Precision On Collision

It happened countless of Times. The door opens up and it is Time for the routine walk. You both make eye contact and the words are spoken. “I will stay on my path and I will be extra careful.” Of course, your son or daughter will do exactly what they set out to do.  Who are you worried about? You are worried about their life and the skin they are in. Whether or not if your child has a diagnosis of any type of syndrome/disorder it will always be Secondary.  This wasn’t for me but for you. All I could think of if the dots were being connected and the pieces of the puzzle were beginning to fit together. Will we get a whole puzzle? Will some of the pieces come up missing and the story will never be told correctly.

Wow! Mark Zuckerberg got up and put on his sweats and hoodie but he probably didn’t get stopped by the cops for looking suspicious. I had to make sure my son was not wearing a hoodie but there was no guarantee he would make it back home in one piece. He was not dressed to impress but for safety.  Guess what?  Is there such a thing as safety?   Throughout my child’s life, he suffered from asthma and the medication he had taken made it hard for him to lose weight. I don’t know if Mark was sleek all of his life. Mark was socially awkward but it never stopped him from reaching his full potentials. I bet Mark’s hoodies became more of a popular dress code than a non-verbal threat to his community.  It is a shame how the coin is so unpolished on the Flip Side Of The Chart.

There is something about a young black overweight male that is perceived as a gentle giant, a bully, or a huge Mandinka slave.  How did anyone derive from this perception? When my son was in middle school I noticed whenever he would become frustrated the teacher’s documentation read like a horror story. Not only that my son began to look more grown up on paper than his actual age. Something was really wrong with this picture. How can you be only in middle school but look like a full-size adult on paper?  Even at the manifestation hearings, I had to remind the superintendent, the principal, and the teachers my son was a child, not an adult. Was the school system documenting my child for the prison system or for an early grave?  Did the test scores of the schools and their triple-A rating mean more to them than the child? It must have meant something.  So much pressure was put on testing the school districts got busted for cheating nationwide. Many children fell through the cracks when it came to their mental stability. Who was going to be the first draft pick? It sure wasn’t going to be the children whom the school districts stigmatized for many years entering the small yellow bus with Special Education written all over it. Where in the hell does this concept come from when your child acted out he would immediately be thrown in a separate self-contained school better known as the DAY SCHOOL? Parents stay on top of your child’s documentation.

This is probably the hardest stories I have ever written. Knowing for years what the outcome was going to be before the barrage of murders had taken place.  Going from doctor to doctor and the doctors not addressing the race issue. Moving within your family and they didn’t want to address mental illness. Being Black an under attack spelled it in the story Got No Time To be Disabled. My son said it best. “They Can Kill Us With Impunity.” NLD will always be Secondary. Just as he was diagnosed with NLD, panic, anxiety, stress, and depression is Secondary to the original diagnosis of NLD.  This is not an NLD’s world. Inclusiveness instead of isolation is the key.   Having a diagnosis of NLD does not define the person he is.  He has to live in the skin that he is in.  Being Black is not a disability. He now understands he cannot exist inside a group’s thread but has to live with the reality of being Black.   Those prayers were just not for my son.  Knowing the Truth is tough. The Truth rides alongside consequences. The conversation has always existed and the doors of the church will always be open for change.

The sharpness of my son’s tongue is Precision. It is always what he says make people so pissed off and angry. He does not recognize that he has insulted you are if a person thinks he sounds threatening.  There will always be Collision with people who do not want to hear or know the Truth. These are the people who act on their words. Not the ones who speak with a sharp tongue, Precision.  Collision will always turn their back, react, and attack.

Exercise For Life__PEACE

Are you still eating the leftovers from Thanksgiving? Are you full up to your neck? I bet that conversation around the Gobble Gobble table got pretty intense. Here we go! You haven’t seen some of your Outlaws for years.  Now you know WHY.  Wow! You mean to tell me you had to sit at the table and have a grateful Thanksgiving dinner with UNGRATEFUL A… people. They never contribute to the dinner except for criticism. This is the same crew if a family member dies they got all of these, “If I Were You” but they never want to contribute to the cause. All that tension builds up over the years and when a real volatile situation occurs what happens. You go out and release the Beast instead of initiating PEACE. Sooo here’s a Brain exercise to help you lose some of the UNGRATEFUL LUGGAGE you have toted around for years. Stop saying PEACE OUT. Start saying PEACE IN. In order to initiate PEACE, you learn to control the Beast within. Deport the people out of your life that doesn’t supply you with constructive criticism or explicit advice. DEPORTATION ANYONE!

So today on this Cyber Monday and many more Mondays to come we will begin our new exercise of ringing out the OLD and bringing in the NEW. Run and get your paper. Make sure you have a good pen or pencil so we don’t run out of lead or ink and become frustrated. Sometimes it is the little things like this that can break your train of thought. Sure the conclusion of your story is about to go south.   Are you ready?  What we are about to do is take the word PEACE and make an acronym to give some of our viewers the CONCRETE INFORMATION needed to help them build on their life skills of PEACE. Here we go!

P-Purpose: I am on a mission Baby! What is your Plan? If it is about FERGUSON, Justification is where we stand. (Raison D’ etre)

E-Excuses are not allowed for the Execution of a young black man.

A-Abolish the laws that do not exonerate the innocent and the deceased.

C-Complex information/abstract English left several persons to their own devices to figure it out which rendered a major defeat.

E-Examining a volatile crisis can very easily IGNITE the Beast and EXTINGUISH THE PEACE.

What does your PEACE represent? Once you spell it out you can exercise those words into your life and practice new life skills.  Over on the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART, we process our information differently.  Some of us need a jumpstart to get us going in the right direction. A PICTURE IS NOT WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS especially if you do not have the rights words and the wrong information is given. This is WHY we get all the social rejection. We don’t get the picture especially not the WHOLE PICTURE.  Where In The World Is Carmen San Diego?  Where Is Waldo? I Spy. What are we looking for? Is there too much clutter to see what the PICTURE represent.  What happens when you cannot follow direction? Who is Carmen?  Who is Waldo? Who really is Michael Brown?  What happens when a person is left to their own devices. Can you draw the right CONCLUSION if it is not laid out CONCRETELY and EXPLICITLY?  What the opposite end of the spectrum did was INTENTIONAL and now we have FERGUSON. Did the Grand Jury get the right PICTURE?  Who does the Grand Jury Resemble?  Who IGNITED the Beast and EXTINGUISHED FERGUSON PEACE?

On the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART, we do not wish to be EXCLUDED.  It is hard to get the WHOLE PICTURE.  More power to you if you got a thousand words out of your PICTURE. Look what can happen to the PICTURE when you are misled. You will not see EYE TO EYE. When you look through your lens and view your PICTURE.  It takes a person’s life experience, exploring their environment, and developing friends/relationship.  Did we encounter a totally different PICTURE which affected our Decision Making Process?  It is the way one learns that will help a person not just retain information but help them understand the outcome or consequence of the situation. Wrong Words=Wrong Actions causes major INFRACTIONS. Refresh your memory and see what is the major struggle with people who are diagnosed with NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disability).

It just took one more thing after that TURKEY DINNER to take the E out of PEACE and made us EXPLODE.

Continue to build on PEACE.

P-Participate, Productivity, Positive, Power, Passion

E-Excellence, Explore, Excitement, Express, Expand

A-Acceptance, Accommodate, Advocate, Accomplish, Advise

C-Champion, Challenge, Conversation, Communicate, Change

E-Educate, Effective, Exercise, Eliminate, Explain

This is my Cyber Monday life skill lesson for today.