You’ve Given So Much

I’m rocking Stevie Wonder song in my ear.  The birth of this young man taught many lessons.  His life and all the things defined in the life that he could not do paved the way for new choices, changes,  and accommodations.  Whatever was defined as his deficit gave our family a great strength to go and do research.   This would help find this young man a way to navigate a path to success.  Yes, it landed on our doorstep.  Our family was not afraid to tackle the frustration. For some family members, there were moments of embarrassment, tears, and laughter. This was an educational moment! The greatest teaching moments of all TIMES was not to be viewed as all the things he could not do. It gave each family member the opportunity to see what they were not to take for granted and appreciate what they had the ability to do.

Coming from the Flip Side Of The Chart as the diagnosis was handed down at that very moment in TIME I realize my diagnosis was more of the killer.  Cancer is a systemic disease and can spread like a wild-fire.  Nonverbal Learning Disability is encompassed by social, motoric, and visual-spatial components. This is not a killer.  Secondary to the initial diagnosis, anxiety, panic, stress, and depression can raise its ugly head.  Don’t be afraid it is TIME to develop strategies and coping skills.   The only thing which would be a killer about my son diagnosis is not knowing, not having a support system, and understanding that his behavior was UNINTENTIONAL.  My son is not Emotionally Disturbed. He cannot read or understand people emotions because of impaired social interaction.  This happens when he or others fail to respond to their name and often avoid eye contact with other people. He has difficulty interpreting what others are thinking and feeling because he can’t understand social cues such as facial expression, the intonation of one’s speech, body language, and he doesn’t watch others facial expression to gather social cues.  His behavior would seem inappropriate because he lacks the ability to show empathy, compassion, and support. The good news is he is willing to learn.  Was his behavior Intentional? No! Parents, relatives, friends, and associates need to learn and realize about people we encounter in life as awkward or may not be considered as social butterflies. The OSCARS proved that by a young man admission of feeling rejection and had attempted to take his life at the age of 16.  Now it was his moment in TIME to shine. Bottom line, the opposite end of the spectrum should not judge the behaviors of others because they can choose and make the right decision.   They choose to throw it all away because of selfishness and greed. Every individual does not have that choice.  Neurological disorders rob many individuals of that choice.

All that Psychological jargon or babble and all it boils down to helping the individual put the pieces of the puzzle together when they don’t get the whole picture. It is making the person aware that if he sounds rude or terse point it out and helps him use more constructive words. Give the individual HOPE and let them know everyone makes mistakes.  Make it clear it is not one person on this planet that knows everything or can do everything.  Make it clear there are 24 hours in a day and they did not mess up all 24 hours. Whatever you do always INCLUDE the individual. Never assume the individual knows always TEACH.  Life is a thread. Through the eye of the needle, our stitches must be bound tight and we must pay attention and stay focus. For those who cannot stay focus another route can be taken.

You’ve Given So Much

When he became frustrated with tying his shoes he wore slip on and velcro. It was his choice to learn to tie his shoes and he did it after 11 years.  No pressure!  No big deal or rush.  He got sick of people saying use your imagination. We came up with the appropriate words to help people understand abstract concept needs to take shape on concrete planes. This is not Christopher Columbus you are dealing with. In today’s TIME, it would be Dora The Explorer. You are working with the ultimate construction worker who needs the concrete poured on. In today’s TIME, it is Bob The Builder.  So what if you couldn’t use a mop or a bucket because it is hard for you to measure. Check out that Swifter you are slinging around like Zorro.  Washing your clothes has become a breeze using those new PODs. No longer will you need liquid bleach now that they have Evolve Bleach Tablets.  Man, there are so many wipes.  There are furniture wipes, glass wipes, electronic wipes,  and disinfectant wipes. Spray bottles would slip out of your hands.  As Seen On Tv has developed so many inventions to keep you from ever using a knife because of coordination problems.  It lowers the risk of you cutting yourself.  The injuries had diminished since platform beds are now the trend. To make life more bearable the sofa bed and the hide-a-way sofa beds inside the chest is ever so awesome. Forget about getting frustrating because you can’t put the sheet on the bed. Who cares!  Just shove that bed back down in the chest and Voila! These Chest sofa beds can be found on Amazon.com, Costco.com, Overstock.com, Tuesday Morning and HomeGoods. So we are not tripping off the fact you can’t fold your oversized comforter. Now we have throws 50×60 or 60×72.  Make sure they are nice and soft if you have sensory integration issues.  Those wonderful swivel chairs.  Don’t forget the swinging chair from Pier One. Make sure you got your flavored tea, coffee, and scented candles ready to go.  What about the sensor trash can you run your hand over or the Perfect One-Touch Tea Pot. Oh, Lawd!  Otto-mation! Those oversized ottomans which are really chest and no more anger with the hangers.  Just put your clothes in the chest and have an organized room.  The navigation device on your iPad and all the Apps that have brought your world into clear focus. It’s all about CHANGE and the ability to make CHANGES.

You’ve Given So Much

To help me through the darkest storm.

Research and education kept me armed.

The diagnosis set off a few alarms.

Applying LOVE and UNDERSTANDING it could do no harm.

 

Through the lens of my eyes, I acknowledged faulty perception.

Make sure you address any type of deception.

Isolation is used for man’s transgression.

Inclusion, Strategies and Coping Skills is used for man’s progression.

 

Whatever was lost it can become one’s gains.

The lesson to learn is to reduce the hurt and pain.

Make changes in your life and banish the stains.

The Greatest Love Of All will always remain.

 

My son opened a doorway and handed me a key.

Reflecting on his life will help him be the best he can be.

It knocked on our door for us to see.

He is a masterful educator for you and me.

You’ve Given So Much

Mom and the Crew are just around the corner looking out for you.

Mean Mug-shots

Oooh! It is dark down here. What did you say we are looking for? I didn’t. Why are we here? Where is this place? I bet not find out you are connected to the FBI. I was already told not to go anywhere near those guys. What’s that? Did you hear that? Finally, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. This place looks very familiar. Don’t tell me we ended up in the rose garden. Is the President scheduled to do a speech today? I hope we don’t have another crazy A.. reporter pushing the disrespect button like Neil Munro. Wow! When he interrupted the PRESIDENT’S speech I wanted to wrap his A… up in a straight-jacket. I want my crew on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART to be on the lookout for MEAN MUGSHOTS. It is hard for people who cannot read facial expression identify mug-shots. I can understand the position of those with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS, their psychological syndromes, and their outburst. The majority of the TIME it is not an outburst. They are talking loud and people take it for rudeness and fail to even ask if there is a problem. SMOKEY ROBINSON would sing it this way, “The Way You Do The Things You Do.”

What do you mean? These suckers haven’t done anything. Exactly! Do you have to call them suckers? It is Congress. Yes, I do. Look at all the names they have called our President and they haven’t stopped yet. That ain’t rude. It is a big D.. shame. They have the nerves to worried about their credibility. What credibility? Whose drawers and mug-shots is on the line? What has been the order of operation for the PRESIDENT? The lone wolf. Exactly! It is not his choice but it is his mug-shot. Get out of here! Did you notice because of his skin tone… Are you kidding me? No Sh… Sherlock! I see where this conversation is going.

Congress is worried about the President making a UNILATERAL DECISION. The President’s DRONE has more firepower than their guns. The President steps out and tells Congress they have been a bunch of Dick Cheney heads. What! Did I write that? Hey, I am keeping it. Edit my Pa-too-tie. For the President to come out and tell Congress it is his decision. He will do it himself. No, he didn’t! Give a black man the Presidency, DRONE, and a DECISION is just too d..n much This can never happen in the WHITE WORLD. It’s bad enough we got a Black man for a President. They forgot the world no longer belong to Whites but is more diverse and becoming more inclusive. Excuse me. It never did belong to their A.. I don’t know how they arrive at this equation but I bet you they never got an answer for that problem.

D’Angelo with his Brown Sugar Baby would wash it down the drain. Yes, Secret Agent RA-RA got the opportunity to see the prison population going down, gay rights, and the possibility of the drug war coming to an end. I don’t mind standing in line, taking a number and hoping one day it will become a more inclusive environment for people who are being stigmatized. It will be their TIME to draw a RED LINE and say they are no longer taking the interruptions nor the put-downs. They too can take part in society and play an important role.

John Boehner, the Speaker of the House, and the President has to sit down with these clowns in Congress to make a decision. Who is the biggest clown of them all? What has Congress shown the people? They can’t make any decision. Congress does not want to put forth an effort to make a decision nor take responsibility for the decision they steal from others. While the crew on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART is raising their hands and making it clear they would not screw it up. Just give them the opportunity and walk them through the different steps. They will do everything in their power to get it right and in the process, they will try not to FAIL. Well, too bad we can’t say the same for the so-called mainstream. I hope now you realize the people on the opposite end of the spectrum (Congress, 1%, Republicans) isn’t so sharp but crooked, have money to wash away their sins, and change the boundaries so they can win.

Remember when we were coming through the tunnel. What did you ask me? How in the world will the President be able to work with these people and their mug-shot looks like this? I’m worried about their brain. You should at least look like you got something upstairs. Well, Mike Turzai, state representative of Pennsylvania didn’t and he still holds a position. Can you imagine the look on their faces when the President said he would go at it alone? Hell, they look like that all the TIME. Throughout President Obama’s term, he has gone at it alone. Who are the top mug-shots you want our crew to remember?

Steve King-U.S. House Of Representative, Iowa 4th Congressional District, AKA CHESTER CHEETOS who will take your corn-puffs away along with your food stamp and starve you to death because you did not do your house chores. He is the Livestock of immigration and Mr. Melon man himself (pure racist). Don’t let the blue eyes and the vaseline smile on his face fool you.

Stephen Fincher, Representative of the 8th Congressional District in Tennessee, reacts to farm bills by profiting from the money and putting it into his pockets, cuts food stamps and hide behind the scriptures of the bible stating if the poor don’t work they don’t eat. Yes, LAWD! Mr cloak and dagger Bible Munger himself. Don’t let those beady eyes and mustache eyebrows fool you. He is AKA Harry the Raccoon for being one of the King of Coon-face Corruption.

Scott Desjarlais, Tennessee 4th Congressional District, AKA SCUMMY BEAR had sex with a patient, his wife alleged he was violent and had threatening behavior. Do you know SCUMMY BEAR won against Eric Stewart(Democrat)? Well, three TIMES a charm meant nothing to this dude who had four affairs. There is not enough soap to do eggheads’ dirty laundry. I was having a BOB moment only with the names starting with S. I will not ask you who are your MEAN MUGS-SHOTS because this story will never end. Gotcha! Look at you “Chomping At The Bits” to call some folks out. There you go riding on the whitest most conservative Republican A.. thrashing them with a whip screaming into the night. Once again letting the dog rat know you are ATREYU and you got this puppy under control.

In the moment of reaching for the stars and asking for help, you do not want to find all the help you got is really from a place called FANTASTICA. Even if it is an act of Protocol let the people you summon have the mind to pull it off, the will to be there in TIME of a true crisis, and not there just for criticism.

Protocol! What is that? It has been Congress, the Republicans, Tea Party, and the 1% that has taken it to a new level of disrespect having someone who is bi-racial for President. David Chapelle made a joke stating never be the 1st black at anything. I was so pissed off at him. How do you feel now? I’m still pissed off because African Americans, Latinos, Asians and whoever has the ability to hold the position of Presidency should wear the shoes and not feel entitled like you know who. FERRIS BUELLER Day Off is John Boehner and Congress swan song. Even when they reconvene they will still be off. The President will be the President. He will command no matter what obstacle lies in his path.

Who should receive the highest medal of disrespect, sleaziness, lack of trust, and liars of all liars? Whose face and facial expression would you attached to these medals? What do you want to remember? There is a big mug-shot book the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART can peep through and identify faces and connect them to behaviors and emotions. Can you leave me with something special? Sure

I will take you back to a very special day. Everything that I have tried to explain throughout my stories on facial expression and body language was captured by a man who walked up the stairs, hesitated, and turns around. WHEW! It was the MEAN MUG-SHOT of all TIMES. It was the POSITIVE mental rotation of comparing and contrasting the LEADER against the LOSER. What was said and the action that was taken was even more powerful. He recaptured the moment. He paid attention because he knew the moment could be recycled in his brain and could be etched in his heart. “I want to take a look one more TIME.” “I’m not going to see this again.” This is a look you will always want to remember. The President of the United States would do his best to serve the people. Now let’s see what Congress will do. You know Congress serve their pockets. Come on Congress. Smile! This is not Candid Camera but the real world. So get your act and your MEAN MUG-SHOTS together. Shhh… the President is about to speak.

Smooth Operator

I tried to catch up with you the other day. The pace was too much for me. It felt like a marathon. My legs are so much shorter. Just when I thought I had caught up with your stride, my body hit pay dirt. You left me hanging off the rail wishing I had a bottle of Primestine Mist. One thing about it, you were dressed to impress. The navy blue suit you wore was raising hell and the lavender tie set it off. The look on your face was serious. Your arms swung out evenly from side to side. It didn’t matter how many emergencies the city had, you looked as though you were ready to put them all out. Are you wearing your Gasoline Drawers?

Every person you encountered on the streets was given a strong handshake. Your smile came bursting through. Words of hope were given to all the people who felt beaten down by the economy. Then all of a sudden you sat down on the curb in your nice suit. Do you think Eric Cantor or Paul Ryan would have given an uplifting curb service speech to the people in their high dollar cha-ching suit? Don’t answer!

Wherever you were headed it didn’t seem important anymore. You were answering questions about concerns of jobs, infrastructure, voters suppression, and the Big 3(Social Security, Medicare, and Medicaid). An old lady appeared from out of nowhere. Silence came over the crowd. You looked directly into her eyes and you reached out and held her hand. Then you said, “How can I help you?” She responded, “You have helped me.” You are learning to ask the questions. Inclusions make you a part of us.

Sitting here among the people you have included yourself. The Republicans tried to divide you from WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION. You have not let Pride override the welfare of the People. The Republicans tried to make the American people feel in taking out the dictators, it was only your victory. WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION understood it was a victory for all. You are starting to learn from your MISTAKES. Achievement comes with ACKNOWLEDGING your MISTAKES and taking RESPONSIBILITY for your MISTAKES. You have shown the American People deference.Through all the criticism you did not let your head drop below the water. The eternal flame burns deep inside of you. The Human Factor works in your favor. You have remained HUMANE.

The Presidents before you made mistakes. The PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS have taken it to a new level of mistakes. Herman Cain is the cousin of the other mother, Oscar OCD, who is always entertaining the NO NO THOUGHTS. Go back and refresh your memory. Oscar OCD was in EASTER UNDER THE UMBRELLA_FOR NLD. Oscar OCD always referred to his little cousin Herman, as Captain Nasty McNuts. Tyrone Tourettes, the cousin of Bobby Tourettes, thought it meant Herman liked McNuggets. AH NO! I don’t think so.

Strange that HERMAN grew up in the Restaurant Business. Since he made his POKEMAN SPEECH he probably needs to call PICACHO to the RESCUE. The next cartoon character he might want to be is a TRANSFORMER. Yes, Herman Cain is more than meets the eye. He is the original DECEPTICON along with the other PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. Starscream, Herman Cain, cannot be trusted. He is always trying to find a way to overthrow Megatron, Rick Perry. Sounds like this is playing in the media right about now.

Megatron, Rick Perry, is at Lowes picking up paint for his METEORITES which is all wrong. Sentinel Prime, Mitt Romney, has switched sides and his numbers still didn’t move in the polls. This is the perfect world for Mitt Romney.

He has so many characters to TRANSFORM into. If I was Herman Cain I would stay with the TRANSFORMERS. He’s going to need a hideout within himself and a new theme song. No one will ever notice the White 1999 MONTE CARLO is Herman Cain in the junkyard. The sign will read We BUY, SELL, and OWN previous DECEPTICONS by the Koch Brothers. In Training Day, Denzel Washington drove the Black MONTE CARLO. Herman Cain is NO Denzel.

Now it is TIME to develop a trusted loyal Crew so you won’t look distant or be isolated from your base. Steve Israel, Head of the Democratic Congressional Committee can whip the Democrats into shape. Lean to the side of the strong Democrats who use the media. In Smokelbg Tweets she gives her thumbs up to Bernie Sanders, Debbie Wasserman Schultz.

We can’t leave out Barney Franks and Chuck Schumer, the Progressive/Liberal Democrats. You got the Ohio Players, not the singing group, the Democrats in Ohio. Sherrod Brown and Marcy Kaptur would be excellent team players.

The DEMOCRATS need to speak out and be compassionate about their leader. You have come a very long way. We can see your growth. Your message has gotten stronger. Son, I ain’t stopped BELIEVING in you. So you better not stop BELIEVING. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. BELIEVE IN YOUR PURPOSE. BELIEVE IN YOUR VISION. BELIEVE you are a SMOOTH OPERATOR.

Another voice shouts out from the crowd. SMOOTH OPERATOR, the REPUBLICANS are totally thrown off course. Their hatred is letting people around our nation and other nations know they have RESPECT only for the BENJAMIN’S BABY. All this business about your job ratings in the polls is at 40% is a bunch of sardines. Just think if we had Muammar Gaddafi for 42 years. Instead, we have Charles and David Koch causing havoc. We need to occupy their headquarters.

Who cares about those numbers? What polls are they reporting from? It sounds like Fox News statistics. Their math is way off the charts. They never do their research. We all know Bill O’Reilly is never WRONG. I do like Greta Van Susteren, Sheppard Smith, Geraldo Rivera, and Chris Wallace. Geraldo Rivera barbecues BILL O’Reilly’s butt. Geraldo is the chef of Burnt Ends. Watch out, Bobby Flay!

Chris Wallace broke down and told John Stewart that Fox News is Conservative. John Stewart of the DAILY SHOW keeps his Gasoline Drawers on and uses his flamethrower to set Fox News on fire. Fox News thinks this is the story of ROOTS 999. They made a lot of people have a “What The Hah Hell” moment. I guess Herman Cain is their Black. “What the Hah Hell” do they mean by your black/my black. Let’s send a friendly reminder to FOX NEWS letting them know that Slave Days Are Over.

Do they really have a Candidate? A young lady’s voice in the crowd rang out. With everything the Republicans have done to you, I would have blown a gasket. SMOOTH OPERATOR smiles and replies, “I need YOUR support.” War within Wars is no good. I am here for the People. The losses have made me gain great knowledge and great strength. I have Learned and Transformed. The past is just that, the past. The Moment is Now. We will continue to Press On. I will not be discouraged by Congress, the Republicans, and the TEA PARTY. The REPUBLICANS reading this will say I did not answer the question. We have to stop BLAMING. We need to Start MAINTAINING our government.

There are TIMES when we take Action, the Words are fulfilled. There are TIMES when we take Words and we may Fail to carry out the Action. Remember the word has been “NO.” Remember the Action was not carried out. Remember to do the Math. Remember that only 4 Democrats voted against the AMERICAN JOB ACT. The young lady asked, Who were the 4 Democrats? An elder man steps up and starts calling out names. It was them old tired Conservative Blue Dog Democrats. Roll Call Sister!

It was Senator Ben Nelson of Nebraska, Senator Joe Lieberman of Connecticut, Senator John Tester of Montana, and Senator Mark Pryor of Arkansas. I tell you what Sister, I can Remember 4 names. Baby Girl, all 49 REPUBLICANS voted against the bill. Now it is gonna be hard Remembering all 49 Knucklehead REPUBLICANS. Just Remember the Herman Cain Theory, 4+5=9 and you take out the (+5=) and you got 49. Maybe he will get 49 years for the 4 women he sexually harassed.

Why did it take 4 women and not just 1 of these charges to be acknowledged and taken seriously? Is it possible that a SUPREME COURT JUSTICE may have slipped through the cracks? Is it okay to label the poor and middle-class behavior? Why are we not acknowledging the behaviors of the rich and high-profile government officials? Go back and review GOT NO TIME TO BE DISABLED in the March Archives. You will find an answer.

A young boy around the age of 6 breaks through the crowd. His presence breaks the tension. “Are you who I think you are?” Somebody said you are the President of the United States. I told them No Way! You are the man with the plan. The man who understands. The man with the whole world in the palm of his hands. You are a SMOOTH OPERATOR. He jumps into PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA’s lap and gives him a big hug. He lifts the young boy into the air. “I will keep my Promise.”

ADVISORY ALERT: It is hard for people diagnosed with NLD Syndrome and other exceptionalities to come off as SMOOTH OPERATORS. Some may lack the social communication skills, inability to read social cues, and interpreting body language. Others may have trouble with personal hygiene, and cocktail party speech. They have difficulty interpreting facial expression. It is hard for them to initiate a conversation or end a conversation. Their social judgment is poor. NLDers are not sure where his or her space is and cannot judge the distance(space invaders). This is due to visual-spatial organization. They are labeled by others as annoying, ill-mannered, rude, discourteous, and smart “aleck.”

People diagnosed with NLD Syndrome cannot detect hidden meanings of language and social interactions aren’t detected There will be many outbursts, social blunders, misinterpretations, and misjudgments. NLDers end up being the victims and are victimized because they are naively trusting. They DO NOT understand a person that is deceitful, cunning, or who manipulates others. They have faulty spatial perception only getting half of the picture.

Their behaviors are misinterpreted by our society as being INTENTIONAL. Their neurological and neuro-behavior right hemisphere disorder is UNINTENTIONAL. Sexual Harassment is a term that is very vaguely defined. It happens a lot in the workplace. It entails social situations, the making of unwanted sexual advances, and obscene remarks. How would it be possible to charge a person with NLD SYNDROME with sexual harassment if they have these characteristics and traits? People with NLD SYNDROME will not have a clue to what sexual harassment or any other type of harassment is due to the nature of their neurological disorder and their UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS.

My advice to all parents is finding a neuro-psychologist or psychiatrist that has had years of knowledge, training, and experience in the field of Nonverbal Learning Disability. It is very essential that you have your child tested early. This diagnosis has been overlooked for 41 years and has not been placed on the DSM4. This is a great disservice to millions of people who are looking for answers for their children/adults. When AUTISM, ASPERGER, ADD, ADHD, PDD-NOS, OCD, TOURETTES SYNDROME, ANXIETY DISORDER, TIC DISORDER, just doesn’t add up, PLEASE turn YOUR ATTENTION to NLD SYNDROME

How many TIMES have people with NLD SYNDROME diagnosed/undiagnosed been falsely accused, misjudged, socially isolated, and punished repeatedly because society has failed to be educated about this neurological disorder?
How many people are locked away in institutions, given a counterproductive treatment plan, or heavily medicated because they have gone undiagnosed, the diagnosis is ignored/is hidden or the diagnoses were not understood?

How many people with this diagnosis have been falsely accused of a crime they didn’t commit or understand it was a crime due to the nature of their disability and their UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS? How many people with this diagnosis have been incarcerated? How many lives have been lost and our society will continue to lose due to the secondary diagnosis of anxiety, stress, depression, and panic attack? Think about it. I hope this will help millions of people.

How can our society continue to violate the HUMAN and CIVIL RIGHTS of people with this diagnosis? This is in the DEFENSE for NLD SYNDROME. NLD Mom/cancer survivor