. Catherine had almost totally shut down. The moments of silence were killing me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Every time I would try to discuss how we could help Quincy she would bring up her father and how he would deal with the situation. Catherine was very close to her father. At the age of 17, her father died on his way to work of a stroke. She always compared me to her dad. At first, I didn’t mind. I kind of thought it was an honor until I talked to JoAnn. Before Catherine’s mother died we had this conversation about JoAnn’s husband. He wasn’t the man my wife made him out to be.

In the heat of the moment, I tried to get Catherine to talk. When she mentioned her dad my head spun around like I was the star in the Exorcist. The next thing I knew I had revealed what Catherine’s mother had told me about her dad. At that moment I realized from the look on my wife’s face she never knew. My heart-felt as if it was going to come through my chest. I would never say or do anything to hurt Catherine. It was all over. Catherine ran into the bedroom and started grabbing her clothes out of the closet. I was trying to prevent her from leaving and I don’t remember what happened after that. I have tried to relive that moment in the bedroom a thousand times. The only thing I do remember is I was trying to guard my face. When I looked down, my shirt was bloody. From the mirror in the bedroom, I could see scratches all over my body. I called Milton to see if he could pick Quincy up from school. He never asked for an explanation.

Everything was going through my mind. Did she call the police? When were the police going to arrive? Whatever happened in that bedroom, Catherine never came back. The police never showed up. Who said that men don’t cry. I cried for days and days. I love my wife but we always seem to communicate with other people. That did not help our marriage at all. Months had passed and finally, I got a call from one of Catherine’s longtime friends from New York. Beverly told me Catherine was granting me full custody of Quincy. Before I could ask about Catherine, I was listening to the dial-tone. Just when I thought I had pulled myself together the crying came back. Here was my son asking all these questions and I had no answers. Quincy and I had to move on.

Quincy did get evaluated and he was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome. I have full custody of Quincy now. He often asks me if he was the cause of his mother leaving. He wonders will she ever come back. I wonder the same. Catherine and I never really communicated what was on our minds and in our hearts. We were both too young to have children. I am seeking professional help. There is so much I need to work through. I don’t want to be an angry parent. This isn’t just about my life. I need to be sure I don’t damage Quincy’s life. He has a lot to deal with. I will be right there for him. I have a lot to learn about NLD Syndrome. Milton is helping me to set up a support group and build a website. Yes, I am afraid that I will keep my promise to Quincy’s grandmother. Let Fathers be Fathers and continue to advocate for their children’s needs. Let Fathers be Fathers and understand the social and emotional part of their children’s life. Let Fathers Be Fathers and show the love, support, and embrace their child’s weakness just as they would rally around their strengths. JoAnn is probably looking down on me and Quincy today. As JoAnn would say, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It.

DEDICATION: This story is dedicated to a young man who had to deal with it. He has done an exceptional job and is very supportive of his family and children. He would make any mother proud of how he is handling his life and the lives of family and friends he has touched. This one is for you, Willie Watson.

Fighting On The Assessment__NLD Final Frontier

Scene:   Smokelbg has left the office of Dr. Phil and is on her way to see Dr. Deepak Chopra and Dr. Drew. Earlier in the day she had an appointment with Dr. OZ who referred her to Dr. Phil. It is very significant to show the New Wave Doctors what will happen to NLD Syndrome if it is not given the support of a community and the opportunities to become successful in today’s society. Smokelbg wants to enlist the help of the most innovative doctors to RECOGNIZE the importance of consistent testing of NLD Syndrome. NLD Syndrome may be more common. She wants the New Wave Doctors to understand how unilateral decisions have discriminated against and found a way to avoid giving support to children/adults with extraordinary minds, unique abilities, and multi-level learning styles whom our society has labeled disabled. Smokelbg can’t believe how a school for young pregnant mothers in the mainstream has also been affected just recently by unilateral decisions. It is time for Smokelbg to  FIGHT LIKE HELL on the assessment. This story will explain to the New Wave Doctors – the medical, psychological, social/emotional effect it places on NLD Syndrome, other exceptionalities, and the mainstream. It will compare/contrast NLD Syndrome to the mainstream RECOGNIZABLE and UNRECOGNIZABLE.

Receptionist:

All the release of information forms has been properly completed. Your information has arrived and Dr. Chopra and Dr. Drew will be seeing you in about 10 minutes. We will get the notes from this session back to Dr. Oz and Dr. Phil as soon as possible. We need you to fill out and update some information on your insurance form.  Underneath the insurance forms, we have placed our release of information forms to be filled out. Anywhere you see an X please fill out the area and make sure it is dated and signed.  You will be seated in the RED  ROOM and the doctors with be with you momentarily.

Smokelbg:

Wow! Is this one of the clones from the movie Stepford Wives? She sure has her speech down. Maybe it’s me and this RED ROOM I’m sitting in. Colors do affect a person’s mood. It could be me connecting the dots of Dr. Phil’s room number 666 and the color red.

Receptionist:

Okay, Smoke 1 lb or Smokel Bug the doctors are waiting for you.

Smokelbg:

Hold Up, it is pronounced as SMOKE L.B.G. This has happened to me many times before. I understand when there is a problem with reading words, the spacing of letters, or even seeing the word for the first time it can be pronounced wrong. People with Dyslexia and NLD Syndrome have problems in this area.

Receptionist:

I am neither one.  It was just an error on my part.

Smokelbg:

Do you mispronounce words?  Do you run the lettering of the words together? Have you ever been tested on word reading or pseudoword decoding (ability to pronounce nonsense words)?

Receptionist:

Hey, I made a mistake. I do not make mistakes very often. Dr. Chopra and Dr. Drew will see you now.

Smokelbg:

I think it is time to turn her desk away from the RED ROOM. Maybe a cooler view of just looking at a picture of the ocean waves would loosen her rigid behavior (thinking to herself). Dr. Chopra and Dr. Drew, thank you, both for letting me have this opportunity to visit with you today.

Dr. Chopra:

Thank you for coming. We received your packages of information and I appreciate the books. This is short notice and I have not had the time to brief myself on all information, but this is very fascinating.

Dr. Drew:

Smoklbg, the books are much appreciated and I haven’t had the opportunity to review all of the information on NLD Syndrome. I am not familiar with Nonverbal Learning Disability. You have a lot of concerns. How can we help you?

Smokelbg:

I consider you both as New Wave Doctors. Dr.Chopra your strong connection to MIND, BODY, SPIRIT, and the relationship with LOVE, HEALTH, HAPPINESS is vastly needed. These components would be very essential in helping people with NLD Syndrome become successful. Dr.Drew your straightforwardness on drugs and alcohol addictions will help many individuals realize the changes in one’s behavior and the harm it causes to the body.  The end results will cost the individual his life or another innocent bystander their life. You both have lost people very close to you. Dr. Chopra, I’m deeply sorry for the lost of your longtime friend of 20 yrs., Michael Jackson.

Dr. Drew, I am deeply sorry for the lost of your most recent patient and friend Jeff Conaway.  The key word today is INTERVENTION. I understand that both of you have been criticized for your methods, techniques, and the sincerity of your positions. I need your help in giving RECOGNITION to NLD Syndrome. You both can help me with the importance of showing the world how people diagnosed with NLD syndrome need an inclusive protective environment. They need to be surrounded by those who are committed, educated about NLD Syndrome, and willing to make accommodations for NLD’s unique learning style. Strategies and developing coping skills for the manifestation of their behavior needs to be put in place. DEDICATION without MEDICATION and INTERVENTION can be very productive for NLD Syndrome. SOCIAL SKILLS and LIFE SKILLS  would be the primary teaching of their program. These are very key elements for inclusion in the community and society. I want the American Psychiatric Association (APA) to feel the heat from the grill. They need to be held accountable for not incorporating a syndrome that can interact with other disorders but is left out of a diagnostic manual. The APA did not RECOGNIZE  the damage it has caused by not enlisting NLD Syndrome for as funding, insurance, and school placement. A psychiatric community that has contradicted themselves. They have 38,000 psychiatrists under their umbrella. This is a large COMMUNITY. NLD Syndrome has no supports, no umbrella, no COMMUNITY and is left out in the rain. Hell, even Dan Akroyd and John Belushi in the Blues Brothers were a team. Sam had Dave. Gladys Knight had the Pips. Ike Turner had Tina Turner until he messed up.  I want my New Wave Doctors bringing in NLD Syndrome on the note of the Blues Brothers, “Everybody Needs Somebody”.(Everyone in the room puts on their dark shades, fedoras (hats), and starts imitating the Blues Brothers)

Dr. Chopra:

Aaah, singing, and dancing is very good for the body and uplifts the spirit. I get your message Smoke L.B. G. Yes, my secretary warned me that you had a very tricky name.

Dr. Drew:

That felt great! Dr. Chopra, you got a mean step. Work it out. Smokelbg I get your message loud and clear. I tell you what, I enjoyed shaking my bootie in therapy today.

Dr.Chopra:

I learned that dance step in my country, New Delhi, India. Okay, what is the next step?

Smokelbg:

It is TIME to put the pieces of the puzzle together. NLD Syndrome along with many others have a problem getting the whole picture. I’m going to reiterate very important points from some of my stories to show WHAT’S GOING ON.

Dr. Drew:

I like me some Marvin Gaye. Go Ahead, Go Ahead.

Smokelbg:

We will start with Welcome To My Blog.

1.) We meet people who may appear different, but they shouldn’t change themselves to fit our mold or our way of thinking.

2.) Before we judge them, we first need to learn about them.

INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS:

1.) We judge people and convict them before we ever get the facts.

2.) We are not trying to learn about others. They will be excluded if they don’t click with our way of thinking.

UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS

Hey Those Are Not My Eyeglasses

1.) A person with a right hemisphere disorder only has use of one side of the brain making it uni-modal. The creative side has damages which cause problems in the 4Rs (reading, riting, rithmetic, and relationships). NLD Syndrome central nervous system is out of whack causing them to have a severe coordination problem. They are at risk for depression, anxiety, stress, and panic attacks. NLDers appear to be annoying, very loud, awkward, and it is very difficult for them to express themselves appropriately. It is hard for them to initiate a conversation but once they get going, the conversation is on. The conversation is relevant to them. The conversation may not be relevant to you. In the mainstream, there are lots of people who intentionally want everything to be about them. People with NLD Syndrome have no clue. We need to TEACH them to understand how to share, take a turn, not to view everyone is just like them, emotions of themselves and understanding emotions of others.  It is very important for NLDers to learn and understand what happens when they act out impulsively and the consequences of their actions.

2.) Their view is very distorted and it causes faulty perception. They miss a lot of information, cannot read people, read between the line, and do not interact with their environment. NLDers want to interact with their environment but don’t know how to interact. They can be taught.

3.) People with NLD Syndrome are NOT EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED and their BEHAVIORS are UNINTENTIONAL.

4.)  Give them an explanation and SPELL IT OUT.

INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS:

1.) Unilateral Decisions are made. The people who make these decisions have a one-sided view.  It is by their OWN CHOICE not to be connected to his/her environment. They do not desire to interact with other cultures or understand cultural diversity.

2.) Their views are distorted and their one’s size fits all decision-making process is very disturbing. They will go through back doors and do whatever is necessary to get the results they want. They have a Duncan MacLeod Highlander  Effect. “THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE.”

3.)Those who make unilateral decisions are bound and determined to keep out programs that are effective and have shown positive results. People who make unilateral decision strategies are saying, YOU ARE A BUDGET CUT.

EXAMPLE: Rick Snider, the Governor of Michigan, made a decision that was quite disturbing against Catherine Ferguson Academy. He sent a strong message to WOMEN AROUND THE  WORLD. Rick Snider’s decision stripped African-American Women of their right to be educated in an environment which gives them the opportunity to succeed regardless of their plight of being single mothers and continuing their education. Why would you want to cancel a school with a high success rate? Rick Snider and his financial manager Dave Thomas’ message rang out to African-American Women and the African-American Communities, “YOU ARE BLACK AND BACK IN THE KITCHEN BAREFOOT AND PREGNANT”. “YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO MOVE AHEAD.”  Wow! Big time DISCRIMINATION AGAINST WOMEN across the nation. This message reaches out to all diverse cultures and has been pointed out in the story, Got No Time To Be Disabled (located in the March 2011 archives), and the Look Of Love Valentine’s Day (located in the February 2011 archives).

The closing of the school has been OVERTURNED but the scent and the taste linger on. You can reverse the decision but the hurt and pain will last a lifetime, especially for those of us who have lived this already and to see it happen all over again. So you see Dr. Chopra and Dr. Drew, CHOICES  are very key elements when Unilateral Decisions are being made.  The biggest picture involved RACE, DISCRIMINATION, EDUCATION, WOMEN, FUNDING, ACHIEVEMENTS, GEOGRAPHICAL LOCATION and much more concerning Catherine Ferguson Academy. I mention in my tweets that RACE is a key element but it does not ride alone. The following factors are integrated into the unilateral decision of the closing of Catherine Ferguson Academy.  WE KNOW THE DEAL. WE KNOW THE DRILL. There are a lot of CHOICES of CARDS to PLAY from. We don’t always have to play the same card. The CONSERVATIVES and the REPUBLICANS hand REALLY ROCK THE CRADLE on the above issues.

We now have a clearer picture of how these men feel about Cultural Diversity. We are back to the Highlander Effect, “THERE CAN ONLY BE ONE”. So if you deny certain under-privilege cultures the opportunity to succeed, you are denying them their right to SURVIVE.  The NO CHOICE people will LOSE.

Whatever we assumed about the Conservative and the Republican Party we no longer have to Assume. One thing about NLDers you will never have to assume how they feel about you. They will always tell you, Truth By No-Fault.

They hope people with NLD Syndrome will one day learn to paraphrase their statements, sugarcoat, or lie. Would you rather be lied to? Do you what to know the truth? Can you handle the truth?  Is this one of the reasons why people are so annoyed with those who have NLD Syndrome?  Do you have this characteristic or trait of NLD Syndrome that turns people off?

Dr. Chopra and Dr. Drew, do you mind if we take a short recess? I need to have a roundtable discussion with Tavis Smiley, Dr. Cornell West, Rachel Maddow, Rev. Al Sharpton, Wolf Blitzer, and MSNBC. I  need to contact the President of the United States, The Onion, Ed Schultz, Michael Eric Dyson, NPR, and Prince.

Dr. Chopra:

Go ahead Smokelbg. Why Prince? I do not understand.

Smokelbg:

Prince has the EYES that will reveal it all, just like  Dr. Phil has those talking EYEBROWS which tells the story of his approval or disapproval. It is the nonverbal communication that will tell the story of each of the key player chosen above. NLDers would be lost in this meeting because they will not be able to decipher the body language nor read between the lines.

Dr. Drew:

I would love to be at that conference. Do you think we could get Prince to sing and dance at the roundtable meeting?  It would be one hell of an icebreaker to get things started. That’s my song by the Black-Eye Peas, Let’s Get It Started In Here.

Smokelbg:

There is a chart you can refer to online that shows NLD interacting DIRECTLY with other disorders such as ASPERGER SYNDROME, OCD, AND TIC DISORDER. There are outside factors of learning disabilities that affect NLD Syndrome such as AUTISM DISORDER, PDD LIKE DISORDERS, ANXIETY DISORDERS. Go to NLDONLINE.CA.

I want my chosen team to PLEASE READ-DSM5 TO EXCLUDE ASPERGER, PDD-NOS, AND NLD IN 2013, WAIT… WHAT. This article is written by LIFE DEVELOPMENT INSTITUTE (LDI). This article points out that particular issues for  African Americans families are typically later referred for being diagnosed at a much later age than their Caucasian counterparts. The story GOT NO TIME TO BE DISABLED points out how race is played out in an underprivileged area. Information was provided to demonstrate how other cultures can be discriminated against.

UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS

We Need An Interpreter

1.)  NLDers can’t interpret body language, abstract language, and are unable to communicate socially. It causes a massive amount of confusion within the person which in return causes them to act out UNINTENTIONALLY and their behavior to manifest. They need a verbal explanation.

2.) Grand Guardians-trusted adults who give verbal and concrete explanations to NLDers to help interpret the world around them. They mentor, develop strategies, coping skills, provide accommodations to help people with NLD Syndrome to work around their deficits. Grand Guardians help advocate the needs of NLDers in order for those with NLD Syndrome to one day be able to advocate for themselves.

3.) Take the fluff out of NLDers program and make their life-like The Reader’s Digest Books_Condensed.

4.) Give them factual information and documentation. Only teach BENEFICIAL SKILLS.

INTERPRETERS FOR EXTRAORDINARY MINDS, UNIQUE ABILITIES, AND MULTI-LEVEL LEARNING STYLES

1.) Grand Guardians, mentors, psychiatrists, speech pathologists, occupational therapists, attorneys, advocates, family and friends who are knowledgeable and trustworthy.

INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS:

1.) People who are very familiar with their friend/associates behaviors INTENTIONALLY create havoc to make them act out. They set people up for failure.

2.) They will make negative comments to always break the self-esteem down of their peers. It is the negative nucleus I factor of you need me, I don’t need you. I am better than you. I made you who you are. I have more money than you. I YI YI! Fighting the Fight by Proxy. Don’t let them wine you up. Don’t let people light your fuse.

3.) As far as friendships and relationships, they choose to unfriend you at the drop of a dime and manipulate behaviors of others. Let them fight their own fight and don’t let them pull you into their fight. What you need to understand there are many people who appear very likable but these are the Rump-Shakers who will get other people involved to do all the dirty work and never have a blemish on their record. Who are the real Scum Bags?

INTERPRETERS FOR THE MAINSTREAM, RECOGNIZABLE AND UNRECOGNIZABLE(Good and Bad)

1.) advisors, attorneys, coaches, analysts, managers, CEOs, counselors, Supreme Court Justices, Chief of Staff, Presidents, Prime Ministers, etc.

2.) Carl Rove-former Senior Advisor, Deputy Chief to Former President George Bush (Bush’s Brain) BAD BABY! Carl Rove is Commander and Chief of RACISM and HATRED of all TIMES. Money cannot buy everything especially a President. Carl Rove thinks it can.

3.) Dominique Strauss-Kahn IMF-manager of the International Monetary Fund (sex scandals, harassment, and the NO NO THOUGHTS) BAD BABY! Totally out of control. Ruined a magnificent career. This dude has really poor judgment. He is not a TRUSTED ADULT

4.) Silvio Berlusconi-Prime Minister of Italy (sex scandals, and corruptions) BAD BABY! Trusted Adult-No. You would not trust your child with a person like this or MITT ROMNEY’S dead dog! No!

5.) Clarence Thomas-Supreme Court Justice-Conservative who will not flinch when it comes to judging the consequences of others. (He has to learn and understand the whole picture) UNINTENTIONAL VS INTENTIONAL A Supreme Court Justice bent on closing the gap so one can think the INTENTIONAL Behaviors are now the New Norm.

Read Who In The World Is NLD? (located in the January 2011 archive). BAD BABY! OUT of TOUCH and a sellout. Trusted Adult-No! Thomas needs to leave the Supreme Court with his outdated ideas. DETHRONE!

1.) Shows traits and characteristics of NLD Syndrome

2.) Accommodations used to help NLD maneuver around their deficits

NLD Syndrome is the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART.  Choices and opportunities are not provided to them in order to have support from a community.   People with NLD Syndrome without the necessary support will end up being institutionalized, imprisoned, or dead.  I am quite sure this is not the choices they would make for themselves.

Companies support one another. They either merge together, interconnect or buy each other out to keep themselves from failing. Banks and the Auto Industry do it all the times.

1.) Apple interconnect with Twitter

2.) Microsoft interconnect with Facebook

3.) Huffington Post and AOL

4.) MSNBC and Comcast

5.) AT&T and T-mobile

6.) Sprint and Nextel

7.) Best Buy and Radio Shack

8.) Sears and Kmart

This list can go on and on. Oprah, Stedman Graham, and Gayle King have supported each other for many years. Hell, even Oprah’s dogs support her on the cover of  O Magazine. We have companies that are Watchdogs.

1.) Media Matters-monitors the inaccuracies of the Conservatives and the media.

2.) Consumer Report is the Watch Dog for the Consumer.

Come on people! Where are the dogs that will watch out for NLD Syndrome? Snoop Dogg watches out for his Doggs. NLD Syndrome ends up in the Dog’s House. Why would you vanish Asperger Syndrome to lump these other syndromes all together?  Why would the American Psychiatric Association avoid putting NLD Syndrome on their list?  What is the American Psychiatric Association’s real agenda? Does the APA have a problem with cultural diversity? Go back and read Got No Time To Be Disabled. Is the American Psychiatric Association going through the back door to discriminate against those who are underprivileged? Is this one of the ways the American Psychiatric Association can institutionalize and imprison a diverse culture of people by denying them the opportunity of educational accommodation, job accommodation, funding, insurance, and support from a community.  Will the APA decision for the DSM-5  resemble the Catherine Ferguson Academy decision? Now pay close attention. If you have a disorder that is RECOGNIZED by the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS how will  NLD Syndrome/other exceptionalities and behaviors be judged against the mainstream behaviors?  There have been numerous outbreaks of behaviors by government officials, RECOGNIZABLE AND UNRECOGNIZABLE.

Why would the APA want to close the gap and make it appear that all BEHAVIORS ARE INTENTIONAL?  Who is the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION really trying to get rid of?  Who are they trying to set up for failure?  Can we trust the APA? Do we assume they work in the best interest of the people?  WE KNOW THE  DRILL.

WE KNOW THE DEAL.  We no longer need to assume anymore about the APA  and who they are connected to.  The key words are UNINTENTIONAL VS INTENTIONAL. Close the gap and everyone will be judged on INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS by conservative judges that may not Flinch. Go to my blog and read the stories and tell me what you think.

It is time to connect the dots and FIGHT ON THE ASSESSMENT.

ADVISORY ALERT:

If you ever slip into a coma, survive an aneurysm, stroke, subarachnoid hemorrhage, Parkinson disease, diabetes, hydrocephalus, any disease that causes damage to the brain-WHO WILL YOU RESEMBLE? YOU ARE NOW DISABLED. WILL YOU BE PROVIDED WITH THE NECESSARY SUPPORT TO SURVIVE?

Remember the message the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION is sending.  People with NLD SYNDROME will not be RECOGNIZED, will not be provided with SUPPORT, and have NO RIGHTS FOR QUALITY OF LIFE.

DEDICATION: THE AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY WHO HAS PROVIDED A COMMUNITY, INTERVENTION, NEW WAVE MEDICINES AND TREATMENT TO SUPPORT WHATEVER QUALITY OF LIFE THAT IS PENDING.

NLD MOM/CANCER SURVIVOR

Who In The World Is NLD

It is time to go in search of specific characteristics or traits that sets me apart from others.   These characteristics will help identify NLD

>  I can talk it out better than simply doing the task

> My speech and language develop early

>  I learn information by habit or rote memory

>  I use Fancy footwork to express myself eloquently

>  Dancing is out, tying my shoes and typing is difficult, I will not be on a balance beam, or riding a bike due to coordination problems

> My nervous system is compromised which causes me to have severe balance problems

> No cutting the turkey, or cutting any objects for that matter – fine motor skills

> It’s hard to identify faces, to judge people, It is hard to understand others viewpoints,   and I have a problem with the perception of time.

> I can’t read people’s body language (posture, gesture, facial expression, social cues)

> I find it difficult adapting to change and transitioning

> I take abstract concepts literal, hidden residual rules

> I have poor social judgment and trouble interacting with people

There are three areas that include NLD and surround me.

> motoric

> visual-spatial-organizational

> social

Motoric – impairment causing difficulty to typing and writing (computers, iMac, iPods, iTouch, iPad, iPhone).

Thank you to Steve Jobs, Bill Gates of Microsoft and Michael Dell of Dell Computers, Sony and for Mac Scribe;

NLD has difficulty buttoning, fastening,(Thank you, Robert Kiyosaki, for velcro); manipulating small objects, tasks that require dexterity(Thank you for your “As Seen On TV”, Grabber, your One Touch can opener, Slicer Dicer, and Magic Bullet ).

NLD talks their way through a motor task (verbally)(Thank you for Bluetooth);

NLD resist eating with a fork or spoon, (Thank you for food product like Cup of Soup with a spout) laying on the floor, NLD finds it hard to sit in a chair(Thank You for video rocking chairs, ottomans, platform beds, and bean bags) due to coordination it will be difficult to master simple athletic skills,

NLD find their gross motor skills are impaired (running, jumping, climbing)

NLD presses too hard with the pencil.(Thank you for stylus)

Visual-spatial/visual perception-organizational-

For NLD it is difficult to tell who is in charge (difficulty with authority figures) hard to judge how heavy or large an object (doesn’t explore the world around him/her), hard to gather information, can’t envision or no imagination, can’t think creatively or abstractly not sure where his body is in space (space invader)

NLD can’t read maps, graphs or charts (Thank You for Garmin, TomTom, Apple, Verizon, T-Mobile, Net 10, Sprint, Nextel, AT&T, Straight Talk, Cricket for your navigational devices);

NLD  verbally labels everything, difficulty with shapes, sequence, prioritizing, binds through dialogue (use Bluetooth), difficulty with left and right,   and concept formation organizing and planning.

Social-expressive and receptive language –

NLD has difficulty with pragmatic and semantic skills (linguistic and how one express oneself) or linguistic syntax, abstract language (figurative, idioms, multiple meaning) very literal, monotone voice,

NLD has lots of social blunders, cannot decipher posture, facial expression, very black and white, cannot read between the lines,

NLD makes very precise remarks, people think they are jerks,

NLD has cocktail party speech(Captain Jack Sparrow), labeled as a pest or annoying, rude, not courteous

NLD may appear to others as disrespectful, naively trusting (needs trusted adults or grand guardians) rigid in thoughts…

In addition, NLD has difficulty with attention deficits, overstimulating environments, trouble with staying focus, and distractions need to be limited. Multitasking is counterproductive and step by step procedures work best with limited directions.

We Need An Interpreter

You know, we need an interpreter. This goes out to all my NLD associates. I chose the eyeglasses with one lens analogy because it gives a distorted view. This is not the whole picture. We get false impressions of what we see and how we interpret the information. We may miss the body language. Much of the nonverbal information is missed. Perfect, I don’t get the whole picture either!

English is truly a second language. Just like how you may interpret other foreign languages, English is foreign to me. If you start adding METAPHORS, SIMILES, and PERSONIFICATIONS, things really become abstract. You really have some explaining to do if you start talking to me with idioms and sarcasm…. don’t bother going there.

People make comments and say “It flew over your head.” I would say I did not have the ability to “get it.” I did not understand the meaning. Did the person explain it to me? This is very frustrating and makes people angry. Just say it in plain English. It’s time to break it down.

So in the world of Harry Potter, I’m going to need a dictionary. So many of the words seem abstract in these books. Twilight was simply horrible. We will be sitting in the movie theater and you will become my interpreter. This will continue throughout the movie.

Here come the famous questions…

What was your conclusion? How can you draw inference upon what happened? I have an idea if you POINT IT OUT and EXPLAIN IT all to me, I will give you an answer. This is where we begin to pour the concrete. I need CONCRETE, EXPLICIT, and FACTUAL INFORMATION.

People may think I am being sarcastic. I’m not. Do you know what I am talking about? Truth is, I don’t have a clue about sarcasm. It all sounds foreign to me.

Does this sound familiar? Do you have anybody in mind?

Welcome to my Blog!

The doors are open. Sure! Come on in. We have embarked upon a new year and it is TIME for some changes up in the House. Once you crossed the threshold there is no turning back. What do we WELCOME? We WELCOME change, growth, progressiveness, diversity, and inclusion. In the words of AL Green–LOVE and HAPPINESS. It makes you want to do wrong or make you want to do right. It can make you come home early or make you stay out all night. Whatever it makes you do, we will find out whether or not it was INTENTIONAL or UNINTENTIONAL. Let’s see who is ROCKIN’ THE LIST. Let’s see who will be thrown off the MENTAL CLIFF.

I am happy to have you here. Please take your time, read my blog, and help spread the facts about NLD (NONVERBAL LEARNING DISABILITY). What is that? It is a neurological, neuro-behavioral syndrome with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS shaken up by a broken down compromised nervous system where the right hemisphere of the brain lacks creativity. The good news is there are many NLDERS who do not lack creativity and are very sociable. Hang tight, roll with me, and we will find out the three areas that encompass NLD Syndrome.

No one should compromise who they are to become what we want them to be. We need to adapt and change our way of thinking. It is TIME to change the lightbulb in our minds and get some energy savers. We will be able to run the marathon. Our minds can endure the pain, hardship, and stress of a decrease in power to shed the light on the actual problem. A surge in energy can spin our Rolodex out of control and shift the information in our brain. The boost can be too much and the tasks overwhelmed us. In the long run, it will cost our bodies less, help diminish the brain stress, and give an extension of quality of life. Some people need a JUMP START in life while others need a swift kick in the A… Which one are you?