Where Is Your Sense Of Normal?

Where did it go? What happened to your ability to separate RIGHT from WRONG? Where are your morals? So I guess you don’t visit the TRUTHS playground. Why would you ENDORSE a liar, a cheater, a deceiver, and a heart-breaker?

Whatever happened to TRUST? It all boils down to YOUR SENSE Of NORMAL. My journey to your side of the chart wasn’t easy. As my feet touch down on the pavement I recognize so many people have lost their SENSE OF NORMAL.

They have been in their IVORY TOWER too long. Whomever their circle of friends is, this is who and what they relate to.

The ENVIRONMENT, the PEOPLE you surround yourself with, and the PEOPLE you ENDORSE play a big part in YOUR SENSE OF NORMAL. The bottom line is knowing who you are as a person, to evaluate and separate the truth from a lie.

Most important of all is walking away with your self-esteem intact and not letting those who challenge your action/behaviors make you feel bad about yourself. Now you are on my turf, THE FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART.

The grass is definitely a different color and the turf is not the same nor the people. I came to you to discuss the UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS of NLD SYNDROME and bring AWARENESS.

My deal was to help you understand how people who are diagnosed with NLD Syndrome are shamed, embarrassed, humiliated, and isolated because of their NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER. Do they have a CHOICE?

Are you beginning to understand why this diagnosis has been overlooked by the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION(APA) for 41 years? The APA hasn’t done a good job. They have not been able to arrive at an intelligent decision regarding the DSMIV. They couldn’t “DIAGNOSE a DONUT.”

APA has a very strong correlation with SPEAKER JOHN BOEHNER, REPUBLICANS, and PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. NONE of these people have been able to do an effective job. It ain’t personal. Need I say MO!

The burden of wearing just a few characteristics such as rude, cruel, unintelligent, awkward, angry, social blunders, and “an oddball” rests on the shoulders of those diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME.

People who are diagnosed with a NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER and UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS have been misjudged, misinterpreted, and punished. In contrast, the REPUBLICANS have literally gotten away with murder and their INTENTIONAL behaviors have been rewarded many TIMES.

People with NLD SYNDROME are highly criticized for their poor choices and left without a voice. They are often presented with too many choices and have difficulty with organizational skills, and much more.

In comparison to NLD’ERS, The REPUBLICANS and PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS have similar difficulty with organization, decision-making, social blunders, and lack of communication skills.

So the PEOPLE of OUR NATION are expected to get on board and ENDORSE one of these KNUCKLEHEADS. NO! I don’t think so. Where is YOUR SENSE OF NORMAL? So the REPUBLICANS BEHAVIOR is STRAIGHT UP INTENTIONAL.

Did you forget this word ANOSOGNOSIA? ANOSOGNOSIA is one of the strongest CHARACTERISTICS OF NLD SYNDROME. I don’t mind having a review. We can work this out. No matter how many TIMES I have to go over this word I will.

In the PRESIDENT’S speech, he mentioned the word JOBS many TIMES. OH WELL! ANOSOGNOSIA generally means that due to the nature of NLD SYNDROME, people diagnosed with this disability do not have the ability to recognize the seriousness of their own problems.

They see their peers as they see themselves, not having a problem. When faced with pain, hurt, and sorrow these EMOTIONS need to be POINTED OUT to a person with NLD SYNDROME. They are unable to process another’s life experience.

They are unable to put themselves in your shoes or in your place. However, it is not a hopeless situation and NLDERS can learn compassion, empathy, and support if given the opportunity.

Emotions can be very difficult to teach unless you are willing to break yourself down to the lowest denominator. The mantra becomes: “YOU TEACH, and YOU TEACH, and YOU TEACH.”

For example, a stroke victim may need REhabilitation and occupational therapy to relearn life skills, NLD’ERS need habilitation to be taught life skills.

This is mandatory teaching before they are ridiculed, their self-esteem is taken out of the box, and they become isolated from society.

Annoyance and frustration ride on the backs of people who have come into contact with NLD’ERS for an extended period of time. Guess who is the first one that is cast aside and thrown into the lion’s den. Need I say MO!

The REPUBLICANS have used this characteristic of NLD SYNDROME, ANOSOGNOSIA, along with their RADICAL INTENTIONAL BEHAVIOR. They MAXED OUT their BEHAVIORAL credit cards and the 18 numbers to boot. The PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS used it in the DEBATES. Where was the AUDIENCES’ SENSE OF NORMAL?

What have you learned after COMPARING and CONTRASTING the REPUBLICANS RADICAL INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS to NLD SYNDROME? Bottom line is CHOICE. PEOPLE with NLD SYNDROME do not choose to FAIL. The REPUBLICANS and the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS pride themselves on making POOR CHOICES.

They want to see THE PEOPLE, THE PRESIDENT, and THE NATION FAIL. The REPUBLICANS are CHOMPING AT THE BITS. Where is the SENSE OF NORMAL in FAILURE when it cannot strengthen one’s ability to learn from the outcome? This is food for thought.

How did we regress and get onto PERSONHOOD RIGHTS? What is the REPUBLICANS SENSE OF NORMAL on WOMEN’S RIGHTS? What is the REPUBLICANS SENSE OF NORMAL on being HUMANE? Do the REPUBLICANS have any SENSE? The key to being HUMANE is giving WOMEN the RIGHTS to make their OWN CHOICES.

When someone comes in and tries to strip you of your dignity and humiliate you it is TIME TO BRING IT. The RICK-HEADS in CONGRESS wants to joke around and devalue the lives of WOMEN.

I want you Ladies to find the fanciest words regarding the VAGINA to see if The House of Delegates of Virginia can pronounce or even INTERPRET the meaning. It is a shame that CONGRESS has not only devalued the lives of WOMEN but has tried to cripple the entire Nation.

Throughout this rigorous journey in seeking INTERVENTION for my son, I ran across many doctors who only wanted to medicate my son. When I questioned their authority I was informed that they were the doctors and that they knew what they were doing.

WHAT THE HAH HELL did that mean? It gets even better. I was told by one doctor to go ahead and spank him, like “you folks” normally do, give him some orange juice with Robitussin, and that should solve the problem. Oh hell NO!

Is this the reason why we have so many children who later in life are strung out on drugs?

Is this the reason why we see our children/adults die because of lack of INTERVENTION, dedication, and advocacy from the parents? Is this the reason why so many of our most talented entertainers are taken out by drugs because they are enabled by family, friends, associates, and doctors?

Where is the DOCTOR’S SENSE OF NORMAL? Where is the PARENT’S SENSE OF NORMAL? Where is SOCIETY’S SENSE OF NORMAL? If any of these people listed above enabled a HUMAN LIFE down the PATH of DESTRUCTION they had NO SENSE OF NORMAL.

I was finally given options when I rolled across a TEAM of doctors who were willing to take the risk and learn by doing extensive research on my son. Through their hope and encouragement, the Neuro-psychologists at KU MED have given validation and recognition. They were caring and humane.

This TEAM of doctors had a strong SENSE OF NORMAL. Who we need to endorse will either make us a winner or a loser. It has taken me countless years to realize I didn’t need validation from the APA.

Yes, LORD! Medication would be weighed in as the very last resort. HALLELUJAH! It was all about coping skills, strategies, and teaching/focusing on life skills in order to have a successful program.

President Obama said it best. Whoever told you that it will take a silver bullet to drill your way out of lower gas prices is not telling the TRUTH. It will take TIME and a COMPREHENSIVE APPROACH. The same goes for the people who are diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME.

When the PRESIDENT and his wife was ready to buy a condo they openly admitted, even though they are attorneys, they could not understand the language in the mortgage agreement. WOW! He developed a simpler package to help homeowners get through the process.

Thank You, JE…SUS! We have a PRESIDENT who is HUMANE and RESPECT the CHOICES of WE THE PEOPLE, FOR THE PEOPLE, BY THE PEOPLE, and OUR NATION. This is a man with a GREAT SENSE OF NORMAL:).

I would like to give SPECIAL thanks to THE PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS for teaching me the ultimate lesson in WHERE IS YOUR SENSE OF NORMAL. Losers endorse losers, liars endorse liars, and infidelity endorses infidelity.

I want to go with truth endorses truth, trust endorses trust, and facts endorse facts.

HOLD UP! HOLD UP! I ain’t done yet. So I roll up to the school with all of my documentation. The BOARD of EDUCATION, SUPERINTENDENT, and the teachers are not willing to properly accommodate my son’s INDIVIDUALIZED EDUCATIONAL PROGRAM (IEP)

An IEP is a blueprint that lays out a program for disabled and learning disabled children. Who did I think I was telling these educators what to do? They were a AAA DISTRICT. They didn’t have to accommodate something they never heard of or the doctors had little knowledge in.

The atmosphere turned into DEEP SPACE NINE. Where was their SENSE Of NORMAL? I could bring milk and cookies to the in-service meetings but I would have NO CHOICE or say in my son’s education. I remember being told in one meeting they were the real educators. WHAT! My reply was this.

Where were you on the countless nights when I was reading to my child his bedtime stories? Where were you on the countless days of breastfeeding and I was trying to teach my son how to walk and talk? Where were you when I was teaching my son how to sink the cheerios in the toilet?

Where were you when he was given his immunization shots and I was up all night trying to soothe his aches and pains? “I think you need to rethink your position and realize who is the TRUE EDUCATOR and rephrase your question.”

The child diagnosed with NLD IS a masterful educator. My son has educated me with his extraordinary mind, his unique abilities, and multi-level learning styles.

This is going to be a long battle. Children with disabilities are a budget cut. The NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND under the BUSH ADMINISTRATION was a BUST. It will take TIME but the OBAMA ADMINISTRATION has made changes to the school systems. Hey, they are getting there.

Ladies you are going to love this one. You go to the doctor and everyone has the same scheduled appointment TIME. You’re sitting in the office waiting. There are people who have arrived way later than you but your name hasn’t been called. They walk straight through and get waited on.

Finally, it is your turn and the doctor comes in takes a seat and reminds you he’s on a tight schedule. Okay, I have sat there all day, the first one in, last one out, and treated with disrespect. The doctor pats his feet, checks his watch, no eye contact, and flips over the chart.

Then he says, ” I am here to conserve your breast.” What I have decided to do is…… Where was this doctor’s SENSE OF NORMAL? HOLD UP! HOLD UP! Unless doc you are ROCKIN THE LIST and you cannot give me eye contact, I understand.

His body language wasn’t too friendly. Cancer patients got tired of being beaten down and needed more hope. The CANCER TREATMENT CENTER Of AMERICA was established. People got tired of doctors talking smack. BIG TIME SENSE OF NORMAL

On this note, it is called a second opinion. I have decided to conserve my LIFE by my own CHOICE. I’m up for grabs again but I’m cool. You don’t get silly and fight over one breast. This is MY SENSE OF NORMAL.

There have been so many women who have died from unnecessary invasive procedures. Let us not forget even down to your last breath you have the right to be treated with DIGNITY and RESPECT and given CHOICES.

This story is dedicated TERRY O’NEIL, JIMMY WILLIAMS, CHARNIELE HERRING, KATRINA VANDEN HEUVEL, LIZ WINSTEAD, BOB SCHRUM, RICHARD WOLFF, MARTIN BASHIR, CAROLYN HELDMAN, JOAN WALSH, BIG EDDIE, and RACHEL MADDOW

BRING IT and SPEAK TO THE PEOPLE. NLD Mom/cancer survivor

The Dash Before The Distance

It’s very cold today. My body is engulfed by high-speed winds. The wind is circling around my ears and gnawing at my fingertips. The weather is not favorable. There are many days in our life where conditions are not favorable. It has become a long and exhausting day.

Taking this trip was hard but it is TIME. Yes, another ICON’s ship has sailed into the night. Her glow from life’s candle shifted as the wind-swept around the flame. The flicker of the light struggled but another strong wind caught her breath.

This moment of darkness and silence has claimed yet another ICON. DESTINATION has caught up with her. She has now boarded a cruise liner to ease her from this life of hurt, pain, and sorrow. In our hearts, we pray her spirit will be guided by an eternal beacon.

Let her soul be at rest for a pleasurable journey.

In life, some of us will run a MARATHON. The MARATHON is so rigorous with so many obstacles and hurdles to jump over. There are those who will SPRINT through life. If you’re a SPRINTER it is TIME to reflect. Don’t be in such a hurry to run a short race through THE DISTANCE.

You will meet with an early DESTINATION. When you hear someone make the comment “GONE TO SOON,” you’re beginning to understand life’s race can be shortened. Why are we in a hurry? We feel everything needs to be taken care of immediately.

How many laps can we run once the START button is pushed? Will we need to reset the start button because we have jumped the gun? Some of us will not get the opportunity to reset the start button in our lives. Will your life be a SPRINT? Can you endure the MARATHON?

A chain of events will take place on our life journey. There are TIMES when we will peek over into someone else’s life. We assume they have everything to live for. We are plagued by SHADOWING the lives of others. Our hearts are overcome with resentment, bitterness, and jealousy.

Finally, we graduated from HATRED ACADEMY. All the happiness, wealth, and power we assume an ICON lived, lies right there before our own two feet. What did we do? We stepped right over the most priceless commodity, TIME. We continued our HATRED CAMPAIGN.

This type of campaign diminishes one’s health and one’s life. The SHADOWING which is done to the lives of others has set us on a course for destruction. We yearn and grasp for what we think have made ICONS and other people successful. It blinded us and we lost track of who we could become.

We lost ourselves and we lost RESPECT for TIME. Reality is beginning to sink in. As the media reflects back on the IMAGE of the LIFE of an ICON, we realize we could never make the sacrifices in life to maintain the ICON lifestyle.

Bottom line: Never want what others have because you may not be willing to take the beat up for it.

Her music is beginning to rotate through my brain. As I walk through the stone garden, I hear her strong vocals bellow out “I Have Nothing.” The wind has picked up, my legs are beginning to weaken. The sorrow and sadness are starting to creep up on me.

I heard another rendition of the songbird voice. The tune was “I Look To You.” Many people say they never saw it coming. Did we PAY ATTENTION? She delivered a strong message in her MUSIC and in her BEHAVIOR. She went back to her gospel roots preparing for the journey home.

She was there to sing her last song with Kelly Price, “Jesus Loves Me.” She stopped in on CLIVE DAVIS, her long TIME mentor. She visited with Ray J, Brandi, and Monica. Bobbi Kristina got a chance to briefly visit with her Godfather. Brandi will never forget this birthday.

Sitting here on this stone, right at my eye level, is the DASH. From the day we are born to the day we die and have met our ESTIMATED TIME of ARRIVAL(ETA), there is THE DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE.

The DASH is all the life one is living and what goes on in between one’s life BEFORE they run THE DISTANCE. As the leaves crackle beneath my feet, I notice on the carving of the stones there are a lot of SPRINTERS here today. I came across this magnificent marble stone.

The birth date is here, and the DASH is here, but no DESTINATION date. I wonder if the person was a SPRINTER or A MARATHON RUNNER? Was this someone who had not been found and declared dead? Maybe the person was found and no one knew the DATE of his DESTINATION.

People in our lives demand so much from us. We cannot possibly meet all their requests. When it is TIME for us to meet the demands of our lives, so much Time has been devoured. The DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE is much shorter.

Every day from this moment on our ESTIMATED TIME OF ARRIVAL(ETA) draws near. We are so much closer to our DESTINATION. ALPHA is the beginning and OMEGA is the end. The DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE is the life we are now living. RESPECT TIME!

A door has not closed. The door is wide open. It will give others the opportunity to reflect on their lives and make changes and seek INTERVENTION.

In Loving Memory of Whitney Houston and the Celebration of her Life.

To the Houston/Brown Family, Clive Davis her long TIME mentor/dearest friend, and the many relatives/friends who mourn the loss of their loved one.

Visit the April archives. Read Rest Peaceful My Nubian Queen.

Visit the May archives. Read Reflection of Magical Moments on Twitter, I Have Learn, Etiology Of Quality, and Giving Recognition to the Unrecognized__Saving lives.

Visit the November archives and read Smokelbg Life Class__Dedicated To Oprah.

May you find peace in my words.

2012 SuperBowl Flare Up_Look Who’s Rockin’ The List

Scene: It is showtime, SuperBowl Sunday, and the guys are going down to ARTHUR BRYANTS to pick out their favorite football foods. Bobby TOURETTES, Andre ADHD, Jack PDD-NOS, Mark AUTISM, Mitt ASPERGER, and Leroy NLD are on the scene for the festivity.

Leroy NLD is checking out the prices because his girlfriend is not so big on cooking. He wants to show off his surround sound theater system that was built-in his basement by TJ SAVANT & COMPANY.

It is Bobby Tourettes turn to pay for the football bash today. Bobby is steamed under the collar at Mitt ASPERGERS comments. Mitts ASPERGER has difficulty interacting socially.

They are inside the restaurant and waiting in line to order their food. Mitt ASPERGER is looking on the wall. He can’t believe his eyes nor can he believe who has eaten at Arthur Bryants.

He has never had a REAL Community experience nor has he ever eaten in the heart of the city.

Leroy NLD:

When I wrote CHARACTERISTICS OF, this was in no way to bring any disservice to people who are diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME. We don’t get the chance to say or act like these PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. Our problem is NEUROLOGICAL with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS. I wonder what is their real problem?

Our butts would get hauled off to jail, medicated, and strapped down in a psycho ward. We sure as hell wouldn’t be in the Zone on PSYCHO TALK with BIG ED. Look at the gaffes MITT ROMNEY makes.

He has so many soundbites on his INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS you can make a Documentary Mini-Series on the Discovery Channel. When I speak, they are real social blunders. I will repeat my blunders several TIMES in the same way until someone corrects me.

I do not understand that it is a mistake. You must remember a lie can never be told the same way twice. When I open my mouth you will begin to realize something is wrong. Ain’t gonna be no paraphrasing. I don’t do that. There is no such thing as retracting my statement.

My mind processes information differently. I don’t read people and people definitely don’t read me. Ask me or anyone else that has been diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME a question 20 TIMES. Guess what, you are going to get the same answer 20 TIMES.

You’re not going to get an endorsement from me. If your policy stinks you will be the first to know. MITT ROMNEY has to buy votes, buy states, and buy friends. MITT ROMNEY was PASS INTERFERENCE on OBAMACARE.

His plan had a lot of the same ingredients of OBAMACARE. MITT ROMNEY passed on the plan. The first thing PRESIDENT OBAMA did when he was sworn into office was Bridge the gap by developing friends and relationships in Foreign countries to strengthen Foreign policy.

He made 4 vital phone calls. He was reaching out to other nations. The next day he was at the State Department visiting with the foreign service officers getting everyone PUMPED UP and ENERGIZED once again on worldwide international relationships.

NLDERS have a horrible TIME with relationships. All relationships are FOREIGN to us. Why do you think people with NLD SYNDROME need an Interpreter and an Understanding Manual? A lot of people underestimated the PRESIDENT on FOREIGN AFFAIRS but he caught on pretty quick.

There is a lot more than WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION understands under the leadership of PRESIDENT OBAMA. He has been to more countries than any PRESIDENT that has ever been in office. On the LIST of CHARACTERISTICS OF, he definitely ROCKS THE LIST and gets an A+.

Who is Rockin’ The List of BEHAVIORS? What CONTENDERS and government officials are getting away with PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSAULTS?

Bobby Tourette:

Leroy, why didn’t you talk to Mitt before coming to the inner city. Mitt ASPERGER got a lot to learn and today is not the day to teach him. You know he is going to get on the topic he likes. He will not be able to tell when others have lost interest in his topic.

Mitt ASPERGER will continue on this topic for days. You know this will piss someone off. I just wanted a barbecue sandwich. Hell, I don’t want to be on ARTHUR BRYANTS menu as Bobby burnt ends. Lord, please let me save my A.. for another day.

I hope we don’t get into a fight like we did the last TIME. SUPER BOWL or not, I ain’t going to jail. We do not have a get out of jail free card like MITT ROMNEY, NEWT GINGRICH, and RICK SANTORUM. The courts don’t understand Asperger or any other disorder.

Leroy NLD:

Yes, I heard him. Did you hear what you said? Inner City is fighting words also. I wanted MITT ASPERGER to get a real cultural outing. Bobby, you always correct me. Everyone we hang with need lots of correcting. I just wanted to see if Mitt ASPERGER could connect to the people.

I thought it was cool when Mitt ASPERGER got slapped for trying to give people handouts. He will learn before the end of the day. This is the perfect opportunity.

Bobby Tourette:

Yeah, the last TIME we went to jail I didn’t need that type of opportunity. Man, that lady’s mouth was pretty tough. Not that I have room to talk, when I get angry, my Tics kick in.

The next TIME he will think twice before he tells someone, “I bet you $20,000 you can’t get any poorer”. Insensitive fool!

Even I know better than to make people feel they are beneath me. He has one special interest and it sho ain’t people. I love the smell of money in the morning, Mr. Money-bags of MONOPOLY, MITT ASPERGER. We know OUR Mitt’s behaviors is UNINTENTIONAL.

MITT ROMNEY has many soundbites stating he doesn’t care about the VERY POOR or the VERY RICH. I just want to hear MITT ROMNEY man-up and say he wants to destroy the middle class and confess he is angry because PRESIDENT OBAMA can sing better than him. Jealousy, NOT!

You know MITT ROMNEY is looking at those numbers. All the experience he has with spreadsheets and making money. You know his butt is ROASTED TOAST now that economic conditions have improved. The President has one hell of a chance of beating MITT ROMNEY’S drawers off.

MITT ROMNEY would need to be AFRICAN AMERICAN today instead of wishing he was MEXICAN eating at ARTHER BRYANTS. I would love to see his reactions. The good news is this restaurant receives all races extremely well. Bill O’Reilly has got to eat here.

Andre ADHD:

I know how hard it is for Mitt ASPERGER. I have said some stupid things myself but my medication alerted me not to get too crazy and bet with him. “OOPS,” did I just tell everyone I take legalized drugs? It sounds better until you overdose.

Then you realize you have a substance abuse problem. In my neighborhood, you are just a hard-core addict with stolen prescriptions. Why do we get the worst end of the stick? Jan Brewer, the governor of Arizona, gets to be called RADICAL.

Jan Brewer’s extreme behavior was an offensive personal foul and a 15-yard penalty for getting into the face of the PRESIDENT of the UNITED STATES. She should be fined and ejected from her position as Governor of Arizona.

She is a repeat offender and the ADAM PAC MAN JONES of the REPUBLICAN PARTY. Jan Brewer’s unnecessary roughness is for attacking the teachers, firefighters, and police officers. The Republicans in Arizona feel they can silence the voice of the UNION and any other public servants.

Whatever rites the people have will be stripped away by the REPUBLICANS. One thing they can’t take away is my inabilities of focusing, PAYING ATTENTION, nor my giant boulder. Every day of my life I’m leaning more and more toward becoming Bi-Polar.

Jack PDD-NOS

You know ANDRE ADHD, you remind me of RICK PERRY Off SIDE. You are off your line of scrimmage and you tussled with getting the answer right. Did they ever get your medication straight? Hey ANDRE ADHD over here, you just can’t stay focused. Get over here!

Folks in this restaurant think I’m talking to myself. NEWT GINGRICH is UNNECESSARY ROUGHNESS and KNEE CAPPING. He is really striking below the belt. NEWT is trying to destroy MITT ROMNEY. I couldn’t believe HERMAN CAIN endorsed NEWT GINGRICH. HERMAN CAIN, “MR SHUCKY DUCKY,” of all people.

Everyone knows HERMAN CAIN has been shucked like corn and his brain is plucked like a duck.

Mark Autism:

Leroy NLD talks out loud to himself. He explained it as processing his thoughts. Leroy said if he hears what he verbalizing he can process the information better. When LEROY NLD starts processing out loud, people think he is crazy.

Bobby Tourette always says when Leroy gets mad he will hold that thought and won’t ever forget what someone has done to him. Leroy is HOLDING. He processes so much information. Leroy NLD struggles with applying old information to new ideas.

Adaptability is difficult for him but he is willing to learn. I can’t say that about the REPUBLICAN PARTY. They have a choice. The REPUBLICAN PARTY’S intentions are to HOLD the ECONOMY back. They refused to ADAPT. It benefits the REPUBLICAN PARTY and the 1% to keep things as they are.

Look at the BEHAVIORS of RON PAUL. Wouldn’t his BEHAVIOR be call HOLDING? RON PAUL gets a 10-yard Penalty for HOLDING onto past ideologies. He does tell you what is on his mind. The REPUBLICANS want him to go away because he exhibits annoying BEHAVIOR.

LEROY NLD displays annoying BEHAVIOR, not by choice, and we don’t isolate him. Everyone in our gang of six has annoying BEHAVIORS. We are singled out, called weird, and isolated from society. We have delays and our finest moments.

Mitt Asperger:

MITT ROMNEY wants to delay the economy and blame PRESIDENT OBAMA for making the economy WORSE. This is UNSPORTMAN LIKE CONDUCT and EXCESSIVE CELEBRATION. He needs to be fined and suspended. Maybe DONALD TRUMP will fire him. Can you believe this? Look whose picture is on the wall.

Is that John MCCAIN? There’s SARAH PALIN! Is that JIMMY CARTER? NO! That can’t be BILL CLINTON! It’s a miracle they came down in this community and ate with you people.

Bobby Tourette:

Did you just say, “YOU PEOPLE?” Hold up! You begin to sound like MITT ROMNEY. I let it pass when you made the comment about me paying with food stamps. I should have corrected you. Your NEWT GINGRICH remark didn’t go over to well and your BEHAVIOR got WORSE.

I know you didn’t mean any harm. You need to be held ACCOUNTABLE for your inappropriate remarks. I know you are Rocking the List but it does not excuse you. What you just said caused me to FLARE UP. It feeds my anger.

Mitt Romney has made many negative remarks, straight up lied about the remarks, and his remarks feed the PEOPLE’S anger. NEWT GINGRICH thinks he’s slick. There is nothing subliminal about his remarks.

Once you have survived HATRED or RACISM you will always know the flavor, the color, and the stench it leaves behind. Leroy NLD is our food order ready? We need to get out of here before Mitt ASPERGER cause a Race War.

The last TIME it was Nicky NLD, Leroy’s cousin, who got us thrown out for his remarks.

Leroy NLD:

Hey, man, the food is ready. Let’s head out. Well, Mitt ASPERGER what do you think about our trip today?

Mitt Asperger:

This is a real colored experience. What! Did I say something wrong?

Bobby Tourette:

We are going to get out of here and I will explain it on the way. You better be glad you are MITT ASPERGER instead of MITT ROMNEY or NEWT GINGRICH. Don’t expect a soundbite. Your mouth just wrote a check your A.. can’t pay for.

In the January Archives of 2011 go back and refresh your memory. Read NLD Superbowl Pregame. Also read Superbowl Flare-up NLD and Superbowl Game Time, Rockin’ the List posted in the February archives.

Hard Yard University__Commencement Day

Today is a very special day for many of the young men and women going forth into the world. It’s very frightening not knowing what you will be up against. It gets more complex when there is no VALIDATION of who you are, what you can achieve, or who you may become.

There is greater complexity when you have an extraordinary mind, unique abilities, with multiple learning styles and multiple intelligence. Different learning styles need to be incorporated. You were BORN WITH and will continue to LIVE WITH these unique abilities.

Your struggles in school were difficult and your education is based on UNTRADITIONAL METHODS with many ACCOMMODATIONS. The school of today is slowly RECOGNIZING every child cannot be taught by TRADITIONAL methods. TRADITIONAL METHODS, logical and linguistic, hinder your learning. The world is not a TRADITIONAL PLACE and you will make many changes in your life adjusting and readjusting those ACCOMMODATIONS suited for your LIFESTYLE. Change and Adaptability are difficult for many. It gets really hard for some folks. WEE-DOGGY! I know that sounds strange.

Now you young folks of today would say YO-DIGGITY NO DOUBT. I’m getting there. This was taken from an old guy name JED CLAMPETT from the BEVERLY HILLBILLIES. JED was a 1% who had NO SENSE about money. He struck oil and moved next door to SPEAKER BOEHNER, and Mitch McConnell. Things haven’t been right for these guys since JED came to town. BLACK WALNUT, BLACK GOLD, BLACK IS THE NEW PINK, BLACK FRIDAY, BLACK ME, is very disturbing to the GOP. The BLACK GOLD spikes their GREED and their NEEDS are always placed above others.

The HILLBILLIES we are dealing with today care only about themselves, and TAX CUTS for the RICH. Let the POOR BE POOR, to hell with jobs and infrastructure, and screw the MIDDLE CLASS. Ask the GOP, REPUBLICANS, TEA PARTY, the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS how they really feel.

The bottom line, you might not have this label that society has bestowed upon you if they had stepped up their game and had become more flexible, adaptable, and willing to change. In the mainstream, you were considered to be a “BRIGHT STUDENT”. In SPECIAL EDUCATION you were labeled as “DISABLED”. The RIGHT WING may not have been labeled HILLBILLIES if they weren’t so “DOG-GONE CONSERVATIVE.” WEE-DOGGY! UNDER the BUSH ADMINISTRATION you were an ENDANGERED SPECIES, a TAX CUT, and you would be LEFT BEHIND. The schools continued to force down the throats of the students who sit here before me repetition, book-based learning, and they used many types of examination to pressure students for review and reinforcement. The teachers were forced to lie to keep from educating the DISABLED. You were viewed as broken and damaged. You were cast aside and you were ON YOUR OWN. I’m proud to say, “YOU ENDURED IT and MADE IT” through all the changes even though you were not properly ACCOMMODATED.

You suffered when you showed perseverance and impulsive tendencies. It was a toss-up between RICK PERRY and NEWT GINGRICH. You were bullied and made fun of because of the many blunders due to the lack of expressive-receptive language. MITT ROMNEY, RICK PERRY, NEWT GINGRICH fought hard over this characteristic/trait and pulled MICHELLE BACHMAN’S hair out of her head for beating the GANG of THREE. You were accused of harassment because you were unable to understand boundaries. You did not understand how to initiate conversation. Once you got started you did not understand how to end the conversation. You needed someone there to cue you in, to cut you off, and say to move away from the individual so you would not look as though you were “CREEPY”.

HERMAN CAIN was at the top of his game on this one. HERMAN was disqualified because he “CHEATED” in more ways than one. He knew exactly where he was standing when he was talking to his accuser. He demonstrated the height of the lady and compared her height to his wife. Now he knows where he stands. OUT THE DOOR. He was disqualified from the DEBATES and the PRETENDERS RACE. He really is “CREEPY”. You have difficulty identifying with figures of authority. People think of you as arrogant, disrespectful with implosive/explosive behaviors. NEWT GINGRICH and DONALD TRUMP have a TUG-OF-WAR over this characteristic/trait. You were taunted and teased because you lacked organization skills. TIMING was off and you could not be TIMED TESTED, pushed for deadline dates, and had problems with EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONS.

CONGRESS is the LEGISLATIVE BRANCH they ROCK this characteristic/trait. They have nothing on you and they own this one. You were ridiculed for your clumsiness, coordination, and you had to try really hard to participate in sports. Any type of competition or debate would manifest your TRUE BEHAVIOR. Debates are not a format that you can handle due to the inability to stay focused. RICK PERRY is the KING. In one of his debates, he proved this to be a straight-up FACT. RICK PERRY exceeded with flying colors. He got into a Debate that set him up for failure due to the way he processes information,  the organization of the information, and the amount of TIME he had to process the information in. Once the environment becomes overstimulating and distracting, the attentional deficit kicks in. All of the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS DEBATES are held in a large arena. If the question is given with any abstract language then the answer can become “OOPS, I MADE A BOO BOO!”

It is hard for some of you to think creatively or abstractly. I now understand NOT to ask the question in the format of CAN YOU IMAGINE, WHAT IF, IF YOU WERE ME, PUT YOURSELF IN MY PLACE IF YOU WERE IN MY SHOES. It is hard for you to keep track or switch gears. You are truthful by NO-FAULT and people hate the TRUTH, the questions, and the questions you challenge them on. RON PAUL is a fine example of TRUTH-BY-NO-FAULT. He sticks to his GUNS.

Yes, today you have become MASTERFUL EDUCATORS. You are the TRUE PROFESSIONALS and TRUE TEACHING TOOLS. YOU WILL SURVIVE. It is NOT to say that you are incapable of learning strategies and coping skills to help with the multiple deficits you have in your life. It is NOT to say you are entirely incapable of controlling your behavior once it has manifested. It IS to say you can go out into the world and LAUNCH your LIFE with the continued teaching of the APPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS, SOCIAL SKILLS, and LIFE SKILLS given the OPPORTUNITY. You have a jump-start on those who have not been tested. It is very hard to deal with the unknown.

You were once UNRECOGNIZED. You are NOW RECOGNIZABLE.

In 1869 HARVARD COLLEGE was the first in the UNITED STATES to bestow the highest distinction of honors to their graduates. From the period of 1872-1879 based on your grade point average of 90% or better the highest Latin honorary distinction of SUMMA-CUM-LAUDE was awarded. The LATIN honorary distinction of CUM-LAUDE graduating with honors was also awarded during this TIME period. IN 1880 based on your grade point average of 80%, the LATIN term magna-cum-laude was bestowed. Today, I look upon this entire class as VALEDICTORIANS. I know we can all sing together. There was a TIME when we would say we cannot talk at the same TIME. Even this has changed with the HUMAN MICROPHONES dishing out the microphone checks.

It has taken your NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS to POINT OUT and have others PAY CLOSE ATTENTION to the INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS of the GOP, CONGRESS, REPUBLICANS, TEA PARTY, BLUE DOG DEMOCRATS and those members of the BLACK CONGRESSIONAL CAUCUS with their own agendas. In life, we are sometimes given the worse scenario to rule out the characteristics and traits of the most common diagnosis. If you had no clue why the WORDS did not match the RESPONSE and ACTION of the INDIVIDUAL, YOU DO NOW. It is the POWER of APPROPRIATE WORDS that if given to the individual which will IGNITE the APPROPRIATE RESPONSE and ACTION, to keep the individual from being listed on the CHART of STUPIDITY. Worse scenario, when there is no INTERVENTION the individual is ranked high on the IGNORANT LIST.

Whenever there is BLUNDER it is to be CORRECTED and REDIRECTED IMMEDIATELY. No corrections or redirections of the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS dialogue were made when they had their BLUNDERS and the audience clapped. No corrections or redirecting took place when the PRESIDENT was CALLED a LIAR. No correction or redirection was given to MITCH McCONNELL, JOHN BOEHNER, ERIC CANTOR, PAUL RYAN, MICHELLE BACHMAN, ALAN WEST, JIM DEMINT, SARAH PALIN and many others in the GOP. Today they will graduate with honors in the areas of OBSTRUCTION OF JUSTICE and INEQUALITY for WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION.(MAGNA-CUM-LAUDE) Take a closer look at the BEHAVIORS of BILL O’REILLY, SHAWN HANNITY, ANN COULTER (WHO HAS HER OWN BLACKS), STEVE DEUCY, GRETCHEN CARLSON, BRIAN KILMEADE, ERIC BOLLING all at FOX NEWS. Today they will graduate with honors of INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS(CUM-LAUDE).

You wonder why NEWT GINGRICH is out of control, has explosive/implosive behaviors, something just doesn’t add up and many others who display INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS. He has plenty of role models. Take a look at the environment and what the people ACCEPT as ACCEPTABLE. The UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS with neurological deficits want to COMPLY because they are tired of being punished, isolated, and labeled as being UNACCEPTABLE. The INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS purpose is to destroy and break down the EMOTIONS and the SELF-WORTH of the individual.

It took the WORD APPEASER to put the INTENTIONAL BLUNDERS at the top of the IGNORANT CHART. It took MARTIN BASHIR LESSON WITHIN LESSONS to show the INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS of MITT ROMNEY. ED SCHULTZ played sound bites to demonstrate how the PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS all jumped on board. They failed to do any research. It took those very sound bites from ED SCHULTZ’S SHOW to demonstrate the dignity, grace, and respect the PRESIDENT of our NATION displayed to give credit to the TROOPS. GOP did not get the message because they are so busy trying to APPEASED the 1%. In the paper, it was printed in BOLD TYPED LETTERS, THE GOP JUST DON’T CARE by ROLAND MARTIN. It was RACHEL MADDOW overhead sign that displayed the WORD BLUNDER. I knew it was “COMMENCEMENT TIME”. This would be the making of another LIFE MOVIE, “INCEPTION 2.”

CHA-CHING! We all have come so far. We have higher mountains to climb and roads to travel when looking at the BEHAVIORS from the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART. It has been a challenge but we must continue to LOOK “OUTSIDE OF THE BOX” and be DIVERGENT THINKERS.

To the GRADUATING CLASS of 2012, those who sit before me diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME, hold your heads up high. You are a HUMAN LIFE beyond the SYNDROME and the DIAGNOSIS. Today you will graduate with the highest honors.(SUMMA-CUM-LAUDE)

NLD SYNDROME has opened the eyes of many. You have sung SMOKEY ROBINSON’S song, POINTED OUT. The traits/characteristic of NLD SYNDROME has brought CLARITY to many and CLOSURE to others. It made the DEMOCRATS, the MEDIA, attorneys, parents, and people all over the WORLD PAY CLOSE ATTENTION. It is truly an HONOR to be in the PRESENCE of the graduating class with NLD SYNDROME. It took everything that you were unable to do, struggle with, being ostracized, and punished to call out the GOP, REPUBLICANS, and the TEA PARTY.

This is not a DEFICIT. This is NLD SYNDROMES GREATEST STRENGTH. You have revealed to the WORLD who are the COWARDS, who showed WEAKNESS, who DENOUNCE POLICIES, and who OBSTRUCTED JUSTICE AND EQUALITY FOR ALL. YES, WE CAN understand and can distinguish INAPPROPRIATE INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS. It took some TIME but we have chosen to continue to LEARN and LEARN MORE. The BEHAVIORS of RUSH LIMBAUGH, GLEN BECK (A.K.A. HAROLD HILL), RUPERT MURDOCK and the FAST 5, the GREED of the BANKS, and the 1% demonstrated denouncement of PROGRESSIVENESS. They did not CARE.

At this TIME, can I have the entire class of VALEDICTORIANS please stand(everyone rises). I have been accused of being a SOCIALIST, MARXIST, and I’m definitely not the FLAVOR OF THE MONTH. I’m not a bragger but I’m PERSISTENT. I have been told NO every step of the way.I have flaws. I’m HUMAN. I’M FOR THE PEOPLE and the needs of the PEOPLE come FIRST. Today is the first day of LIFE’S NEW CHALLENGES. You were born with many NEW CHALLENGES. You were rejected many TIMES because of the CHALLENGES. You must always remember never stop trying, there will always be CHALLENGES.

To diminish the CHALLENGES you must not deny that you have been CHALLENGED. You can never stop CARING about the OPPOSITION of the CHALLENGER. You must study the COMPOSITION of the CHALLENGES placed before you. You must rise above your CHALLENGES and your CHALLENGER. Once you have address your CHALLENGES, whatever you have been CHALLENGED with or whomever you have been CHALLENGED by will lead you on a path to CARE FOR OTHERS. LIFE IS our GREATEST CHALLENGE. THIS IS HARD YARD UNIVERSITY. THE CHALLENGES IN LIFE CAN MAKE THIS YARD HARD.

CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?

Smokelbg Life Class__ Dedicated to Oprah

It has taken me a long TIME to get here. I’m so grateful and very appreciative to share my EXTENSION of QUALITY of LIFE with the world. To all the innovative masterminds that have allowed me to reach millions of people by the internet, Thank You.

I was puzzled when so many people became frustrated with Oprah because it took years for them to get on her show. Year after year has passed and I still haven’t got on her show. Did you hear me? HEll, I’m still ALIVE and it’s all GOOD. Year after Year!

Oprah has given out cars, trips, built schools, and funding to people all over the world to help their cause. Oprah is great a philanthropist. She has given hope to others and offered strategies, coping skills, and survival techniques.

She has laughed, cried, and worked all parts of her body to demonstrate the finest of NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION SKILLS her show could offer. It is quite difficult to teach emotions. Words and body language give out more information.

A lot of information is missed if a person has NLD Syndrome. Oprah turned herself inside out.  Oprah may not have realized the great gift she has given my son. Today I get the opportunity of my LIFE to share some of her TIME.

Think about it. The next TIME you pick up a TIME ADJUSTMENT SLIP at work, step outside the workforce and think how much TIME you need to give to your LIFE. Think about who you want to share that TIME with. No matter how long it takes.

Here I am sitting in the hallway at OWN Studio. Here she comes! Good Morning Oprah, thank you for seeing me today. The last TIME Nicky NLD  (Nonverbal Learning Disability)and Sparky SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder) were here they didn’t get a chance to see you. They waited a long TIME.

I was proud of them for waiting it out. Nicky NLD has a very difficult TIME sitting in a chair for an extended period due to his coordination. He much rather sits on the floor because he has a tendency to fall out of a chair.

People have called him a clumsy idiot and stupid because of his poor balance. Sparky SPD moaned and groaned about the fabric on the seats. He kept saying it was a strange odor in the hallway. At the TIME an elevator was being worked on.

The construction work was so loud.  Nicky NLD had to literally sit on Sparky SPD to keep him from going bonkers. Sparky SPD has a sensory processing disorder. We are quite familiar with Nicky NLD’s syndrome.

We just had a refresher Course In NLD on 10/17/2011. Let me bring the viewers up to date on Sensory Processing Disorder. SPD Foundation had a writing campaign to clear up some false information and hysteria about SPD. This took place back in March.

Their goal was to have 10,000 responses by March the 4th, to bring in positive responses, and the facts about SPD. At that TIME people could register their comments on Oprah’s Website and post their letters in the section listed for ZACH’s STORY.

Sensory Processing Disorder is a neurological disorder. Our brain processes input from our environment. All of our senses need to come out to the playground along with their 2 major cousins and play.

The 5 senses and 2 cousins need to integrate or act as a team. The 5 team players consist of our vision (sight), auditory (hearing), tactile (touch), olfactory (smell), and gustation (taste).

The 2 cousins vestibular (sense of balance and movement), proprioception (the sense of knowing where one’s body movement in space) must come along for the ride. Hopefully with the wires connecting the ride will be smooth.

These are all separate wiring in the brain that needs to make a connection on the merry-go-round. If the connection is not made, there will be deficits in planning, organization, everyday life skills, self-care, work and leisure activities.

The bad misfiring of wiring to the brain will cause extreme avoidance, distress, agitation, fear, and confusion in the management to carry out one’s life in their environment. Children diagnosed with SPD mental processing are normal and have normal health.

They do very well with others as long as their external environment isn’t busy or overwhelming. Children with SPD become very sensitive to outside factors and this depends on the way the environment looks, smells and sounds.

Our 5 senses and the 2 cousins need to hop on the merry-go-round so our body won’t have difficulty processing the information in our environment. This particular disorder has UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS, not caused by the parent, and is physiological.

Treatment for SPD may target life skills, social skills, and emotional behavior. There is some exceptional information on Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Visit http://www.spdfoundation.net and you are on your way.

Dr. Phil had done a show on a young man named Zach. Apparently, Zach’s behavior was so out of control he made some attempts to hurt his parents. Smokelbg wrote a story on Getting Zach On the Right Track.

This was to give Zach and his parents support along with some strategies and coping skills. Smokelbg wanted the audience to understand ZACH’s behaviors. He was viewed by the audience as a violent and dangerous person with INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS.

The perception that people have when they are not educated about any type of disorder makes the individual appear to be so dangerous to them and society. This very perception and judgment leave the individual ISOLATED and without a sense of community.

ISOLATION is the KISS of DEATH and invites a MENTAL DEATH to an individual which leaves the individual unable to RESURRECT oneself. Those who have misjudged encounters, bullying, sexual, social, emotional, and physical abuse.

RESURRECTION from this grave site may be very hard to achieve if the individual has been stripped of their self-esteem and self-confidence. The body, once it loses hope and sense of purpose, will lose self-determination and cease to exist.

This grave site has now become a permanent address. Smokelbg wrote a story called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep_NLD Mother’s Prayer when you get the TIME please go back and review this story. It is posted at http://nldrecognition.wordpress.com.

I chose 5 questions from Oprah’s LIFE CLASS that I felt it was very important to share with the WORLD.

1.) What is it really that I’m supposed to be doing with my LIFE?

a.) Teaching individuals to PAY ATTENTION, helping individuals to RECOGNIZE the importance of TIME and how important it is to RESPECT TIME by cherishing and RESPECTING THE QUALITY of their LIFE.

b.) Helping individuals understand the importance of Validation.

c.) Giving Recognition to the Unrecognized- Nonverbal Learning Disability that has been overlooked by our society for 41 years.

d.) Making people aware that NLD Syndrome’s, a neurological disorder with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIOR is mirrored through the INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS of people who can make the CHOICE.

e.) Writing stories, books, so NLD Syndrome is simplified/individuals will not find the information intimidating and will seek help.

f.) As a cancer survivor, I want to motivate individuals to LIVE BEYOND THE PINK.

2.) What is your gut telling you right now? What will you do about it?

a.) People are paying attention, I can hear it through their words, body language, and even what they wear.

b.) I am doing it right now by reaching out to people and getting the information out there.

3.) What are you grateful for?

a.) Being able to take whatever adversity in life and use it as a teaching tool.

b.) Having a masterful mentor and educator, my son, who has taught me whatever I CAN DO–DO.

c.) Breathing on a mirror, seeing my breath, my LIFE.

4.) What is the pain that you thought you would not survive and what got you through it?

a.) The greatest pain was loving someone more than I love myself. When I was diagnosed with cancer I realized at that moment I may not have enough love for myself to save MY OWN LIFE.

b.) When you look into the eyes of your children, family, friends, and see the fear that they have for YOUR LIFE, it all changes. The fight has begun. You want them to know you will do your best to fight back. There is enough love left to pull it off.

As your legs swing over the edge of the hospital bed and you wait for the test results to roll in, you can see the NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION at its PEAK. The silence in the room is unbearable. The body language will reveal all.

Whatever QUALITY of TIME that was designated I wanted to LIVE and LOVE MYSELF from this day FORWARD.

5.) If you were giving your last lecture what would be your best piece of advice for appreciation of life?

a.) I hope I have lived my LIFE in such a manner that even when I can no longer dress, feed myself, or bath myself someone will try to HELP ME near the END. Even in the last days of those final hours I will know, feel the love, respect, and appreciation for those who are there to mourn me. I would ask for a pillow and my mirror so I could prop my body up and say to everyone present in the room, ” I did not have to die alone.”

I would breathe on the mirror and know I had moved FORWARD from that MOMENT ON.

Smooth Operator

I tried to catch up with you the other day. The pace was too much for me. It felt like a marathon. My legs are so much shorter. Just when I thought I had caught up with your stride, my body hit pay dirt. You left me hanging off the rail wishing I had a bottle of Primestine Mist. One thing about it, you were dressed to impress. The navy blue suit you wore was raising hell and the lavender tie set it off. The look on your face was serious. Your arms swung out evenly from side to side. It didn’t matter how many emergencies the city had, you looked as though you were ready to put them all out. Are you wearing your Gasoline Drawers?

Every person you encountered on the streets was given a strong handshake. Your smile came bursting through. Words of hope were given to all the people who felt beaten down by the economy. Then all of a sudden you sat down on the curb in your nice suit. Do you think Eric Cantor or Paul Ryan would have given an uplifting curb service speech to the people in their high dollar cha-ching suit? Don’t answer!

Wherever you were headed it didn’t seem important anymore. You were answering questions about concerns of jobs, infrastructure, voters suppression, and the Big 3(Social Security, Medicare, and Medicaid). An old lady appeared from out of nowhere. Silence came over the crowd. You looked directly into her eyes and you reached out and held her hand. Then you said, “How can I help you?” She responded, “You have helped me.” You are learning to ask the questions. Inclusions make you a part of us.

Sitting here among the people you have included yourself. The Republicans tried to divide you from WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION. You have not let Pride override the welfare of the People. The Republicans tried to make the American people feel in taking out the dictators, it was only your victory. WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION understood it was a victory for all. You are starting to learn from your MISTAKES. Achievement comes with ACKNOWLEDGING your MISTAKES and taking RESPONSIBILITY for your MISTAKES. You have shown the American People deference.Through all the criticism you did not let your head drop below the water. The eternal flame burns deep inside of you. The Human Factor works in your favor. You have remained HUMANE.

The Presidents before you made mistakes. The PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS have taken it to a new level of mistakes. Herman Cain is the cousin of the other mother, Oscar OCD, who is always entertaining the NO NO THOUGHTS. Go back and refresh your memory. Oscar OCD was in EASTER UNDER THE UMBRELLA_FOR NLD. Oscar OCD always referred to his little cousin Herman, as Captain Nasty McNuts. Tyrone Tourettes, the cousin of Bobby Tourettes, thought it meant Herman liked McNuggets. AH NO! I don’t think so.

Strange that HERMAN grew up in the Restaurant Business. Since he made his POKEMAN SPEECH he probably needs to call PICACHO to the RESCUE. The next cartoon character he might want to be is a TRANSFORMER. Yes, Herman Cain is more than meets the eye. He is the original DECEPTICON along with the other PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. Starscream, Herman Cain, cannot be trusted. He is always trying to find a way to overthrow Megatron, Rick Perry. Sounds like this is playing in the media right about now.

Megatron, Rick Perry, is at Lowes picking up paint for his METEORITES which is all wrong. Sentinel Prime, Mitt Romney, has switched sides and his numbers still didn’t move in the polls. This is the perfect world for Mitt Romney.

He has so many characters to TRANSFORM into. If I was Herman Cain I would stay with the TRANSFORMERS. He’s going to need a hideout within himself and a new theme song. No one will ever notice the White 1999 MONTE CARLO is Herman Cain in the junkyard. The sign will read We BUY, SELL, and OWN previous DECEPTICONS by the Koch Brothers. In Training Day, Denzel Washington drove the Black MONTE CARLO. Herman Cain is NO Denzel.

Now it is TIME to develop a trusted loyal Crew so you won’t look distant or be isolated from your base. Steve Israel, Head of the Democratic Congressional Committee can whip the Democrats into shape. Lean to the side of the strong Democrats who use the media. In Smokelbg Tweets she gives her thumbs up to Bernie Sanders, Debbie Wasserman Schultz.

We can’t leave out Barney Franks and Chuck Schumer, the Progressive/Liberal Democrats. You got the Ohio Players, not the singing group, the Democrats in Ohio. Sherrod Brown and Marcy Kaptur would be excellent team players.

The DEMOCRATS need to speak out and be compassionate about their leader. You have come a very long way. We can see your growth. Your message has gotten stronger. Son, I ain’t stopped BELIEVING in you. So you better not stop BELIEVING. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. BELIEVE IN YOUR PURPOSE. BELIEVE IN YOUR VISION. BELIEVE you are a SMOOTH OPERATOR.

Another voice shouts out from the crowd. SMOOTH OPERATOR, the REPUBLICANS are totally thrown off course. Their hatred is letting people around our nation and other nations know they have RESPECT only for the BENJAMIN’S BABY. All this business about your job ratings in the polls is at 40% is a bunch of sardines. Just think if we had Muammar Gaddafi for 42 years. Instead, we have Charles and David Koch causing havoc. We need to occupy their headquarters.

Who cares about those numbers? What polls are they reporting from? It sounds like Fox News statistics. Their math is way off the charts. They never do their research. We all know Bill O’Reilly is never WRONG. I do like Greta Van Susteren, Sheppard Smith, Geraldo Rivera, and Chris Wallace. Geraldo Rivera barbecues BILL O’Reilly’s butt. Geraldo is the chef of Burnt Ends. Watch out, Bobby Flay!

Chris Wallace broke down and told John Stewart that Fox News is Conservative. John Stewart of the DAILY SHOW keeps his Gasoline Drawers on and uses his flamethrower to set Fox News on fire. Fox News thinks this is the story of ROOTS 999. They made a lot of people have a “What The Hah Hell” moment. I guess Herman Cain is their Black. “What the Hah Hell” do they mean by your black/my black. Let’s send a friendly reminder to FOX NEWS letting them know that Slave Days Are Over.

Do they really have a Candidate? A young lady’s voice in the crowd rang out. With everything the Republicans have done to you, I would have blown a gasket. SMOOTH OPERATOR smiles and replies, “I need YOUR support.” War within Wars is no good. I am here for the People. The losses have made me gain great knowledge and great strength. I have Learned and Transformed. The past is just that, the past. The Moment is Now. We will continue to Press On. I will not be discouraged by Congress, the Republicans, and the TEA PARTY. The REPUBLICANS reading this will say I did not answer the question. We have to stop BLAMING. We need to Start MAINTAINING our government.

There are TIMES when we take Action, the Words are fulfilled. There are TIMES when we take Words and we may Fail to carry out the Action. Remember the word has been “NO.” Remember the Action was not carried out. Remember to do the Math. Remember that only 4 Democrats voted against the AMERICAN JOB ACT. The young lady asked, Who were the 4 Democrats? An elder man steps up and starts calling out names. It was them old tired Conservative Blue Dog Democrats. Roll Call Sister!

It was Senator Ben Nelson of Nebraska, Senator Joe Lieberman of Connecticut, Senator John Tester of Montana, and Senator Mark Pryor of Arkansas. I tell you what Sister, I can Remember 4 names. Baby Girl, all 49 REPUBLICANS voted against the bill. Now it is gonna be hard Remembering all 49 Knucklehead REPUBLICANS. Just Remember the Herman Cain Theory, 4+5=9 and you take out the (+5=) and you got 49. Maybe he will get 49 years for the 4 women he sexually harassed.

Why did it take 4 women and not just 1 of these charges to be acknowledged and taken seriously? Is it possible that a SUPREME COURT JUSTICE may have slipped through the cracks? Is it okay to label the poor and middle-class behavior? Why are we not acknowledging the behaviors of the rich and high-profile government officials? Go back and review GOT NO TIME TO BE DISABLED in the March Archives. You will find an answer.

A young boy around the age of 6 breaks through the crowd. His presence breaks the tension. “Are you who I think you are?” Somebody said you are the President of the United States. I told them No Way! You are the man with the plan. The man who understands. The man with the whole world in the palm of his hands. You are a SMOOTH OPERATOR. He jumps into PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA’s lap and gives him a big hug. He lifts the young boy into the air. “I will keep my Promise.”

ADVISORY ALERT: It is hard for people diagnosed with NLD Syndrome and other exceptionalities to come off as SMOOTH OPERATORS. Some may lack the social communication skills, inability to read social cues, and interpreting body language. Others may have trouble with personal hygiene, and cocktail party speech. They have difficulty interpreting facial expression. It is hard for them to initiate a conversation or end a conversation. Their social judgment is poor. NLDers are not sure where his or her space is and cannot judge the distance(space invaders). This is due to visual-spatial organization. They are labeled by others as annoying, ill-mannered, rude, discourteous, and smart “aleck.”

People diagnosed with NLD Syndrome cannot detect hidden meanings of language and social interactions aren’t detected There will be many outbursts, social blunders, misinterpretations, and misjudgments. NLDers end up being the victims and are victimized because they are naively trusting. They DO NOT understand a person that is deceitful, cunning, or who manipulates others. They have faulty spatial perception only getting half of the picture.

Their behaviors are misinterpreted by our society as being INTENTIONAL. Their neurological and neuro-behavior right hemisphere disorder is UNINTENTIONAL. Sexual Harassment is a term that is very vaguely defined. It happens a lot in the workplace. It entails social situations, the making of unwanted sexual advances, and obscene remarks. How would it be possible to charge a person with NLD SYNDROME with sexual harassment if they have these characteristics and traits? People with NLD SYNDROME will not have a clue to what sexual harassment or any other type of harassment is due to the nature of their neurological disorder and their UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS.

My advice to all parents is finding a neuro-psychologist or psychiatrist that has had years of knowledge, training, and experience in the field of Nonverbal Learning Disability. It is very essential that you have your child tested early. This diagnosis has been overlooked for 41 years and has not been placed on the DSM4. This is a great disservice to millions of people who are looking for answers for their children/adults. When AUTISM, ASPERGER, ADD, ADHD, PDD-NOS, OCD, TOURETTES SYNDROME, ANXIETY DISORDER, TIC DISORDER, just doesn’t add up, PLEASE turn YOUR ATTENTION to NLD SYNDROME

How many TIMES have people with NLD SYNDROME diagnosed/undiagnosed been falsely accused, misjudged, socially isolated, and punished repeatedly because society has failed to be educated about this neurological disorder?
How many people are locked away in institutions, given a counterproductive treatment plan, or heavily medicated because they have gone undiagnosed, the diagnosis is ignored/is hidden or the diagnoses were not understood?

How many people with this diagnosis have been falsely accused of a crime they didn’t commit or understand it was a crime due to the nature of their disability and their UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS? How many people with this diagnosis have been incarcerated? How many lives have been lost and our society will continue to lose due to the secondary diagnosis of anxiety, stress, depression, and panic attack? Think about it. I hope this will help millions of people.

How can our society continue to violate the HUMAN and CIVIL RIGHTS of people with this diagnosis? This is in the DEFENSE for NLD SYNDROME. NLD Mom/cancer survivor

Refreshers Course In NLD

There are many viewers who are coming to this blog for the first TIME. Here we are 10 months later and unless you started from the January Archives you probably don’t have a clue about NLD Syndrome. I could tell you to go back and read the stories in the January Archives. It’s really Time for a refresher course on NLD. NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disability) is a developmental disability that affects the right-hemisphere of the brain. NLDers process information differently because they miss a lot of information. This contributes to misinterpretation of the world around them. Without the whole piece of the puzzle, it causes them to act out inappropriately or unexpectedly.

If you can’t understand the tone of a person’s voice, give eye contact, or read the person’s body language there are going to be several misunderstandings. This is a neuro-behavioral disorder and the person with NLD has UNINTENTIONAL behaviors. They are NOT EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED.

This neurological disorder goes UNRECOGNIZED and unattended by professionals, teachers, parents, and society. Individuals who are diagnosed with NLD Syndrome demonstrate a mature vocabulary/very language proficient, rote memory skills (mechanical, habitual, repetition), and an excellent reading ability. People with this disorder can have difficulty interacting with others, transitioning to new settings, adapting to changes, working with new people, and trouble with writing/fine motor coordination. Although reading skills are exemplary, abstract concepts need to be explained in detail. Individuals with NLD Syndrome have difficulty understanding metaphors (a figure of speech), emotional nuances (may not be able to understand the expression on a persons face, the sound of their voice, or body language), multiple levels of meanings, relationship issues. My advice to you if you are talking with a person with NLD Syndrome, give a simple description, explicit explanations, and be very patient.

The three areas that encompass or surround NLD Syndrome is Motoric, Visual-Spatial/visual perceptual, and Social. Let’s start with Motoric. This deals with dexterity: the task of manipulating small objects, writing, typing, buttoning buttons. Riding a bike is grueling. Tying shoes may take years. It is hard for them to catch their balance, secure their equilibrium or bounce back with their balance. NLDers really work hard to master athletic skills. Sitting and eating on the floor is preferable.

I hope you’ve got other silverware because NLDers may resist eating with a fork or spoon. They are not interrogating you. NLDers full-fledged learning mode is when they are asking questions. They have problems on the left side of their body. Psycho-motor skills involve the thinking through the process of physical movements such as coordination, speed, manipulation of the object, agility, dexterity, strength, and grace. Bottom line, if you are still holding the ball, you are thinking about it for an extended period of TIME, or trying to figure out “What The Hah Hell” to do with the ball, you have poor psychomotor coordination.

You are not going to be on DANCING WITH THE STARS. You are no MARIO ANDRETTI, and there will be NO KAREEM ABDUL JABAAR SKYHOOK. The key is it comes easy or more automatic and you have not spent so much time processing out every little detail. Are you still sitting in the parking lot? Are you trying to figure out why you keep getting so many driving violations? Driving is major coordination. NLDers can succeed in these tasks but it may take a very long TIME and please be PATIENT.

In the area of visual-perception/visual-spatial, people with NLD have difficulty understanding and reading maps, charts, graphs, left, right, drawing complex figures, and understanding higher math such as geometry. Thank God for GPS, color by number, etch of a   sketch, and all the wonderful apps that are put on the magnificent IPAD for learning. STEVE JOBS and his wonderful team revolutionized the world. NLDers talk their way through a situation. They are auditory-verbal learners and they need to hear what is being processed. A blue-tooth solves this problem of everyone staring when NLDers are processing out loud. From bumping into people, struggling with concept formation, and not getting the whole picture, they have the market cornered.

Social miscueing causes problems interpreting body language, and facial expression. People with NLD have problems in this area. Sometimes they stand too close (space invaders), or too far away when engaging in a conversation. It is hard for them to understand how to start a conversation or for them to end the conversation. If you can get them to deal with the situation in a practical, sensible, and realistic manner versus philosophical or theoretical manner you are batting a thousand (pragmatic skills). They have outbursts, are labeled annoying, or want to get all the attention. NLDers just won’t let go, they hold on, have many social blunders, are abrupt/have knife cutting responses, and they have difficulty thinking creatively or abstractly. They have problems with identifying faces or reading the person’s face, interpreting gestures/deciphering body posture, An NLDer doesn’t change their speech, have a monotone voice, and constantly misjudge or misinterpret what is being put before them or said to them.

NLDers have attentional deficits causing difficulty in coping with over-stimulating or distracting environments and requiring them to have limited distractions and assistance in focusing themselves. They have difficulty in performing multiple tasks simultaneously causing them to need to do one thing at a TIME and LIMIT the amount of information they can take in at the same TIME(They CANNOT follow multiple commands given at once). Organizational skills are a huge problem area with NLDers. They have a very hard TIME organizing material on their own. Assistance is needed in the area of writing outlines, sequencing/order, planning, prioritizing, transitioning from one idea or aspect of a project/problem to another. Does this remind you of anyone? Feel free to go back and review the January Archives.

DEDICATED: Everyone across America, take a closer look at this diagnosis. I wonder why the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION(APA), with 38,000 psychiatrists under their UMBRELLA failed to put NLD SYNDROME on the map after 41 years?

Why did the APA see fit to enlist diagnoses, such as sex addiction or internet addiction or other impertinent diagnoses that let people ESCAPE from being held ACCOUNTABLE for their INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS?

Dr. PHIL, DR. DREW, DR. OZ, DEEPAK CHOPRA and many other specialists in the field of medicine and psychiatry would probably agree with me. Too many people are severely hurt and have died from not being properly diagnosed or overlooked altogether.

Should the APA be held accountable for leaving Nonverbal Learning Disability(NLD), a neurological disorder with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS off of their diagnostic manual? They are well aware that people who are diagnosed with this disorder can suffer from severe depression. Why did the APA stop testing? Why has there not been more information distributed on NLD Syndrome? Has the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION been corrupted by money and politics to protect their funding?

Is the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION trying to close the GAP on INTENTIONAL versus UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS? Or would it be our GOVERNMENT? Our government has been very dysfunctional. Take a look at the contenders for PRESIDENCY. Look even closer at the GOP, REPUBLICANS, TEA PARTY, BLUE DOG DEMOCRATS and some members of the CONGRESSIONAL BLACK CAUCAS. We can tell from watching the debates the front-runners have serious problems. The weakest links will once again be controlled by the 1%. Who’s brain will be used if one of the contenders is chosen for President? Our JUSTICE SYSTEM has been very UNJUST. Our Supreme Court System is totally out of BOUNDS and off the Court. Our Constitution needs to be revamped.

Think about it AMERICA! Something is seriously wrong. Who should be held ACCOUNTABLE? Who is covering up?

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep__An NLD Mother’s Prayer

It appears that certain government officials didn’t like the language of President Barack Obama’s Speech. I did not come here to defend the President because this is a man who can PRESS ON.

MAXINE WATERS, you may like your HIGH HEELS, you may not like wearing SLIPPERS. You say you work, you march, but you are sending a mixed message to the people. There are many ways which each individual can convey their message.

It appears you have a problem with understanding what others are trying to convey or even say. Are YOU listening? Do YOU have your own AGENDA?

Being candid can give people the impression in which your straightforwardness reflects no COMPASSION, EMPATHY, or SUPPORT. My son speaks candidly. He was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome at the age of 4 years 10 months. Now that he is older he has a very strong voice and tone. He is more like Chris Christie only a DEMOCRAT. Chris Christie has a very strong tone and so far there is no recanting of what he may say. I asked my son what is it about MAXINE WATERS that is disturbing about her political stance. He said, “If you go to the CREW you will find 15 MOST CORRUPT MEMBERS of CONGRESS on this LIST”. Yes, she is on the list and she has her own agenda. He also stated she was listed for the year 2006, 2007, and 2009. The future of government lies in the hands of our younger adults. How can we trust the platform of government officials if our elder’s behaviors are so poorly?

The behavior of Elected officials in government doesn’t match the words that come from their mouths. Maxine Waters has continued to insert her foot in her mouth and videotaped her A… Yet rudeness has been placed upon the backs of those with NLD Syndrome. People diagnosed with NLD Syndrome bear the scars and wear the banners of curtness, inappropriate/unexpected behavior, behavior problems, angry/explosive and implosive behavior. Our society accused those with NLD Syndrome with acting out intentionally. Yet this behavior has been relentlessly displayed by Maxine Waters and many other government officials. You are in for a rude awakening if you know someone diagnosed with NLD Syndrome.They will wax your A… and continue to buff.

Sugar coating will never happen. Loyalty is a strong trait that NLDers carry which political officials need to borrow. Maxine Waters’ sense of loyalty will reveal itself on the evening news by once again recanting her statements. Showing her loyalty lies with her own personal agenda of having a political position in the year 2012. We are tired of our Government officials throwing each other under the bus. The behavior of our government is deplorable.

My son’s political stance is not to go golfing with John Boehner and feel comfortable with Mitch McConnell. We all know where he stands. Eric Canter blocks all and keeps everything to himself. Jim Demint’s followers, the Tea Party, are out of control. The Republicans and the Tea Party recant their statements all the TIME. As a race of people, we need to support the INTELLIGENCE OF THE MIND and those decisions which will affect the lives of not just one RACE of people but for ALL the people.

Our young adults are taking a closer look at the political figures. Herman Caine announced he was a real black man. If you have to do a public service announcement on your manhood you fall short in a lot of areas. Herman Cain, Alan West, Jessie Lee Peterson, Lloyd Marcus, Star Parker and many others who are attached at the right hip of the Right Wing Extremists will get a friendly reminder from their GRAND MOO FA.

Rush Limbaugh, Grand MOO FA, his second in command Glenn Beck, and all of FOX NEWS will make a public service announcement to Herman Caine and his BLACK JACK GANG. It will be brief. The Grand Moo FA doesn’t think that African Americans are INTELLIGENT. Herman Caine shares those same beliefs and thinks we have been brainwashed into becoming DEMOCRATS. “You People” have confused the younger African Americans and we have accomplished our goal, stated the GRAND MOO FA. On the Tyra Banks show, we saw African Americans wanting to be white. Younger adults wanting to belong to the KKK. Hell, even in grade school, smaller children are beginning to think dark skin is ugly and natural hair is nappy.

When smaller children are asked to pick out who is the smarter child, they picked out the one who is white. You guys have been just great in screwing up your race. You have served your Purpose and your services are no longer needed. “Herman Caine while you were out trying to discover your identity and put your BLACKNESS under the Microscope, I Rush Limbaugh, the Grand Moo FA, discovered something better.” You are not FREE to go. We Own you. What a Sell-Out. Price of Success.

The Congressional BLACK CAUCUS and the BLUE DOG DEMOCRATS need to understand it is not just about the POLITICS of our government. This is about the lives of the PEOPLE and what is best for the PEOPLE.

Our children’s lives should pave the way for a brighter future. Our children’s lives are at great risk and they are no longer living out the full term of their life. A parent’s worst nightmare is to see their child in a coffin surrounded by other young adults. This is a permanent TIME OUT and Recess is over. Even if our children grow up it is hard to see them incarcerated, on death row, and murdered by a senseless death. Before my children were put to bed at night they would get on their knees and pray.

Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the Lord My soul shall keep. If I should die before I wake. I pray the Lord my soul shall take. This prayer has been modified for today’s children and young adults. Before I lay my head to rest. I pray to God I have done my best. When death comes to my soul, I pray to God my children grow old. AMEN! It is TIME TO PRESS ON. It is TIME for TIME_EXTENSION OF LIFE.

DEDICATED: To the future of our children. IN loving MEMORY of STEVE JOBS whose EXIT is NOW A PERMANENT ENTRANCE. You take a closer look at people and everything that surrounds your life. For the first TIME, the field of one’s life extends across the way. It is not dying from what you have but living with the TRUTH of what you have. The TRUTH of having your hands on DEATHS DOORWAY changes everything about you. Steve Jobs, myself, and many others who wear those shoes know what is TRULY IMPORTANT. The TRUTH is a powerful key and it will UNLOCK many doors. DISEASE AND DEATH is the LATCH that can be OPEN with the key of TRUTH. ACCEPTANCE of the TRUTH gives an extension to live. DENIAL of the TRUTH shortens the desire to fight the LATCH of DISEASE and DEATH when you finally come to grips with the TRUTH.

NLD Mom/cancer survivor

A Bite Of The Apple__A Tribute to Steve Jobs

Scene: This conversation takes place at Steve Jobs’ underground compound in the middle of who in the hell knows where. We are talking about Steve Jobs, Okay. Smokelbg has decided to pay Steve a visit and have a heart to heart chat.

Smokelbg:

Hey, where you at? Steve, Steve is you here? Hey man, you better show up real fast. Some of your neighbors are looking at me really crazy. I can’t believe this. Steve wears this outfit all the time. I wonder why I’m having so much trouble wearing these blue jeans and black tee-shirt? I don’t have no ski mask on. What is this, the neighborhood watch? Okay, I see how this works. Don’t make me show your neighbors who’re the real Mac Genius. Why you laughing Steve?

Steve:

Smokelbg, you are hilarious. I’m so glad you could drop by. It’s good seeing you. It has been a long TIME.

Smokelbg:

More like Delirious and you don’t hear me singing Prince’s song. Come on now, I didn’t just drop by. I had to catch 2 planes, sail across the Mojave Desert, take a boat through Vienna, sing Oleta Adam’s Song-Get Here If You Can, and stung gun your neighbor’s dog. Where did Cujo come from? Was he trained to take a bite out of crime? Hey, Prince designed his butt-out pants. I did not need any help from Cujo. Okay!

Steve:

What?! Is Fefe okay? He is harmless. He just wanted to play. I can’t believe you used a taser gun on Tim’s dog.

Smokelbg:

Did you say Tim’s dog? Please tell me I didn’t taser Timothy D. Cook’s dog. Damn it!

Fefe is the canine dog from hell. You should be asking is Smokelbg okay. Do I look like IAMS or Purina One Dog Chow to you? Where is this place anyway? Anytime Air Force One drops you off in the middle of the desert, you got to be hiding some secrets. I get along with dogs on a regular day but Fefe and I aren’t making any love connections. Can I use your bathroom? Ahhh! Steve, there is a robot up here in your bathroom trying to tell me how many square feet are in toilet paper. Steve get up here I push a button and I’m not sure if I Googled my butt across the nation. I just need some peroxide for my butt and I need to flush the toilet. Steveeee!

Steve:

Are you finding everything you need Smokelbg? There are some special treats behind the mirror glass shaped like an APPLE. This would make any woman’s head spin.

Smokelbg:

I don’t want my head to spin. I need some toilet tissue to keep me from having issues with Roberta the Robot who will not let me wipe my Ahh….! Steve get up here NOW!

Steve:

Oh, Dear, I meant to tell you if you put your hands in a certain position the robot will defend herself and put you in a headlock. Smokelbg, Tim designed the robot. It was a birthday gift for my daughter.

Smokelbg:

I should have known. Who is going to believe that my torn A… graduated with a whiplashed neck. Only at Steve’s Jobs compound. Do you have a pair of pants I can borrow and a soft pillow I can sit on?

Steve:

The pants may not fit. I mean they may be too long.

Smokelbg:

Just cut them in half… I need something to cover my butt.

Steve:

Hold tight, I got something that will make you feel really comfortable. There you go. I know how you like soft fabrics and this robe is just perfect. Smokelbg, I’m not cutting my pants.

Smokelbg:

Fair enough but I could have done without the APPLES on the robe. This robe feels like a giant cotton ball. Steve, it is TIME for us to take A BITE OF THE APPLE. Would you like to go first?

Steve:

Since you’ve come so far I want you to tell me what is on your mind.

Smokelbg:

I remember when I first told you about my son’s extraordinary mind, unique abilities, and multi-intelligence learning style. You looked directly in my face and said, Thank God he isn’t disabled. At least his head is still attached to his neck. I never liked labels that hinder people from achievement. At that point, I wanted to cry. You sat there and you listened to me go on and on about Nonverbal Learning Disability. You asked me to take a trip out to one of the APPLE STORES. I did and it was an amazing adventure. When I stepped out of the car and entered the store it begins to pull me and my son right into all the applications that could be purchased along with all the different products. My son and I were both dressed in our black tee shirts and blue jeans. We had struggled with the schools for years and it was TIME to move on and find the latest technology of teaching tools for home. Every person in the store regardless of race, age, and the geographical location was fascinated with the products. They were all interested in learning. We felt at home. Every school across the nation should feel this way for all children to hold their interest in learning. This store’s atmosphere was non-threatening, created a conducive environment and every customer in the store was paying attention. Steve, from the TIME I walked into the APPLE STORE there were people conversing, exchanging email addresses, and their cell phone numbers. My son began to really shine and start asking for numbers too. He didn’t get this opportunity at school. I thought he would become overwhelmed because the store was so crowded. He jumped right on it. He was so excited and he began to open up for the first time.

My son didn’t have to feel the hurt and pain of having manifestation hearings, getting suspended, or ever having to worry about another due process hearing. Most parents feel children who are labeled “disabled” will become budget cuts in the educational system. Why would you want to fix a child that was already broken? Why should a school system RECOGNIZE or make accommodations for a diagnosis that has not been validated by the AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION? This store gave us a new way of looking at educating your child. It gave us hope outside of the educational system regardless what the educational system would or wouldn’t offer.

Why should a child go to school for twelve years of his life and find it hard to develop friends? It shouldn’t come down to TEST SCORES or the educational system FUNDING. Teachers shouldn’t be pressured to the point they LIE and CHEAT to bring children TEST SCORES up for ACCREDITATION. It should be about the child’s education because they are the ones who suffer the most. I kept trying to convince myself that I was in a store. This was more than just a store. Once again through your vision and innovation, something magical was going on inside the APPLE STORE that made people not want to leave and learn more. It felt safe, people’s’ questions were being answered, there was so much support, and the employees cared.

I was so glad when you met with PRESIDENT OBAMA, ERIC SMITH one of the founders of GOOGLE and MARK ZUCKERBERG, founder and CEO of FACEBOOK. All I could think of was, “If anyone could get the educational system on track it would be you guys.” Alternative methods of teaching children are on the rise. Steve, parents need to understand if they can’t find support in their own schools and districts then they need to find another way. APPLE STORE has created a learning environment. The educational system needed to take notes BIG TIME.

I found one of your sayings you had written on June 12, 2005, and it is your TIME to take a BITE OF THE APPLE. Do you remember Steve?

Steve:

I may not remember offhand but I can pull it up on my computer. Let me see. Hear it is.

Smokelbg:

Okay, you read it.

Steve:

You want me to read it.

Smokelbg:

Yes Steve, if you want to sing it you can. Just do it. This is your BITE OF THE APPLE.

Steve:

Here it goes. I look in the mirror and ask myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “NO” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Because of almost everything all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things fell away in the face of death leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

Smokelbg:

This is how I responded to your message on FaceBook. Hi, this Smokelbg. I have always been puzzled by those who are GONE but not FORGOTTEN. These are the ones that never die and live in our hearts forever. The impact they make in our lives leaves such a great impression. You see them so clearly. You remember the smell of their cologne, the sound of their laughter, and their wonderful words of wisdom. We walk around every day of our lives and we can’t remember the person’s name, what they wore that day, or where they work. Who is alive and who has passed on? There are many who are no longer with us. There are those who are expected to EXIT who will always have a PERMANENT ENTRANCE.

Steve, you have inspired me to be a follower of my heart. When Tim’s dog tore into my APPLE BOTTOM JEANS I looked back and saw that I too was butt-naked. It would be a shame if I survived cancer and not Tim’s dog. I just want the world to understand NLD Syndrome and hopefully, parents will understand there is another diagnosis out there they may need to check out. Everybody is not ASPERGER, AUTISM, or PDD-NOS. Good Grief! I want those parents out there asking questions, getting an early start on getting their child diagnosed, and not to be afraid. I don’t want to read any more ho-hum stories about NLD SYNDROME. I’m tired of the gloomy picture that is painted of people who have been diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME. These children/adults have to live with NLD SYNDROME and should not have to suffer the consequences of it. I want those doctors up, running, and developing strategies and coping skills and doing consistent testing for NLDERS. Sure DEATH is IMMINENT but to arrive at one’s destination at a much early TIME without any knowledge of knowing what you are up against is one hell of a trap.The KNOWLEDGE of KNOWING will help with INTERVENTIONS even if there is NO CURE it will give you HOPE.

DEDICATED: To STEVES JOBS of APPLE, who has given the EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM HOPE and has given the WORLD EVERYTHING OF HIMSELF. NLD Mom/cancer survivor

Let Fathers Be Fathers

This experience is frightening for me. Our son has to go through a diagnostic evaluation to see if he has a learning disability. He was fine until he reached middle school then his grades begin to drop. The more things he had to do on his own he just didn’t seem to be able to get organized for his school work. I thought it was because his grandmother passed away. Quincy and his grandmother were so close. She practically raised him from a baby. His mother, Catherine, worked two jobs and her mother offered to help us out. JoAnn, Catherine’s mother, was a diabetic. I always felt my wife should quit one of her jobs so we could spend more time with Quincy. I didn’t mind making the sacrifice to work the extra hours. I wanted at least one parent to be with Quincy so he wouldn’t feel he was so alone. She was forced to quit one of the jobs after her mother died. I don’t know if she resented coming home.

I worked for the railroad. It was a fairly decent pay when I put in the extra long hours. Milton, a long time co-worker, and my best friend had a son diagnosed with autism. He shared many stories about his son. Milton’s stories frightened me because they always seemed to be so closely connected to my life. It appeared that Milton and his ex-wife had problems regarding their son being autistic. Later I learn Milton’s ex-wife had trouble with any women coming around her son or dating Milton.

Milton had gained full custody of his son. He was very proactive in his son’s life. Milton had started an autism support group. He had invited me several times. It always made me feel as if Milton was so many steps ahead of me. He continued to ask me to come and participate in the Autism group. Some parts of me wanted to attend but the other half of me was afraid. For some reason, I could see part of my life being like Milton. It felt like the movie Face Off.

Catherine and I had trouble in our marriage. She blamed herself for not being there when her mother passed away. We had problems before her mother ever came to stay. Her mother’s presence helped relieve a great amount of stress in our household.

JoAnn was so patient and kind with Quincy. She was Quincy’s rock. Catherine and I were so tired after working so many hours. It left us no room to deal with Quincy’s problems. It didn’t allow him the ability to process when he became angry and frustrated. JoAnn would always tell Catherine, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It. Let the boy’s father deal with his behavior. Catherine was quick-tempered and lacked patience. It would make Quincy’s behavior become very explosive.

More and more Quincy’s behavior started changing and he begins to sleep a lot. I became greatly concerned because I thought Quincy was slipping into a state of depression. Catherine said Quincy just wanted attention and he was just lazy and she didn’t have the time to be bothered with his foolishness. Where did that response come from? When I ask her about her statement, she glared at me with her lip twisted and stormed out of the room. I guess that was my answer. We had begun to argue more frequently.

I was all for the evaluation but Catherine would get upset every time I would try to talk about it. We were getting closer to our evaluation date. Catherine had almost totally shut down. The moments of silence were killing me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Every time I would try to discuss how we could help Quincy she would bring up her father and how he would deal with the situation. Catherine was very close to her father. At the age of 17, her father died on his way to work of a stroke. She always compared me to her dad. At first, I didn’t mind. I kind of thought it was an honor until I talked to JoAnn. Before Catherine’s mother died we had this conversation about JoAnn’s husband. He wasn’t the man my wife made him out to be.

In the heat of the moment, I tried to get Catherine to talk. When she mentioned her dad my head spun around like I was the star in the Exorcist. The next thing I knew I had revealed what Catherine’s mother had told me about her dad. At that moment I realized from the look on my wife’s face she never knew. My heart-felt as if it was going to come through my chest. I would never say or do anything to hurt Catherine. It was all over. Catherine ran into the bedroom and started grabbing her clothes out of the closet. I was trying to prevent her from leaving and I don’t remember what happened after that. I have tried to relive that moment in the bedroom a thousand times. The only thing I do remember is I was trying to guard my face. When I looked down, my shirt was bloody. From the mirror in the bedroom, I could see scratches all over my body. I called Milton to see if he could pick Quincy up from school. He never asked for an explanation.

Everything was going through my mind. Did she call the police? When were the police going to arrive? Whatever happened in that bedroom, Catherine never came back. The police never showed up. Who said that men don’t cry. I cried for days and days. I love my wife but we always seem to communicate with other people. That did not help our marriage at all. Months had passed and finally, I got a call from one of Catherine’s longtime friends from New York. Beverly told me Catherine was granting me full custody of Quincy. Before I could ask about Catherine, I was listening to the dial-tone. Just when I thought I had pulled myself together the crying came back. Here was my son asking all these questions and I had no answers. Quincy and I had to move on.

Quincy did get evaluated and he was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome. I have full custody of Quincy now. He often asks me if he was the cause of his mother leaving. He wonders will she ever come back. I wonder the same. Catherine and I never really communicated what was on our minds and in our hearts. We were both too young to have children. I am seeking professional help. There is so much I need to work through. I don’t want to be an angry parent. This isn’t just about my life. I need to be sure I don’t damage Quincy’s life. He has a lot to deal with. I will be right there for him. I have a lot to learn about NLD Syndrome. Milton is helping me to set up a support group and build a website. Yes, I am afraid that I will keep my promise to Quincy’s grandmother. Let Fathers be Fathers and continue to advocate for their children’s needs. Let Fathers be Fathers and understand the social and emotional part of their children’s life. Let Fathers Be Fathers and show the love, support, and embrace their child’s weakness just as they would rally around their strengths. JoAnn is probably looking down on me and Quincy today. As JoAnn would say, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It.

DEDICATION: This story is dedicated to a young man who had to deal with it. He has done an exceptional job and is very supportive of his family and children. He would make any mother proud of how he is handling his life and the lives of family and friends he has touched. This one is for you, Willie Watson.