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What Did They Contribute?__Mental Illness

by Linda Ballard

Hold up! Hold Up! I’m not off the grid. I am here. I am laying back in the cut chilling. It is my “cooling down process.” You will see these words again. Ah Hell Naw! Don’t be throwing MENTAL ILLNESS around like it’s a wet rag. Dude, back the Hell Up! You do not mess with my EMOTIONS nor will you play with my PASSION. You are about to see THIRTY SHADES OF BLACK. Step off and just sit BACK.

Watch out! Before you know it, parents will be fighting the battle of integration/inclusion into the classroom once again. We are going down the alley of SEPARATE SELF-CONTAINED SCHOOLS. Any child who is labeled emotionally disturbed, mentally challenged, and has a behavior disorder will be “UNABLE TO BE DISABLE IN A ZERO TOLERANCE ZONE.” The gap is closing fast and more students will be pushed into the court system based on how they are documented by the schools and their districts. Where does the BURDEN OF RESPONSIBILITY LIE to prove whether or not your child shall remain in his placement? You got it, the SCHOOLS DISTRICTS and their SCHOOLS. Who is documenting your child? I hope the parents have documentation to refute the schools/districts negative hit list. The school districts are laying the groundwork for a paper trail yeah long and Lehigh University Deep. 🙂 You can’t hide your IVIES from me. This is very important. Gun violence is closing the gap. It is a shame that whatever the schools and their districts document can reach out from the grave. The greatest injustice and disrespect is TRAYVON MARTIN’S family has to defend his rights. Before we get anything twisted I am not saying TRAYVON MARTIN had any problems with his mental processing. I take it as if he was the victim. His school records were dirty laundry to seal his coffin. What did the schools and their districts contribute?

Yeah, Baby! The schools/districts just got another powerful weapon to EXCLUDE your child with a disability out of their schools. WOW! Lock and load TIME. A child will get suspended and excessive expulsions at the drop of a dime. LOOPHOLE! The SUPREME COURT RULING 484U.S.305-HONIG V DOE laws and regulations did not define the disciplinary action of a child with a disability. If you see the words Violent, Disruptive Conduct, and Dangerous Student anywhere on paper get ready to fight. The schools decide who will be delivered to the special “DAY SCHOOLS.” Are we back to SEGREGATION in our schools again? UNILATERAL DECISIONS will be made by your districts at night behind closed doors like the 47% video. This violates the SUPREME COURT RULING 484U.S.305-HONIG V DOE It reminds me of Michigan having those emergency manager meetings to sort of kick a child to the curb. Rick Snyder, governor of Michigan, is probably doing the training session with the Superintendent of your local school districts.

Parents just won’t get a say and all the child’s right will be stripped. Parents get it together. Your child is your responsibility. Don’t go calling the police on your child, talking about he is out of control, and you can’t do anything with him/her. How old is your child? What! He is 17. What do you think the police is going to do in 17 minutes of his police report that you should have done 17 years of his/her life? Come on Parents! We must change and change the stigmas that have been placed upon our children’s heads. Keep your MONKEY A.. out of the casinos and bars. Go home and spend some quality TIME with your children. Don’t wait until your child graduates and find out they can’t read. This doesn’t look very promising for a bright future in college or anywhere else. What did you contribute?__MENTAL ILLNESS

Your child is put up under the microscope from day one to see if he/she can be mainstreamed with the so-called normal behaviors. Whatever the hell that means. The highest level of government officials did not display appropriate behaviors. Their BEHAVIORS were INTENTIONAL along with CONGRESS, WALL STREET, AIG, CORPORATE AMERICA, the OIL, AND GAS INDUSTRY.They were rough riding tough along the side of a bunch of RUTHLESS PEOPLE. Still is. Some schools/districts go through the motion and pretend; a.) We did everything we could to help your child. b) we included you in the decision-making process although we already made up our minds at the late night candlelight dinner. c.) Every TIME your child acted out we drew up several IEPs to set him/her up for failure. d.) We went back to the drawing board to figure out a way to screw your child out of his education. The idea, NOT the IDEA which includes disabling children, was to document your child as a dangerous and violent student so we can push him out of our school. e.) We don’t care where he lands as long as he is out of our hair. Parents who are staunch advocates for their children know it is all about EXCLUSION and the BUDGET CUTS BABY. Holla! For the Dollar!

You are now looking at Light V. Parkway who claims the school and their district did everything they could for your child. Yes, they went out their way and bent over backward to include your disabled child. Even though the schools and their districts did not understand your child disability, were not trained, had no intention to get trained, documented your child to the tenth degree indicating he is a danger to himself and he will cause danger to others. We have done our good deed and we are not punishing your child. We just want him the hell out of our schools and to put his education into limbo. Well, doesn’t that sounds like CONGRESS and the beef they have with the President? No Good Deed Goes Unpunished. BS! What! BACHELOR of SCIENCE? NO! MALARKY!

One of the top priority of some educational institutions is getting rid of the wounded and the refusal to accommodate children who are mentally, socially, and emotionally challenged. Why? We wanted a bigger swimming team or a better football team. Having a football team did not ensure the safety of children. Are you sure you want to put a gun in a teacher’s hand when children are now being molested by their teachers? EX-CUUUSE ME! Don’t ask. Don’t tell. What did they contribute?__MENTAL ILLNESS

Yes, there are laws or SAFEGUARD PROCEDURALS put in place to SAFEGUARD your child. There are loopholes in the laws. PARENTS should always be included in the decision-making process so their child cannot be WAREHOUSED into a SEPARATE SELF-CONTAINED SCHOOL or CLASSROOM. Who wants to STAY-PUT in a placement that is no longer SAFE for anyone as long as they have these crazy gun laws? Whose shoulders do the burden of responsibility rest upon? I know it’s VIDEO GAMES. Yeah right! Will the responsibility rest at the feet of the MENTALLY CHALLENGED?

How do we go about getting rid of your child that is MENTALLY CHALLENGE and keep them out of the mainstream? I know! School Districts will go through the back door of education. Let’s make a List.

1.) They can Create An Atmosphere of Fear around the individual, (Wayne La Pierre Syndrome).

2.)Go to due process but we can’t let the kid hang out in our schools for 45 days or more until the hearing gets started. Hey, what is the rush? Why would you have a due process hearing under Chapter 536? Wouldn’t you end up in court? Get out of here! Really! Don’t the due process hearing takes care of that? Isn’t that what the STAY-PUT PROVISION under IDEA does?

3.) Look dumb A.. we are not trying to get the kid to stay in his/her placement just in case something unforeseen comes up. We will be ready to roll the TROs (TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDERS). These restraining orders will buy TIME to keep this child out of his PLACEMENT. You get 15 days on a TRO. Our plan is to keep renewing the TROs just in case the DUE PROCESS HEARING goes pass the number of days of the hearing. The power will be placed in the Districts hands. They will become Untouchable and Invincible.

4.) Can you do that to a child? What is the Purpose of the restraining order? The purpose of the restraining order is to ALLEVIATE the RETURN of the child to school as a RESULT of the STAY-PUT PROVISION. WOW! We never did that before.

5.) Okay, we will document him/her to be the next CHARLES MANSION. CHARLIE is still on lockdown. That is dangerous as dangerous can get. The idea of documenting your child like a criminal. Whew! From School To Prison Pipeline.

6.) That will help us get around that stupid rule, “10 Day Suspension Does Not Constitute A Change In Placement”. We don’t care if it was a manifestation of the child’s disability. You see we have ways of getting around his/her behaviors. Later in life, we can come back and Permanently ruin the life of the individual with a permanent restraint to lock the person down forever.

7.) Let’s make a MOUNTAIN out of A MOLEHILL for the child’s Attorney. The Attorney will be too busy fighting the child isn’t violent, dangerous, and disruptive. In the mean TIME, the FOCUS will be lost on restoring the child’s placement. Bottom line: Do not let SEGREGATION happen again in the schools because of the gun violence. Children who are mentally challenged will be ship off. They will not stand a chance in the mainstream.

I have been advocating and teaching my son how to advocate for himself for years. I had to back it up and put on the brakes. I realize parents are advocating for the LOSS OF their CHILDREN not the LIFE OF their CHILDREN. What happen PEOPLE? It is not supposed to go down like this. Why can’t gun laws be given immediate disciplinary actions if behaviors can be given immediate disciplinary actions? The laws will kick children out of their school placements, put them in the court system, be placed in the INSTITUTION of PRISON. This is not the way to help children who are disabled. Instead of getting help through their schools, children are railroaded out of their FREE AND APPROPRIATE EDUCATION (FAPE). Are your guns more important than a CHILD’S LIFE? So are we back to the BEHEMOTH of a gun industry called the NRA who are out of step with their own members? What did they contribute?__MENTAL ILLNESS

Oh! Don’t tell me you don’t want to talk about it. It is debatable. Excuse me! It is not MOOT. Why? Why should I answer you when you want to cut me off at the knees? What do you mean it ain’t important or relevant enough and we just can’t make no decision? I’m cool. You are the one that can’t make up your mind. It is happening all over again. How many TIMES does an incident have to occur before we can make a final decision and take action? Get the Hell out of here. It is called PROBABILITY and REASONABLE EXPECTATION. How many schools have fallen victim to gun violence? SHUT UP! Whose head will be severed? Who will be made the SCAPEGOAT? Are we back to the HIGHLANDER? There can only be one Get my DRIFT. I got your DRIFT 🙂

Dedicated to President Obama, Vice President Joe Biden, Arne Duncan, Katrina Vanden Heuvel, Joan Walsh, Dan Malloy, Dr. James Peterson, Michael Eric Dyson, and Chris Matthews.

My contribution__MENTAL ILLNESS is to keep from placing all the blame on MENTAL ILLNESS, educate people to seek help, and minimize stereotyping/destigmatization.

Hold The Fort Down

by Linda Ballard

Is it me? I don’t think so. I don’t have to wonder if my child’s life matters. I know the importance of my son’s life and the wicked hell and bullying children’s lives are put through when they appear different.

All children are important regardless if they have a neurological disorder, learning disability, behavioral disorder, or just the children in the mainstream. NO CHILD SHOULD BE LEFT BEHIND nor should ONE CHILD’S LIFE BE CONSIDERED MORE OR LESS THAN THE OTHER. Concerned parents whose children have behaviors that may seem strange, nerdy, or disabled understand what will happen to their children. I want YOU to understand.

What will happen if someone else doesn’t understand their body language, the lack of eye contact, or if the child doesn’t understand that he is violating a person’s space? I can look in my own backyard and see the danger right at my doorstep. I don’t want to wait until a death occurs within the community and realize this could be my son. As a mother, I do not wish to bury my son before me. NO PARENT DOES! How many more lives will it take?

Our children are dying and regardless of the RACE or being DISABLED it is an INJUSTICE. I never thought the day would come when I would see so many young adults lying in state at a funeral home. To see a mother stretch across her child’s coffin screaming, GOD Why? You could have taken me first. I never thought the day would come when I would hear a child say, “I’m PAID IN FULL.” I got my funeral arrangement taken care of and my mother doesn’t have to worry. We don’t live past the age of 25 in the city. DEAR LORD! What happened to our children’s spirits for them to take on this mentality? When did we start DIVIDING people’s lives up and measuring the significance of one life or one race over another? It is TIME TO HOLD THE FORT DOWN.

On March 22, 2011, I posted GOT NO TIME TO BE DISABLED. Yes, this was an eye-opener for me. TREVON, not TRAYON MARTIN, made it clear to me that he didn’t have TIME to be disabled because it would make him an easy target in his community. Everybody was viewed disabled in his community and you didn’t have to do any wrong to get killed. It was open season on Blacks. I was also informed by TREVON that being or looking disabled was a protective coating also. It would keep certain people afraid and out of your hood.

Your community had earned a certain IMAGE. BLACK on BLACK CRIME would be swept under the rug. WOW! If you lived in a nicer neighborhood and you were killed it was an INJUSTICE. WOW! Who would care about someone getting killed in the inner city or ghetto? Trevon said it was an everyday occurrence. If you are black you were under attack. He said there are special rules and gun laws to kill us all. WOW! This was only a year ago.

Trevon reminded me on several occasions to get the spelling of his name right. He said he had been to three or four funerals within 2 weeks TIME. One of his friends had gotten either wounded or killed and the spelling of his name was TRAYVON. We talked about it extensively but I dismiss it as him being superstitious. On April 25, 2011, a young man name TREVONNE WINN went to visit his family in EAST FLATBUSH BROOKLYN, NEW YORK. This young man was killed and his murder was caught on tape. The article was written by Grant Greenberg and the headline read, MISTAKEN IDENTITY KILLING CAUGHT ON SURVEILLANCE VIDEO. TREVONNE WINN was from SOUTH CAROLINA. To see his mother and twin sister speaking to the media was heart-wrenching.

When I heard about the shooting I called TREVON’s cell phone but I could not reach him. I went back to talk to his family but everyone was so tight-lipped. I remember TREVON wouldn’t give me his last name. He said the less I knew about him the better. I remember him telling me no matter how crazy the people appear to be, “AIN’T NO SNITCHES UP IN THE HOUSE.” His wicked smile would appear and in my heart, I felt he was going to be alright. I haven’t heard from him since but I light a candle and pray may GOD watch over him.

On May 10, 2011, I posted a brief story stating it didn’t matter if you were diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME. I was going for RECOGNITION OF LIFE. Too many of our children were dying. I had tunnel vision and color blindness when it came to NLD SYNDROME. It was TIME to step outside of the box. I had to realize it was just not our children with the neurological disorder at great risk but anyone can be taken advantage of. All children/adults lives are at stake. THERE IS NO PERSON IMMUNE FROM DANGER! THERE IS NO PERSON EXEMPT FROM DEATH!

This is when I recognized I no longer cared for the validation of the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION (APA). They were bad at their job and had not taken responsibility for putting NLD SYNDROME on the DSM5 after 41 years. DR. REIGER and his task force team could burn in RICK SANTORUM’S HELL and could DINE IN HELL’S KITCHEN. I can say that I did not walk away empty-handed. The AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION (APA) taught me to never ENDORSE anyone who could not do the job. The AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION has been compared to the REPUBLICAN PARTY. They are bad at their jobs, they do not care about lives, and it is all about funding. The CONTENDERS/PRETENDERS needed psychological testing with the exception of PRESIDENT OBAMA.

The contrast between the APA, the REPUBLICAN PARTY, and the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS there are none. They are all as crazy as a “road lizard.” The PSYCHIATRIC community has never spoken out or came forward to address the madness of the debates nor the decision-making process of any candidate. Mr. ETCH A SKETCH himself should have been erased from the debates a long TIME ago. The REPUBLICANS have gotten the opportunity to display their madness, ignorance, and incompetence. I’m going to spread the joy around. We have DEMOCRATS that are out there too. Let’s not forget MR. FREEZE of LOUISIANA, WILLIAM JEFFERSON, who put 90,000 dollars in the freezer.

I guess he wanted some cold hard cash. SANDFORD BISHOP who just loved using his position to benefit his family. Not to single the BLUE DOG RUFF RUFF out, this is a great past TIME on CAPITOL HILL. GREGORY MEEKS, we will try not to have a HURRICANE around you. OOPS! There goes the funding. It is all about equal opportunity. It is hard to believe these people are elected officials of our country.

On July 12, 2011, IN THE DEFENSE FOR THE DEFENSE…NLD__A YOUTUBE MOMENT was posted. Another famous case, which was in FLORIDA, went into a BARBARIC MODE. INJUSTICE SPOKE VOLUMES and children started turning up missing by their parents. People were making jokes saying if you want to get rid of your kids take them to Florida. You will get off the hook. CHRIST! BABY LISA turned up missing in the state of Missouri. The jokes got even worse. ANGRY GRANPA had a reaction to the FLORIDA CASE that was out of this world. He took PRIME TIME HATRED to a new level. The ANGRY GRAMPA’S behavior was a revelation to DR. DREW.

On October 8, 2011, AN NLD MOTHER’S PRAYER was posted. My son decided to take his usual walk. He stopped in a small shop to make a purchase. The shop did not have what he wanted. He left and started walking home when the police pulled him over. He remembered all the talks we had and was playing the information over in his head. The officer asked him had he been to the shop. He replied in a respectful manner. My son wanted to know what he had done wrong. The officer asked if he had shouted at the girl behind the counter. He was surprised. His voice tone was the same. The officer wanted to know if he always talked loud. The rest is history. When he arrived home I was told of his experience. I was asked if there were any PRIVILEGES IN BEING BLACK. WOW! Will it always be this way? He dropped his head and said, “I HELD THE FORT DOWN and LIVED ANOTHER DAY.”

To the MILLION HOODIE MARCH: I could be that parent and that could be my son. I will continue to PRAY while YOU PRESS ON. Go forth in PEACE and remain and STAND STRONG. From this day forward, “HOLD THE FORT DOWN.”

DEDICATED to TRAYVON MARTIN and FAMILY. NLD MOM/cancer survivor

The Dash Before The Distance

by Linda Ballard

It’s very cold today. My body is engulfed by high-speed winds. The wind is circling around my ears and gnawing at my fingertips. The weather is not favorable. There are many days in our life where conditions are not favorable. It has become a long and exhausting day.

Taking this trip was hard but it is TIME. Yes, another ICON’s ship has sailed into the night. Her glow from life’s candle shifted as the wind-swept around the flame. The flicker of the light struggled but another strong wind caught her breath.

This moment of darkness and silence has claimed yet another ICON. DESTINATION has caught up with her. She has now boarded a cruise liner to ease her from this life of hurt, pain, and sorrow. In our hearts, we pray her spirit will be guided by an eternal beacon.

Let her soul be at rest for a pleasurable journey.

In life, some of us will run a MARATHON. The MARATHON is so rigorous with so many obstacles and hurdles to jump over. There are those who will SPRINT through life. If you’re a SPRINTER it is TIME to reflect. Don’t be in such a hurry to run a short race through THE DISTANCE.

You will meet with an early DESTINATION. When you hear someone make the comment “GONE TO SOON,” you’re beginning to understand life’s race can be shortened. Why are we in a hurry? We feel everything needs to be taken care of immediately.

How many laps can we run once the START button is pushed? Will we need to reset the start button because we have jumped the gun? Some of us will not get the opportunity to reset the start button in our lives. Will your life be a SPRINT? Can you endure the MARATHON?

A chain of events will take place on our life journey. There are TIMES when we will peek over into someone else’s life. We assume they have everything to live for. We are plagued by SHADOWING the lives of others. Our hearts are overcome with resentment, bitterness, and jealousy.

Finally, we graduated from HATRED ACADEMY. All the happiness, wealth, and power we assume an ICON lived, lies right there before our own two feet. What did we do? We stepped right over the most priceless commodity, TIME. We continued our HATRED CAMPAIGN.

This type of campaign diminishes one’s health and one’s life. The SHADOWING which is done to the lives of others has set us on a course for destruction. We yearn and grasp for what we think have made ICONS and other people successful. It blinded us and we lost track of who we could become.

We lost ourselves and we lost RESPECT for TIME. Reality is beginning to sink in. As the media reflects back on the IMAGE of the LIFE of an ICON, we realize we could never make the sacrifices in life to maintain the ICON lifestyle.

Bottom line: Never want what others have because you may not be willing to take the beat up for it.

Her music is beginning to rotate through my brain. As I walk through the stone garden, I hear her strong vocals bellow out “I Have Nothing.” The wind has picked up, my legs are beginning to weaken. The sorrow and sadness are starting to creep up on me.

I heard another rendition of the songbird voice. The tune was “I Look To You.” Many people say they never saw it coming. Did we PAY ATTENTION? She delivered a strong message in her MUSIC and in her BEHAVIOR. She went back to her gospel roots preparing for the journey home.

She was there to sing her last song with Kelly Price, “Jesus Loves Me.” She stopped in on CLIVE DAVIS, her long TIME mentor. She visited with Ray J, Brandi, and Monica. Bobbi Kristina got a chance to briefly visit with her Godfather. Brandi will never forget this birthday.

Sitting here on this stone, right at my eye level, is the DASH. From the day we are born to the day we die and have met our ESTIMATED TIME of ARRIVAL(ETA), there is THE DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE.

The DASH is all the life one is living and what goes on in between one’s life BEFORE they run THE DISTANCE. As the leaves crackle beneath my feet, I notice on the carving of the stones there are a lot of SPRINTERS here today. I came across this magnificent marble stone.

The birth date is here, and the DASH is here, but no DESTINATION date. I wonder if the person was a SPRINTER or A MARATHON RUNNER? Was this someone who had not been found and declared dead? Maybe the person was found and no one knew the DATE of his DESTINATION.

People in our lives demand so much from us. We cannot possibly meet all their requests. When it is TIME for us to meet the demands of our lives, so much Time has been devoured. The DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE is much shorter.

Every day from this moment on our ESTIMATED TIME OF ARRIVAL(ETA) draws near. We are so much closer to our DESTINATION. ALPHA is the beginning and OMEGA is the end. The DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE is the life we are now living. RESPECT TIME!

A door has not closed. The door is wide open. It will give others the opportunity to reflect on their lives and make changes and seek INTERVENTION.

In Loving Memory of Whitney Houston and the Celebration of her Life.

To the Houston/Brown Family, Clive Davis her long TIME mentor/dearest friend, and the many relatives/friends who mourn the loss of their loved one.

Visit the April archives. Read Rest Peaceful My Nubian Queen.

Visit the May archives. Read Reflection of Magical Moments on Twitter, I Have Learn, Etiology Of Quality, and Giving Recognition to the Unrecognized__Saving lives.

Visit the November archives and read Smokelbg Life Class__Dedicated To Oprah.

May you find peace in my words.

Lessons Within Lessons

by Linda Ballard

Scene: Smokelbg and a dear friend meet at APPRECIATION PARK to review and share lessons they have learned. They discuss how they feel about the work environment in Corporate America and changes they would make to have an effective/productive workplace.

Each person shares their views on CRONYISM, how it has affected the workplace, the political arena, business world, entertainment industry, and the effect it has on our lives daily. Opinions are shared on the Presidential Pretenders/Contenders and the behaviors they have displayed.

Views will be shared on the media and their instrumental role in keeping the public well-informed. How the media have put their lives on the line to get the WORLD to PAY ATTENTION. Which media matters and which media doesn’t.

Their reaction to Congress, Occupying Wall Street Movement, the Pepper Spraying of UC Berkeley, Icons, Penn State, Syracuse University, Citadel University and why this has broken trust for the American dream. Stay tuned, Smokelbg and her friend will spend the wheel on Black Friday.

Last but not least they will share their opinions on the failure of the Super Committee.

Smokelbg:

Surprise! Here you are in the next story. The NANA WHO BOOs are so excited. When I told my grandchildren it would be you, Mrs. Shirley, they laughed and laughed. Boodah stated her grandma was finally going to talk to a real person. She doesn’t want people to think NANA has lost it.

Whenever I mention the TEA PARTY she thought I was sitting around the table with these imaginary characters and a giant bunny rabbit. Boodah knows you and feels relieved. Boodah thought NANA’s creative writing had got the best of her.

The American Psychiatric Association(APA) probably thinks the same. I appreciate you coming to APPRECIATION PARK. How are you and the grandchildren getting along?

Mrs. Shirley:

Ms. Linda, you don’t mind if I call you Ms. Linda? I don’t think I will remember Smokelbg. I will end up calling you Ms. Linda anyway. Yeah, yeah, yeah, the grandchildren are fine and they are growing so fast. I can barely keep up with them. They keep me so busy but I’m loving every minute. Well, I’m doing okay but I was upset that I didn’t get the job. I have put in for that job at least four times. The people they pick is unreal. Ms. Linda, I wouldn’t be so offended if the people they had picked could at least do the job or pretend to know the job.

Smokelbg:

Of course, I don’t mind you calling me Ms. Linda. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. Right now, Mrs. Shirley, I see you are not comfortable. You have worked very hard for this company. Everyone knows you are the best-qualified candidate for the job and will do justice for your staff.

Mrs. Shirley:

Why do they keep passing me up?

Smokelbg:

We all have sat in this Chamber of Horrors. You look over into the next cubicle and you say, “What The Hah Hell!” I know I have worked my but off and they gave this position to CAPTAIN APPLE-HEAD. Yes, this is CRONYISM at its finest. In my neighborhood, we say the FBI is working the case. Somebody at the job site is either FAMILY(F), BRO(B), or an IN-LAW(I). The FBI has reached a decision and you are an OUTLAW to the INSTITUTION. Since you are NOT a RELATIVE you are NOT RELEVANT. This happens all the TIME in government and in every job sector across the world.

How do you think we got those PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS as front-runners? Our government has to come up with a better evaluation system to keep the riff-raff out. Check out their behavior and their mental processing. Who will control or be their BRAIN? Can you see LESSONS WITHIN LESSONS?

Mrs. Shirley:

You know Ms. Linda I was beginning to think I just couldn’t do a good job. I was really getting pretty depressed. I thought my co-workers had lost RESPECT for me. On a scale of 1-10, my self-esteem has dropped to 5 and the RESPECT I have for myself was halfway out the door.

Smokelbg:

It has nothing to do with whether or not you can do the job. It is the person ahead of you that feels threatened and wants to make sure they can CONTROL YOU in order for you to not come after their job. Mrs. Shirley whatever you do don’t give up. CAPTAIN APPLE-HEAD won’t last. They want you to feel just how you are feeling and even lower so you will not have the courage to reapply. Have any of the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS lasted? They all have been the flavor of the month.

Mrs. Shirley:

You know I really thought HERMAN CAIN could pull it off. If he had only came forward and admitted the TRUTH before everything got so out of hand. This really hurt him. Ms. Linda, they don’t mention HERMAN CAIN. Where is he and his 9-9-9 PLAN?

Smokelbg:

Mrs. Shirley, he is over in the junkyard being a TRUE DECEPTICON. He is the white Monte Carlo that has the sign on it that says, “Controlled, Bought, and will only be Sold by the Koch Brothers.” HERMAN CAIN has to FACE THE MUSIC. He is no longer a BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER.

He is the REAL MOTHER FOR YA, originally a song by JOHNNY “GUITAR” WATSON. I know BILL WOLFF will love this song. Play It Again Sam! Mrs. Shirley, I got to get you some of those motivational tapes by SIR RICHARD BRANSON. He will tell you SCREW IT! Let’s DO IT! By the way, Mrs. Shirley, HERMAN CAIN doesn’t know what the TRUTH is. Go back and review Don’t Make Me Put On My Gasoline Drawers. There are women coming out of the woodwork and HERMAN CAIN will never admit his guilt nor give up his dream of becoming President. HERMAN CAIN believes his own lies. Let’s see if his wife continues to believe in him or will she accept her husband is mentally ill. HERMAN CAIN will always be the PRESIDENT OF THE LADIES CLUB in his own MIND in his own TIME. He could have really used, DON’T ASK DON’T TELL.

Mrs. Shirley:

Finally, I am beginning to understand the message in your blog, NLD RECOGNITION, and how it is applied to the workforce. You wanted Corporate America to understand the mental processing of individuals on the job. Ms.Linda, there are so many people on the job that are set up for failure. They are placed in tasks in which they will not be successful due to the lack of education of Corporate America. They are not provided with the appropriate accommodations to do their job whether they are disabled or not. Opportunities are not given to employees. When the opportunity is given it is a PROMOTION for FAILURE not to SUCCEED. The majority of the employees prefer not to go to management because they feel nothing will ever come of it. Employees in Corporate America feel bullied. Management gets away with managing by intimidation and micromanagement.

Employees rights are being stripped away every day. It has gotten so bad employees change their shifts, cut their hours back, and won’t show up if they know that certain management teams are working in the same TIME frame of their schedule. The turnover is great. Attendance will be the number 1 problem as long as they have management who lack social communication skills, managers who are not qualified for the position, and managers who are not properly evaluated and brought in by a system who rewards cronyism or by the FBI. Management who breed only chaos and bring the morale down of the employees should be shipped out right away. Employees are used by those management teams to turn employees against one another. Management can’t stand those who question their authority or ask too many questions.

Management in Corporate America, just like the SCHOOL SYSTEMS, failed to understand this could be the individual mode of learning and ONE SIDE OF LEARNING DOES NOT FIT ALL. Yet the individual who looks different, learns different, or does not work as fast, is DISABLED. Ms. Linda, you would say, “How can management manage others when they are incapable of managing themselves?” I can see LESSONS WITHIN LESSONS.

Smokelbg:

What happens Ms.Shirley is the management team who are supportive, respected, get in the trenches with you, and are team players, get forced out. They are isolated and locked into their position. Good managers are denied promotions and they eventually leave Corporate America altogether. Does this ring a bell? Do you sometimes feel isolated within the workplace? The good team of management is not allowed to associate themselves with employees for fear the employees just might get properly trained. This is really sad. (Internal suppression)

When the employees come to work and feel like they are SUSPECTS, there is something definitely wrong with this picture. INEQUALITY and INJUSTICE for ALL take place in the workplace throughout the music, entertainment, sports, and many other work-related industries. You come on board, Mrs. Shirley would be another good manager who could think for themselves, would not stand for anyone trying to manipulate your work ethics, and wearing your GASOLINE DRAWERS. Any employees or new management coming into a new position in Corporate America would be provided with serious social communication classes to attend. If they process information differently, the company should provide the necessary accommodation to help the individual maintain their job.

Mrs. Shirley:

Ms. Linda, it would be a great start but I doubt if it will happen. Everyone is so worried about FUNDING and they worry less about people’s lives. Speaking of funding, what do you think about PENN STATE, SYRACUSE, and CITADEL UNIVERSITY? The sexual misconduct of those children/young adults was so terrible. It is beyond my thinking of how they could let something like this happen for so long. ICON or Not. No Life can become so big that other Lives are looked over are put at risk.

Smokelbg:

Many years ago BILL COSBY stated it was the parent’s responsibility to be vigilant over their child’s education and their lives. He was heavily criticized for it. CHARLES BARKLEY was criticized for stating to the public he was not a role model but their parents should be. Many parents across the nation, including myself, have suffered the INEQUALITY and INJUSTICE for our children/adults. It is painful and devastating to live in a society that has become INHUMANE and BARBARIC.

Our government, GOP, CONGRESS, REPUBLICANS, TEA PARTY, are not team players. They do not understand that our NATION is INTERDEPENDENT on other NATIONS. Our government has made very poor decisions. The PEOPLE of OUR NATION have taken it to the streets and now OCCUPY WALL STREET. This movement is for EQUALITY and JUSTICE. “What the Hah Hell” the 1% get subsidized by the government. It is just a play on words. They are the BIG BALLERS of WELFARE.

Mrs. Shirley, it is frightening to think that our society has become so materialistic, money driven, and willing to sacrifice the lives of the poor and middle class to protect the 1% funding. The lives of children were sacrificed just to protect the schools, funding, and their ICONS. Schools would cheat on test scores just to say our children have made improvements when they can barely read, spell, or write. Atlanta had the biggest cheating scandal in the country that was under investigation back in 2009. Their dishonesty finally caught up with Atlanta School District on 7/5/2011.

There were 56 schools examined and 44 schools got busted which was 178 of their teachers and principals cheating (78%). Governor NATHAN DEAL released a statement. It was first reported by the Atlanta Journal-Constitution. Atlanta was the first to openly admit their cheating. Earlier, cheating scandals were found in Washington DC. They are not the only schools. This has taken place for many years. It now involves more money, real estate, and their AAA (triple-A rating). Do you know what brings about this corruption, Mrs.Shirley?

Mrs. Shirley:

I’m really not sure. I know you probably found an answer.

Smokelbg:

Better than that, I have LIVED IT. The Government, Workforce Industries, Schools, Financial Institutions, and other Nations around the World strategically “CREATE AN ATMOSPHERE OF FEAR.” This climate of fear works like a PRESSURE COOKER. It ignites the fuel for INTIMIDATION. The gauge goes up and the flames turn into a greater FEAR of RETALIATION. Once the heat of this pressure is applied, the individual has the option of cheating, lying stealing and others will go so far as to kill another human being. You are now just as CORRUPT as the INSTITUTION.

You can tell the TRUTH. Consequences ride with this POWER. If you are isolated and punished for telling the TRUTH, at the end of the day you are still CREDIBLE, BELIEVABLE, and RESPECTABLE. Your VOICE can still be heard and you can restore TRUST. I prefer the TRUTH and PEACE OF MIND.

Mrs.Shirley:

Well, Ms. Linda, that is never going to happen with the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. They have all stored their lies under RICK PERRY’S ROCK. I give them credit for letting us know where we really stand. They ain’t no SMOOTH OPERATOR. I will go back and read this story again.

The only SUPER COMMITTEE we need is to balance the MINDS of those who are IMBALANCED. This is the greatest DEFICIT in our NATION. You wanted us to see the INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS who “CREATE THE ATMOSPHERE OF FEAR.” I can see for the first time. The lies, deceit, and cover-ups hurt the mainstream. The action and decision of the GOP, REPUBLICANS, TEA PARTY and BLUE DOG DEMOCRATS crippled and DISABLED our NATION. Where will the line be drawn for the DISABLED and a DISABLED NATION?

Smokelbg:

This is a LESSON WITHIN LESSONS when you realize everything you fought for is right there for the world to see and needs to be POINTED OUT From PENN STATE to the worthless DEBATES… all of it is really the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART. Everyone is at risk not just NLD Syndrome and other exceptionalities.

Take a good look at the hands that our lives and our children’s lives have fallen into. You call this NORMAL. I hope the 36,000 thousand physicians under the Umbrella of the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION (APA) vote for an INTELLIGENT MIND, bypass the COLOR and not focus on funding. It was the funding that stimulated the corruption, devalued the lives of the poor and middle class, divided the nation, and placed MONEY over a HUMAN LIFE. Something massive had to occur to reach back in and draw out the hidden stories. PENN STATE did its job.

Mrs.Shirley:

Every time I talk to you, Ms. Linda, it feels like I am at a seminar. You really got me PAYING ATTENTION. I can’t stay away from ED SCHULTZ and RACHEL MADDOW SHOW. I have learned so much. I want Bill WOLFF to have his music back. He may be more productive in his environment with it. I am not saying BILL WOLFF isn’t productive. He needs to be happy. Did you see how the PRESIDENT handled his Microphone Checks? He embraced his MIC CHECK, handled the voices of the people, and sent a message with his smile.

Scott Walker, the governor of Wisconsin, got shut down. Michele Bachman ran off. Karl Rove got P.O. Where was his BRAIN? Ron Paul was condescending with his remark of “Feel Better”. The media have been so instrumental in bringing the public so much information and news coverage. I’m quite sure the rest of the world appreciated the charts to see how the 99% have FLATLINED and the 1% have FLOURISHED. It is so helpful to know which media is worth watching. I don’t watch FOX NEWS, they get everything twisted. They do not matter.

I did get upset with the college kids getting pepper sprayed. This was a peaceful movement. Everyone involved should have gotten fired for the way those students were treated. They could have gone to some of the retails stores on BLACK FRIDAY.

There wasn’t anything peaceful about BLACK FRIDAY. Where did all those people come from? Where did they get all that money? Every store I went to people were giving the clerks money not plastic. Ms. Linda, why do they really call it BLACK FRIDAY? I heard a horrible comment in one of the stores. I was so embarrassed. Does race have anything to do with Black Friday?

Smokelbg:

You know what, Mrs. Shirley, that is another LESSON WITHIN LESSONS. In the meantime, we are going to go and get us a bite to eat. You are going to get that promotion and this was A VERY GOOD DAY.

Smooth Operator

by Linda Ballard

I tried to catch up with you the other day. The pace was too much for me. It felt like a marathon. My legs are so much shorter. Just when I thought I had caught up with your stride, my body hit pay dirt. You left me hanging off the rail wishing I had a bottle of Primestine Mist. One thing about it, you were dressed to impress. The navy blue suit you wore was raising hell and the lavender tie set it off. The look on your face was serious. Your arms swung out evenly from side to side. It didn’t matter how many emergencies the city had, you looked as though you were ready to put them all out. Are you wearing your Gasoline Drawers?

Every person you encountered on the streets was given a strong handshake. Your smile came bursting through. Words of hope were given to all the people who felt beaten down by the economy. Then all of a sudden you sat down on the curb in your nice suit. Do you think Eric Cantor or Paul Ryan would have given an uplifting curb service speech to the people in their high dollar cha-ching suit? Don’t answer!

Wherever you were headed it didn’t seem important anymore. You were answering questions about concerns of jobs, infrastructure, voters suppression, and the Big 3(Social Security, Medicare, and Medicaid). An old lady appeared from out of nowhere. Silence came over the crowd. You looked directly into her eyes and you reached out and held her hand. Then you said, “How can I help you?” She responded, “You have helped me.” You are learning to ask the questions. Inclusions make you a part of us.

Sitting here among the people you have included yourself. The Republicans tried to divide you from WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION. You have not let Pride override the welfare of the People. The Republicans tried to make the American people feel in taking out the dictators, it was only your victory. WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION understood it was a victory for all. You are starting to learn from your MISTAKES. Achievement comes with ACKNOWLEDGING your MISTAKES and taking RESPONSIBILITY for your MISTAKES. You have shown the American People deference.Through all the criticism you did not let your head drop below the water. The eternal flame burns deep inside of you. The Human Factor works in your favor. You have remained HUMANE.

The Presidents before you made mistakes. The PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS have taken it to a new level of mistakes. Herman Cain is the cousin of the other mother, Oscar OCD, who is always entertaining the NO NO THOUGHTS. Go back and refresh your memory. Oscar OCD was in EASTER UNDER THE UMBRELLA_FOR NLD. Oscar OCD always referred to his little cousin Herman, as Captain Nasty McNuts. Tyrone Tourettes, the cousin of Bobby Tourettes, thought it meant Herman liked McNuggets. AH NO! I don’t think so.

Strange that HERMAN grew up in the Restaurant Business. Since he made his POKEMAN SPEECH he probably needs to call PICACHO to the RESCUE. The next cartoon character he might want to be is a TRANSFORMER. Yes, Herman Cain is more than meets the eye. He is the original DECEPTICON along with the other PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. Starscream, Herman Cain, cannot be trusted. He is always trying to find a way to overthrow Megatron, Rick Perry. Sounds like this is playing in the media right about now.

Megatron, Rick Perry, is at Lowes picking up paint for his METEORITES which is all wrong. Sentinel Prime, Mitt Romney, has switched sides and his numbers still didn’t move in the polls. This is the perfect world for Mitt Romney.

He has so many characters to TRANSFORM into. If I was Herman Cain I would stay with the TRANSFORMERS. He’s going to need a hideout within himself and a new theme song. No one will ever notice the White 1999 MONTE CARLO is Herman Cain in the junkyard. The sign will read We BUY, SELL, and OWN previous DECEPTICONS by the Koch Brothers. In Training Day, Denzel Washington drove the Black MONTE CARLO. Herman Cain is NO Denzel.

Now it is TIME to develop a trusted loyal Crew so you won’t look distant or be isolated from your base. Steve Israel, Head of the Democratic Congressional Committee can whip the Democrats into shape. Lean to the side of the strong Democrats who use the media. In Smokelbg Tweets she gives her thumbs up to Bernie Sanders, Debbie Wasserman Schultz.

We can’t leave out Barney Franks and Chuck Schumer, the Progressive/Liberal Democrats. You got the Ohio Players, not the singing group, the Democrats in Ohio. Sherrod Brown and Marcy Kaptur would be excellent team players.

The DEMOCRATS need to speak out and be compassionate about their leader. You have come a very long way. We can see your growth. Your message has gotten stronger. Son, I ain’t stopped BELIEVING in you. So you better not stop BELIEVING. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. BELIEVE IN YOUR PURPOSE. BELIEVE IN YOUR VISION. BELIEVE you are a SMOOTH OPERATOR.

Another voice shouts out from the crowd. SMOOTH OPERATOR, the REPUBLICANS are totally thrown off course. Their hatred is letting people around our nation and other nations know they have RESPECT only for the BENJAMIN’S BABY. All this business about your job ratings in the polls is at 40% is a bunch of sardines. Just think if we had Muammar Gaddafi for 42 years. Instead, we have Charles and David Koch causing havoc. We need to occupy their headquarters.

Who cares about those numbers? What polls are they reporting from? It sounds like Fox News statistics. Their math is way off the charts. They never do their research. We all know Bill O’Reilly is never WRONG. I do like Greta Van Susteren, Sheppard Smith, Geraldo Rivera, and Chris Wallace. Geraldo Rivera barbecues BILL O’Reilly’s butt. Geraldo is the chef of Burnt Ends. Watch out, Bobby Flay!

Chris Wallace broke down and told John Stewart that Fox News is Conservative. John Stewart of the DAILY SHOW keeps his Gasoline Drawers on and uses his flamethrower to set Fox News on fire. Fox News thinks this is the story of ROOTS 999. They made a lot of people have a “What The Hah Hell” moment. I guess Herman Cain is their Black. “What the Hah Hell” do they mean by your black/my black. Let’s send a friendly reminder to FOX NEWS letting them know that Slave Days Are Over.

Do they really have a Candidate? A young lady’s voice in the crowd rang out. With everything the Republicans have done to you, I would have blown a gasket. SMOOTH OPERATOR smiles and replies, “I need YOUR support.” War within Wars is no good. I am here for the People. The losses have made me gain great knowledge and great strength. I have Learned and Transformed. The past is just that, the past. The Moment is Now. We will continue to Press On. I will not be discouraged by Congress, the Republicans, and the TEA PARTY. The REPUBLICANS reading this will say I did not answer the question. We have to stop BLAMING. We need to Start MAINTAINING our government.

There are TIMES when we take Action, the Words are fulfilled. There are TIMES when we take Words and we may Fail to carry out the Action. Remember the word has been “NO.” Remember the Action was not carried out. Remember to do the Math. Remember that only 4 Democrats voted against the AMERICAN JOB ACT. The young lady asked, Who were the 4 Democrats? An elder man steps up and starts calling out names. It was them old tired Conservative Blue Dog Democrats. Roll Call Sister!

It was Senator Ben Nelson of Nebraska, Senator Joe Lieberman of Connecticut, Senator John Tester of Montana, and Senator Mark Pryor of Arkansas. I tell you what Sister, I can Remember 4 names. Baby Girl, all 49 REPUBLICANS voted against the bill. Now it is gonna be hard Remembering all 49 Knucklehead REPUBLICANS. Just Remember the Herman Cain Theory, 4+5=9 and you take out the (+5=) and you got 49. Maybe he will get 49 years for the 4 women he sexually harassed.

Why did it take 4 women and not just 1 of these charges to be acknowledged and taken seriously? Is it possible that a SUPREME COURT JUSTICE may have slipped through the cracks? Is it okay to label the poor and middle-class behavior? Why are we not acknowledging the behaviors of the rich and high-profile government officials? Go back and review GOT NO TIME TO BE DISABLED in the March Archives. You will find an answer.

A young boy around the age of 6 breaks through the crowd. His presence breaks the tension. “Are you who I think you are?” Somebody said you are the President of the United States. I told them No Way! You are the man with the plan. The man who understands. The man with the whole world in the palm of his hands. You are a SMOOTH OPERATOR. He jumps into PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA’s lap and gives him a big hug. He lifts the young boy into the air. “I will keep my Promise.”

ADVISORY ALERT: It is hard for people diagnosed with NLD Syndrome and other exceptionalities to come off as SMOOTH OPERATORS. Some may lack the social communication skills, inability to read social cues, and interpreting body language. Others may have trouble with personal hygiene, and cocktail party speech. They have difficulty interpreting facial expression. It is hard for them to initiate a conversation or end a conversation. Their social judgment is poor. NLDers are not sure where his or her space is and cannot judge the distance(space invaders). This is due to visual-spatial organization. They are labeled by others as annoying, ill-mannered, rude, discourteous, and smart “aleck.”

People diagnosed with NLD Syndrome cannot detect hidden meanings of language and social interactions aren’t detected There will be many outbursts, social blunders, misinterpretations, and misjudgments. NLDers end up being the victims and are victimized because they are naively trusting. They DO NOT understand a person that is deceitful, cunning, or who manipulates others. They have faulty spatial perception only getting half of the picture.

Their behaviors are misinterpreted by our society as being INTENTIONAL. Their neurological and neuro-behavior right hemisphere disorder is UNINTENTIONAL. Sexual Harassment is a term that is very vaguely defined. It happens a lot in the workplace. It entails social situations, the making of unwanted sexual advances, and obscene remarks. How would it be possible to charge a person with NLD SYNDROME with sexual harassment if they have these characteristics and traits? People with NLD SYNDROME will not have a clue to what sexual harassment or any other type of harassment is due to the nature of their neurological disorder and their UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS.

My advice to all parents is finding a neuro-psychologist or psychiatrist that has had years of knowledge, training, and experience in the field of Nonverbal Learning Disability. It is very essential that you have your child tested early. This diagnosis has been overlooked for 41 years and has not been placed on the DSM4. This is a great disservice to millions of people who are looking for answers for their children/adults. When AUTISM, ASPERGER, ADD, ADHD, PDD-NOS, OCD, TOURETTES SYNDROME, ANXIETY DISORDER, TIC DISORDER, just doesn’t add up, PLEASE turn YOUR ATTENTION to NLD SYNDROME

How many TIMES have people with NLD SYNDROME diagnosed/undiagnosed been falsely accused, misjudged, socially isolated, and punished repeatedly because society has failed to be educated about this neurological disorder?
How many people are locked away in institutions, given a counterproductive treatment plan, or heavily medicated because they have gone undiagnosed, the diagnosis is ignored/is hidden or the diagnoses were not understood?

How many people with this diagnosis have been falsely accused of a crime they didn’t commit or understand it was a crime due to the nature of their disability and their UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS? How many people with this diagnosis have been incarcerated? How many lives have been lost and our society will continue to lose due to the secondary diagnosis of anxiety, stress, depression, and panic attack? Think about it. I hope this will help millions of people.

How can our society continue to violate the HUMAN and CIVIL RIGHTS of people with this diagnosis? This is in the DEFENSE for NLD SYNDROME. NLD Mom/cancer survivor

Refreshers Course In NLD

by Linda Ballard

There are many viewers who are coming to this blog for the first TIME. Here we are 10 months later and unless you started from the January Archives you probably don’t have a clue about NLD Syndrome. I could tell you to go back and read the stories in the January Archives. It’s really Time for a refresher course on NLD. NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disability) is a developmental disability that affects the right-hemisphere of the brain. NLDers process information differently because they miss a lot of information. This contributes to misinterpretation of the world around them. Without the whole piece of the puzzle, it causes them to act out inappropriately or unexpectedly.

If you can’t understand the tone of a person’s voice, give eye contact, or read the person’s body language there are going to be several misunderstandings. This is a neuro-behavioral disorder and the person with NLD has UNINTENTIONAL behaviors. They are NOT EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED.

This neurological disorder goes UNRECOGNIZED and unattended by professionals, teachers, parents, and society. Individuals who are diagnosed with NLD Syndrome demonstrate a mature vocabulary/very language proficient, rote memory skills (mechanical, habitual, repetition), and an excellent reading ability. People with this disorder can have difficulty interacting with others, transitioning to new settings, adapting to changes, working with new people, and trouble with writing/fine motor coordination. Although reading skills are exemplary, abstract concepts need to be explained in detail. Individuals with NLD Syndrome have difficulty understanding metaphors (a figure of speech), emotional nuances (may not be able to understand the expression on a persons face, the sound of their voice, or body language), multiple levels of meanings, relationship issues. My advice to you if you are talking with a person with NLD Syndrome, give a simple description, explicit explanations, and be very patient.

The three areas that encompass or surround NLD Syndrome is Motoric, Visual-Spatial/visual perceptual, and Social. Let’s start with Motoric. This deals with dexterity: the task of manipulating small objects, writing, typing, buttoning buttons. Riding a bike is grueling. Tying shoes may take years. It is hard for them to catch their balance, secure their equilibrium or bounce back with their balance. NLDers really work hard to master athletic skills. Sitting and eating on the floor is preferable.

I hope you’ve got other silverware because NLDers may resist eating with a fork or spoon. They are not interrogating you. NLDers full-fledged learning mode is when they are asking questions. They have problems on the left side of their body. Psycho-motor skills involve the thinking through the process of physical movements such as coordination, speed, manipulation of the object, agility, dexterity, strength, and grace. Bottom line, if you are still holding the ball, you are thinking about it for an extended period of TIME, or trying to figure out “What The Hah Hell” to do with the ball, you have poor psychomotor coordination.

You are not going to be on DANCING WITH THE STARS. You are no MARIO ANDRETTI, and there will be NO KAREEM ABDUL JABAAR SKYHOOK. The key is it comes easy or more automatic and you have not spent so much time processing out every little detail. Are you still sitting in the parking lot? Are you trying to figure out why you keep getting so many driving violations? Driving is major coordination. NLDers can succeed in these tasks but it may take a very long TIME and please be PATIENT.

In the area of visual-perception/visual-spatial, people with NLD have difficulty understanding and reading maps, charts, graphs, left, right, drawing complex figures, and understanding higher math such as geometry. Thank God for GPS, color by number, etch of a   sketch, and all the wonderful apps that are put on the magnificent IPAD for learning. STEVE JOBS and his wonderful team revolutionized the world. NLDers talk their way through a situation. They are auditory-verbal learners and they need to hear what is being processed. A blue-tooth solves this problem of everyone staring when NLDers are processing out loud. From bumping into people, struggling with concept formation, and not getting the whole picture, they have the market cornered.

Social miscueing causes problems interpreting body language, and facial expression. People with NLD have problems in this area. Sometimes they stand too close (space invaders), or too far away when engaging in a conversation. It is hard for them to understand how to start a conversation or for them to end the conversation. If you can get them to deal with the situation in a practical, sensible, and realistic manner versus philosophical or theoretical manner you are batting a thousand (pragmatic skills). They have outbursts, are labeled annoying, or want to get all the attention. NLDers just won’t let go, they hold on, have many social blunders, are abrupt/have knife cutting responses, and they have difficulty thinking creatively or abstractly. They have problems with identifying faces or reading the person’s face, interpreting gestures/deciphering body posture, An NLDer doesn’t change their speech, have a monotone voice, and constantly misjudge or misinterpret what is being put before them or said to them.

NLDers have attentional deficits causing difficulty in coping with over-stimulating or distracting environments and requiring them to have limited distractions and assistance in focusing themselves. They have difficulty in performing multiple tasks simultaneously causing them to need to do one thing at a TIME and LIMIT the amount of information they can take in at the same TIME(They CANNOT follow multiple commands given at once). Organizational skills are a huge problem area with NLDers. They have a very hard TIME organizing material on their own. Assistance is needed in the area of writing outlines, sequencing/order, planning, prioritizing, transitioning from one idea or aspect of a project/problem to another. Does this remind you of anyone? Feel free to go back and review the January Archives.

DEDICATED: Everyone across America, take a closer look at this diagnosis. I wonder why the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION(APA), with 38,000 psychiatrists under their UMBRELLA failed to put NLD SYNDROME on the map after 41 years?

Why did the APA see fit to enlist diagnoses, such as sex addiction or internet addiction or other impertinent diagnoses that let people ESCAPE from being held ACCOUNTABLE for their INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS?

Dr. PHIL, DR. DREW, DR. OZ, DEEPAK CHOPRA and many other specialists in the field of medicine and psychiatry would probably agree with me. Too many people are severely hurt and have died from not being properly diagnosed or overlooked altogether.

Should the APA be held accountable for leaving Nonverbal Learning Disability(NLD), a neurological disorder with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS off of their diagnostic manual? They are well aware that people who are diagnosed with this disorder can suffer from severe depression. Why did the APA stop testing? Why has there not been more information distributed on NLD Syndrome? Has the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION been corrupted by money and politics to protect their funding?

Is the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION trying to close the GAP on INTENTIONAL versus UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS? Or would it be our GOVERNMENT? Our government has been very dysfunctional. Take a look at the contenders for PRESIDENCY. Look even closer at the GOP, REPUBLICANS, TEA PARTY, BLUE DOG DEMOCRATS and some members of the CONGRESSIONAL BLACK CAUCAS. We can tell from watching the debates the front-runners have serious problems. The weakest links will once again be controlled by the 1%. Who’s brain will be used if one of the contenders is chosen for President? Our JUSTICE SYSTEM has been very UNJUST. Our Supreme Court System is totally out of BOUNDS and off the Court. Our Constitution needs to be revamped.

Think about it AMERICA! Something is seriously wrong. Who should be held ACCOUNTABLE? Who is covering up?

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep__An NLD Mother’s Prayer

by Linda Ballard

It appears that certain government officials didn’t like the language of President Barack Obama’s Speech. I did not come here to defend the President because this is a man who can PRESS ON.

MAXINE WATERS, you may like your HIGH HEELS, you may not like wearing SLIPPERS. You say you work, you march, but you are sending a mixed message to the people. There are many ways which each individual can convey their message.

It appears you have a problem with understanding what others are trying to convey or even say. Are YOU listening? Do YOU have your own AGENDA?

Being candid can give people the impression in which your straightforwardness reflects no COMPASSION, EMPATHY, or SUPPORT. My son speaks candidly. He was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome at the age of 4 years 10 months. Now that he is older he has a very strong voice and tone. He is more like Chris Christie only a DEMOCRAT. Chris Christie has a very strong tone and so far there is no recanting of what he may say. I asked my son what is it about MAXINE WATERS that is disturbing about her political stance. He said, “If you go to the CREW you will find 15 MOST CORRUPT MEMBERS of CONGRESS on this LIST”. Yes, she is on the list and she has her own agenda. He also stated she was listed for the year 2006, 2007, and 2009. The future of government lies in the hands of our younger adults. How can we trust the platform of government officials if our elder’s behaviors are so poorly?

The behavior of Elected officials in government doesn’t match the words that come from their mouths. Maxine Waters has continued to insert her foot in her mouth and videotaped her A… Yet rudeness has been placed upon the backs of those with NLD Syndrome. People diagnosed with NLD Syndrome bear the scars and wear the banners of curtness, inappropriate/unexpected behavior, behavior problems, angry/explosive and implosive behavior. Our society accused those with NLD Syndrome with acting out intentionally. Yet this behavior has been relentlessly displayed by Maxine Waters and many other government officials. You are in for a rude awakening if you know someone diagnosed with NLD Syndrome.They will wax your A… and continue to buff.

Sugar coating will never happen. Loyalty is a strong trait that NLDers carry which political officials need to borrow. Maxine Waters’ sense of loyalty will reveal itself on the evening news by once again recanting her statements. Showing her loyalty lies with her own personal agenda of having a political position in the year 2012. We are tired of our Government officials throwing each other under the bus. The behavior of our government is deplorable.

My son’s political stance is not to go golfing with John Boehner and feel comfortable with Mitch McConnell. We all know where he stands. Eric Canter blocks all and keeps everything to himself. Jim Demint’s followers, the Tea Party, are out of control. The Republicans and the Tea Party recant their statements all the TIME. As a race of people, we need to support the INTELLIGENCE OF THE MIND and those decisions which will affect the lives of not just one RACE of people but for ALL the people.

Our young adults are taking a closer look at the political figures. Herman Caine announced he was a real black man. If you have to do a public service announcement on your manhood you fall short in a lot of areas. Herman Cain, Alan West, Jessie Lee Peterson, Lloyd Marcus, Star Parker and many others who are attached at the right hip of the Right Wing Extremists will get a friendly reminder from their GRAND MOO FA.

Rush Limbaugh, Grand MOO FA, his second in command Glenn Beck, and all of FOX NEWS will make a public service announcement to Herman Caine and his BLACK JACK GANG. It will be brief. The Grand Moo FA doesn’t think that African Americans are INTELLIGENT. Herman Caine shares those same beliefs and thinks we have been brainwashed into becoming DEMOCRATS. “You People” have confused the younger African Americans and we have accomplished our goal, stated the GRAND MOO FA. On the Tyra Banks show, we saw African Americans wanting to be white. Younger adults wanting to belong to the KKK. Hell, even in grade school, smaller children are beginning to think dark skin is ugly and natural hair is nappy.

When smaller children are asked to pick out who is the smarter child, they picked out the one who is white. You guys have been just great in screwing up your race. You have served your Purpose and your services are no longer needed. “Herman Caine while you were out trying to discover your identity and put your BLACKNESS under the Microscope, I Rush Limbaugh, the Grand Moo FA, discovered something better.” You are not FREE to go. We Own you. What a Sell-Out. Price of Success.

The Congressional BLACK CAUCUS and the BLUE DOG DEMOCRATS need to understand it is not just about the POLITICS of our government. This is about the lives of the PEOPLE and what is best for the PEOPLE.

Our children’s lives should pave the way for a brighter future. Our children’s lives are at great risk and they are no longer living out the full term of their life. A parent’s worst nightmare is to see their child in a coffin surrounded by other young adults. This is a permanent TIME OUT and Recess is over. Even if our children grow up it is hard to see them incarcerated, on death row, and murdered by a senseless death. Before my children were put to bed at night they would get on their knees and pray.

Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the Lord My soul shall keep. If I should die before I wake. I pray the Lord my soul shall take. This prayer has been modified for today’s children and young adults. Before I lay my head to rest. I pray to God I have done my best. When death comes to my soul, I pray to God my children grow old. AMEN! It is TIME TO PRESS ON. It is TIME for TIME_EXTENSION OF LIFE.

DEDICATED: To the future of our children. IN loving MEMORY of STEVE JOBS whose EXIT is NOW A PERMANENT ENTRANCE. You take a closer look at people and everything that surrounds your life. For the first TIME, the field of one’s life extends across the way. It is not dying from what you have but living with the TRUTH of what you have. The TRUTH of having your hands on DEATHS DOORWAY changes everything about you. Steve Jobs, myself, and many others who wear those shoes know what is TRULY IMPORTANT. The TRUTH is a powerful key and it will UNLOCK many doors. DISEASE AND DEATH is the LATCH that can be OPEN with the key of TRUTH. ACCEPTANCE of the TRUTH gives an extension to live. DENIAL of the TRUTH shortens the desire to fight the LATCH of DISEASE and DEATH when you finally come to grips with the TRUTH.

NLD Mom/cancer survivor

Major Player In My Life

by Linda Ballard

All this turbulence has cradled my heart.
There is little left of my airflow.
My father and I are miles apart.
The loneliness has continued to grow.

I just need to find a picture
Of all the good TIMES we shared.
We both are a crazy mixture.
Dad, I know you truly cared.

I’m sitting here lonely in my room.
Help me figure this one out.
This feeling of unrelenting gloom,
Has stricken me with so much doubt.

I hope you left me a letter.
My spirit has begun to descend.
I’m praying it will make it all better.
I hope this is not the end.

What is that on the table?
Can this be the answers I seek?
Give me the strength to be able,
To know our situation isn’t bleak.

To my son, I will always love you.
The separation cuts deep like a knife.
The bond we share is like Super Glue.
You’re the Major Player In My Life.

Nothing has changed but the distance.
I’m filing for a divorce from my wife.
Your mother has not been resistant.
You’re the Major Player In My Life.

I will continue to support you and your mother.
There is no bad blood, conflict, or strife.
We will continue to love one another.
You’re the Major Player In My Life.

DEDICATION: This is dedicated to NATHAN MAJORS who has handled his trials and tribulations with great courage. In the face of adversity, he has become better and not bitter. Nathan has continued to be an AWESOME, AWESOME father. He has continued to hold his rank among men who are breaking the cycle of DEADBEAT DADS, NO CALL NO SHOW FATHERS, and ABSENTEE FATHERS. Unlike Congressman JOE WALSH of ILLINOIS, TEA PARTY REPUBLICAN that has not paid his wife and children $117,437.00 for 9 years is bad news for all the GOOD MEN who are STEPPING UP THEIR GAME.

To all my NLDERS here is the comparison and contrasting behavior of what is INTENTIONAL. JOE WALSH behavior is highly unacceptable. There are many men around the world who doesn’t hold the position JOE WALSH hold. These men have been called out to pay child support for way less. How did he slip through the cracks? JOE WALSH needs to be held accountable. NLD Mom/cancer survivor

Let Fathers Be Fathers

by Linda Ballard

This experience is frightening for me. Our son has to go through a diagnostic evaluation to see if he has a learning disability. He was fine until he reached middle school then his grades begin to drop. The more things he had to do on his own he just didn’t seem to be able to get organized for his school work. I thought it was because his grandmother passed away. Quincy and his grandmother were so close. She practically raised him from a baby. His mother, Catherine, worked two jobs and her mother offered to help us out. JoAnn, Catherine’s mother, was a diabetic. I always felt my wife should quit one of her jobs so we could spend more time with Quincy. I didn’t mind making the sacrifice to work the extra hours. I wanted at least one parent to be with Quincy so he wouldn’t feel he was so alone. She was forced to quit one of the jobs after her mother died. I don’t know if she resented coming home.

I worked for the railroad. It was a fairly decent pay when I put in the extra long hours. Milton, a long time co-worker, and my best friend had a son diagnosed with autism. He shared many stories about his son. Milton’s stories frightened me because they always seemed to be so closely connected to my life. It appeared that Milton and his ex-wife had problems regarding their son being autistic. Later I learn Milton’s ex-wife had trouble with any women coming around her son or dating Milton.

Milton had gained full custody of his son. He was very proactive in his son’s life. Milton had started an autism support group. He had invited me several times. It always made me feel as if Milton was so many steps ahead of me. He continued to ask me to come and participate in the Autism group. Some parts of me wanted to attend but the other half of me was afraid. For some reason, I could see part of my life being like Milton. It felt like the movie Face Off.

Catherine and I had trouble in our marriage. She blamed herself for not being there when her mother passed away. We had problems before her mother ever came to stay. Her mother’s presence helped relieve a great amount of stress in our household.

JoAnn was so patient and kind with Quincy. She was Quincy’s rock. Catherine and I were so tired after working so many hours. It left us no room to deal with Quincy’s problems. It didn’t allow him the ability to process when he became angry and frustrated. JoAnn would always tell Catherine, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It. Let the boy’s father deal with his behavior. Catherine was quick-tempered and lacked patience. It would make Quincy’s behavior become very explosive.

More and more Quincy’s behavior started changing and he begins to sleep a lot. I became greatly concerned because I thought Quincy was slipping into a state of depression. Catherine said Quincy just wanted attention and he was just lazy and she didn’t have the time to be bothered with his foolishness. Where did that response come from? When I ask her about her statement, she glared at me with her lip twisted and stormed out of the room. I guess that was my answer. We had begun to argue more frequently.

I was all for the evaluation but Catherine would get upset every time I would try to talk about it. We were getting closer to our evaluation date. Catherine had almost totally shut down. The moments of silence were killing me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Every time I would try to discuss how we could help Quincy she would bring up her father and how he would deal with the situation. Catherine was very close to her father. At the age of 17, her father died on his way to work of a stroke. She always compared me to her dad. At first, I didn’t mind. I kind of thought it was an honor until I talked to JoAnn. Before Catherine’s mother died we had this conversation about JoAnn’s husband. He wasn’t the man my wife made him out to be.

In the heat of the moment, I tried to get Catherine to talk. When she mentioned her dad my head spun around like I was the star in the Exorcist. The next thing I knew I had revealed what Catherine’s mother had told me about her dad. At that moment I realized from the look on my wife’s face she never knew. My heart-felt as if it was going to come through my chest. I would never say or do anything to hurt Catherine. It was all over. Catherine ran into the bedroom and started grabbing her clothes out of the closet. I was trying to prevent her from leaving and I don’t remember what happened after that. I have tried to relive that moment in the bedroom a thousand times. The only thing I do remember is I was trying to guard my face. When I looked down, my shirt was bloody. From the mirror in the bedroom, I could see scratches all over my body. I called Milton to see if he could pick Quincy up from school. He never asked for an explanation.

Everything was going through my mind. Did she call the police? When were the police going to arrive? Whatever happened in that bedroom, Catherine never came back. The police never showed up. Who said that men don’t cry. I cried for days and days. I love my wife but we always seem to communicate with other people. That did not help our marriage at all. Months had passed and finally, I got a call from one of Catherine’s longtime friends from New York. Beverly told me Catherine was granting me full custody of Quincy. Before I could ask about Catherine, I was listening to the dial-tone. Just when I thought I had pulled myself together the crying came back. Here was my son asking all these questions and I had no answers. Quincy and I had to move on.

Quincy did get evaluated and he was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome. I have full custody of Quincy now. He often asks me if he was the cause of his mother leaving. He wonders will she ever come back. I wonder the same. Catherine and I never really communicated what was on our minds and in our hearts. We were both too young to have children. I am seeking professional help. There is so much I need to work through. I don’t want to be an angry parent. This isn’t just about my life. I need to be sure I don’t damage Quincy’s life. He has a lot to deal with. I will be right there for him. I have a lot to learn about NLD Syndrome. Milton is helping me to set up a support group and build a website. Yes, I am afraid that I will keep my promise to Quincy’s grandmother. Let Fathers be Fathers and continue to advocate for their children’s needs. Let Fathers be Fathers and understand the social and emotional part of their children’s life. Let Fathers Be Fathers and show the love, support, and embrace their child’s weakness just as they would rally around their strengths. JoAnn is probably looking down on me and Quincy today. As JoAnn would say, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It.

DEDICATION: This story is dedicated to a young man who had to deal with it. He has done an exceptional job and is very supportive of his family and children. He would make any mother proud of how he is handling his life and the lives of family and friends he has touched. This one is for you, Willie Watson.

Just So You Don’t Think You Are Crazy

by Linda Ballard

Ok, Gang, we are not ordering Pizza and we are not watching any Movies. You saw what happened to the Republicans and the Tea Party. They just don’t get it. Pizza gives you Gas and you can Blow Yourself Out of The Box. The Deal John Boehner tried to put in place went down 59 to 41 in the Senate. If John Boehner had read any of SMOKELBG’S SUPERBOWL STORIES he would have learned Twisting people’s’ Arm and Cursing at his Gang Will Not Work. First of all, John Boehner didn’t know his people. He needed a manual on the Republican Tea Party. The people he did know he decided to punish them. The ones he Punished found out he Didn’t Know Anything. John Boehner’s Gang has received a TKO. Teddy Pendergrass was Not singing the song. John Boehner only made the Republican Tea Party anger escalate and their behaviors showed its A… The Boehner Gang is now watching STAR TREK II, WRATH OF KHAHN. The movie was spectacular. The Internal Squabble behind the scenes of the movie is the Republicans vs. Tea Party.

Gene Roddenberry got kicked to the curb for changing his mind too much and going over the limit of his budget. He was given one of those positions, Last House On The Left. This is the Out Of Sight, Out Of Your Mind Position given to those who have problems with Productivity. Directors and Producers were brought in to finish the job. Gene Roddenberry and many others now understand every Promotion Is Not A Promotion. The Movie Industry has problems with their Gangs. You can ask Steven Spielberg, John Singleton, Clint Eastwood, Tyler Perry, and Spike Lee. Now Spike, the order of your name being last has nothing to do with your phenomenal skills. It is just the way SMOKELBG wrote it. Nothing Personal. Will John Boehner get one of these Promotions? His Directions wasn’t clear nor good. John Boehner produced very little in his Two Step Plan. Maybe he thought he was Dancing. Well, John, I hate to tell you, Don’t Go There. You might trip and Fail Again.

We have a new Democratic Emblem. Our Gang is going Full Circle With The Big D. “KNOW THIS”, (translation of KNOW THIS–I AM NOT PLAYING WITH YOU, OKAY) the Deal is for We The People and Our Nation. When Republicans and the Tea Party ran out of Toilet Tissue, I offered them Wipes. They were hesitant but they figured out what to use them for. It took awhile but that’s okay. Once they got cleaned off, I sent for John Boehner. I did not curse. I asked John Boehner to get his TUTTI-FRUTTI AW ROOTY BOOTY in here—A WOP-BOP-ALOO-MOP, ALOP BAM BOOM (translation–Drum Role Please). There was a problem in the Gang of Musicians. Pat Boone cleaned up Little Richard’s song and sold more copies than Little Richard. Hmm! I wonder why? This is another Trip Down Black Alley. Melissa Harris-Perry did an excellent job of explaining the RACIAL DIVIDE between Blacks, Whites, and Latinos on Income, Wealth, and Education on the Rachel Maddow Show. I went before the Nation and I expressed there may be many who may not agree with me or my decision. Hell, or even like me for being the PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES. Michelle Bachman, I had nothing to do with you and Sarah Palin not getting into the Intelligent Women’s Club. You need to talk to SMOKELBG about that one. Patti Labelle and Micheal McDonnell would sing it to the tune of I’M ON MY OWN. What did Little Richard tell you, ladies? GOOD GOLLY MISS MOLLY you cannot have it Your Way. WOOOOO! You are not the Pointer Sisters. Michelle Bachman takes your Girlfriend, Sarah Palin, and Point Your Butt toward the door. On the way out see Ray Charles so he can tell you to Hit The Road Jack.

The Democrats and I roll to the tune of Music, not Musiq. I know how the Republicans and the Tea Party got the issues confused. Musiq Soulchild is the Artist and Songwriter who sings Teach Me. Before the deal goes down I hope the Republican and the Tea Party learn what the FULL CIRCLE BIG D is about to Teach Them. When Kool And The Gang lose their Kool, they would listen to the Big B, Barry White.  Barry White would sing Practice What You Preach to John Boehner, his Gang, and the Tea Party. If it hadn’t been for the Ohio Players jamming at the Democrats luncheon, the Whitehouse would be singing Fire. The only reason why we stayed up Day And Night On Two Occasions listening to the DEELE because Babyface, LA Reid, and Kevin Edmond were having problems with their Gang. Our Deal for We The People and Our Nation–We Cannot Go For Broke. Bobby Womack just told Chaka Khan, I Can’t Understand It. Chaka Khan sent an e-mail to Shanice saying I Feel For You. It is hard to go over to the Republican Camp and sing Silent Prayer. Envogue is at the Senate Hearing Committee singing Never Gonna Get It. Jade just broke through the door and said, “5, 4, 3, Yo Time Is Up”. Just So You Don’t Think You Are Crazy, Boyz II Men will wrap it up with We Come To The End Of The Road.

We The People and Our Nation have been under a lot of stress. Just before the darkest hour dawn will break. A little Laughter can go a long way. We learned who the GIVERS, TAKERS, and the RUMP SHAKERS were. It was not Guy, Blackstreet, or Wrecks-N-Effect. To all my NLDERS music is a good strategy to soothe the Savage Beast. If your choice is Movies, make sure it is a Movie you can Understand and Not Need Your Interpreter. People become annoyed when others talk about the show. Leave your cellphones at home. LAUGHTER reduces one’s STRESS. FRIENDS and RELATIONSHIPS are hard to maintain. Anyone can have trouble with their Gang. Keeping It Real For NLD Skills.